i'm so confused... im 16 and i had sex for the first time about 4 months ago, and that was my only time. both me and him were virgins. And when he went in for the first time, it looked like he was kinda having trouble, and it wasnt very comfortable, or good in anyway -_-. in fact it pretty much sucked. lol. But i dont know if he popped my cherry or not, i dont even think he got it in like 2 inches... I do use tampons everyonce in a while,or those large enough to pop it or no?? please help, i just quit kinda doing stuff with my boyfriends since then, because i think there might be something wrong with me, and i dont wnat to embaress myself. =\ :confused:
Is my cherry popped?
yes- tampons can tare your hymen, but so can biking, being in gymnastics, masterbating, ect.
But, as soon as you have sexual intercourse, you are no longer a virgin
so, yes, your tampons may have already torn your hymen, but you may still be a virgin if he never got inside of you.
this website should help explain more:
i may be mistaken but i thought that "popping your cherry" was a term used to refer to the actuall physical tearing of the hymen threw sexual means. and that some girls dont have "cherrys to be popped" because their hymen had already been torn previous to sex acts. at least this is what i have always taken the term to mean
Popping your cherry originally meant the tearing of your hymen through sexual penetration (and thus loss of virginity). Since girls have become more physically active (sports, etc.) through the years and have been introduced to tampons, the hymen is frequently torn before the first sexual penetration. That does not mean the she is not a virgin. However, that first sexual intercourse would be referred to as having popped the cherry.
Also, with the more common hand jobs and oral sex, the definition of "popping the cherry" has been broadened by some to include any first sexual experience with another (and thus loss of virginity).
To the OP: If this was your first sexual experience, then you were a virgin going in. However bad the experience was when he penetrated you, your cherry is now "popped" and you are no longer a virgin. Don't let this experience spoil you for future pleasure. First times are frequently not the best. Just be sure he has a condom or your pants stay on.