Basically my gfs dad hits her, hes a drunk, he does coke and other drugs. I dont think he's ever hit her in the face but he has pushed her over and the other day he pushed her and she hit her head nd felt really ill, another time he locked her in her room when she was sick and she ended up fainting the next morning. At the moment she has to live with him whilst her mum is staying in a flat until they both move at the end of june. Shes made me promise not to tell anyone and i really dont know what to do, iv tried to convince her to tell her mum but she wont and i dont know what else i can do???
Please can anyone give me any suggestions?
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My gilrfriends dad hits her?
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Even if she's asked you not to tell anyone, you should. It might damage your relationship, but if you really care about her, you really should tell someone that is in a position where they can help her. There should be a place that you can go to or call and you can talk to someone about it. Your school might have one as well. I think their policy usually is if you tell them any names, their obligated to report it, but not entirely sure. Hopefully, she'll realize how much good you did for her by telling someone. If not, at least she'll be able to recover from something this awful.
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Telling someone is definitely the thing to do. It is a difficult spot your in, you might want to tell her mom, that way she can make better decisions for your girlfriend.Is there a history of abuse before her mom and dad split up? Like, did the dad hit the mom and such?That could make a huge difference in who you tell.
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U'll never convince her. Ur just going to have to tell some one.
A close buddy of mine always tells me that he'll take a chance of hurting me to help me. And he has...can't count the times. He has went and told my mom things I didn't want my parents to know. He's done it many times with my bro.. and my bro told my parents. Yea I was mad but I got over it. He had to go behind my back and tell them something I told him to keep me safe..(I understand that now) ..and he knew I would know it was him and cuz he knew my parents would do wut he can't do (due to he is in the other part of the country..)
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Before they split up, her dad used to hit her mum, and shes told me that a couple of weeks ago she tried to tell her mum but aparantly it seemed like her mum intentionally changed the subject. Her cousin knows but hes not exactly the most responsible of adults and last time her dad hit her aparantly he stopped it and punchd her dad but hes not really there much. The thing is though i dont really know who i could tell that would do anything, i really dont want to go to the police.
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What about a school counselor? A teacher? Your parents? I am sure if you think about it there are lots of places to go with this besides the police, but you may ultimately have to go to them. No one deserves to be hit. Her mom doesn't sound like the best one to go to.Listen to CR, he knows what he is talking about. Lots of times people are scared of the consequences of telling, but when it is something like this, the consequences of NOT telling could be fatal.
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Hmm ok thanks, I'm gonna have a think about this and decide exactly what to do but it looks like im going to have to tell someone...
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get him raided by SWAT, basically all you have to do is call up police, say suspected cocaine selling and use and just enter more stuff there just so it gives them suspiciouns to get in without a warrant, and uhh they basically come in and see the other stuff being false but they see coke so they wont be mad... but if your wrong on everything ide run to mexico
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That's very stupid and can get yourself arrested or fined. Very very stupid advice to give.