I don't (and didn't) feel like going into much detail about it, but my girlfriend left me about a month ago.Just trust me when I say it wasn't for any reason. She told me so herself. But regardless, she left me for another guy.They met and became friends while we were dating. (He has a history of being a little extra close to committed girls)Regardless, she slept with him one day after she got with him. That was in EARLY December, and I'm pretty much over that. And although I still get the random twang of "I really miss her," I understand that what I miss is something that was before all this happened, and she isn't that person I thought she was, so it's useless to think she is the person I cared for. Or, in easier terms, after the outcome of my near perfect relationship, I have managed to move on past the feelings.Well (as my friends have made a point to tell me, with oh-so-little sensitivity), during the Christmas break, she paid for him to stay with her in Chicago, and her family (we had plans for her to see my family over the break, since I already met hers when I visited during Thanksgiving, 3 weeks earlier...). Then I find out that, after being together only a month, they're already signing for an apartment together. Now my friend is this guy's roommate. I went over to his place to watch a movie (he thought the roommate was out). And behold, we walk in on them. Needless to say, that didn't help ease my troubled mind.Well, I would venture to say I was nearly 70% over everything before today: now I'm just all jumbled in my thoughts.Basically I'm over her, and her being with someone isn't what bothers me. What bothers me is that it happened, and that I have the "I'm an idiot for trusting her" feeling. I'm absolutely positive that they weren't "extra" good friends while she was still with me. I'm Sure she had the courtesy to ditch me first, but regardless, it's kinda a step below cheating like a straight below a full house I think.Anyway, I feel like I need some real closure, but I can only see that happening in one impossible scenario:"I really wish we could still be friends, Scott""Hmm...You can screw off for all I'm concerned, you ungrateful bitch."That would pretty much do it. I just want the last word. But that won't happen, so any other ideas? This was more of a rant than a request for advice, but I do like input.Anyway, thanks anyway.
Slow to adjust?
lately july I think it was my ex dumped me for the same reason :(. One of my friends was a friend of her and they had been chatting about guys they like, turns out Alicia (my ex) had liked another guys and started being friends with him a few weeks before we broke up. After we broke up I asked if it would work again and she just stringed me a long :| I realized later and it turned to fighting 2 months later she wouldnt talk to me again, expect for the odd hate mail/comment. I just used something similar to... Quote:"Hmm...You can screw off for all I'm concerned, you ungrateful bitch."I forgot the point to my post :| but there was one...
With Life, there is a 100% chance of Death
I'm no good with relationships if you measure greatness by experience, but it seems this girl is moving awfully fast with this new guy she just met. Was she this quick with you?Why did she break up with you? Just for the other guy?You're right. She's not the girl you used to know. How long did you guys go out for?It looks like you feel somewhat as if you've been cheated on. Do you know why she broke up with you? If the only reason why she broke up with you is that so she could be with the other guy, maybe what you need isn't closure, but a real reason why the two of you shouldn't be together.
We do what we do in life because the world tells us it's right. But what's there to tell the world whether or not what -it's- doing is right?
I don't mean to be cruel, but...From what is posted here it sounds like you might be the big winner in this but just don't realize it yet.
I don't think it's cruel. It's accurate and to the point.At the OPWhether she was screwing the other guy or not, this chick was cheating. Do your best to move past it, which you will. When your missing her, keep in mind that what your missing is not what she was.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
When your missing her, keep in mind that what your missing is not what she was.
What a great insight!
It may be tough to adjust, but what you miss, is the death of the dream. We all get into relationships hoping this is the one, and when it dies, so does the dreams you had. I don't know that you need the last word, success is the best revenge.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Theodor Seuss Geisel
Not to shoot anyone down :smile: But I realized all of this a while back. Especially the "I'm the winner" one.
I wrote this the day I walked in on them a second time on accident, so it hit me a little more than I expected. (Understandably so)
Pretty much, I just miss some companionship. You can't beat a giant hug for no reason. Regardless, I'm still trying to hop back on the horse and get back in the game.
I really don't want a relationship right now anyway, so it all works out in the end.
First Off. Your ex is a bitch to do that to you.I completely, COMPLETELY understand how you feel.. because I went through that.. The best advice I can give you is to get out there.. meet somebody. Someone who gets you thinking, someone who makes you happy.. someone you can't get off your mind.Because when you are hurting so bad.. there is LITTLE that can make it feel better. The only thing that made me feel better when I was in this situation was meeting someone new.. someone amazing who completely made me forget about my ex.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.