Ok, me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years, we've had our good and bad times as every relationship does i'm guessing. We've had our breaks to see other people, but always came back to each other. But I have little thoughts in the back of my head that I can't stop listening to or getting worried about I never come out and say it because I know they are more than likely faulse, but they mess with my head and sometimes make me very unhappy, which is hard to make her happy if i'm not happy.I have a small jealously problem, i'm thinking i'm getting taken care of cause I don't care that she flirts anymore, but am still just a LITTLE iffy about her talking to certain guys.I have a confidence problem, this is my kicker, I used to be one of the MOST confident guys in the world, I never knew what shy meant, after I got with her I was still good for quite awhile, but when we started having our problems I blamed myself not on purpose but that little thought in the back of my head kept popping that it was somehting I did. And now, sometimes I just don't feel like i'm good enough for her, no matter how many times I say otherwise, now this isn't all the time so I don't think it's neccary to leave her and find what's good about me or anything, sometimes I do feel really confident around her and feel like I can make her a very happy woman. I just keep having those little thoughts in the back of my head though that i'm going to screw up or i'm not good enough looking and am going to lose her or she's going to cheat. Now like I Said I won't mention these to her more than I already have because I know it's probably just me being stupid, but I don't know how to get rid of them.Also, sex, i've been her only partner she's ever had. She says she enjoys it a lot but her sex drive has plummited, so I don't know if that's me or her. She is the type of sex partner where she can last five minutes when we start intercourse because when I hit her g-spot she gets too tendor down there she says. This isn't what i'm worried about, i'm just overly and once again it's the thought in the back of my head I want to get rid of, but i'm just worried that if she wants to explore other things, like she wants to have sex with a woman, and also wants to try using a dildo on herself because she HATES to masturbate says she finds it gross. I'm just worried that those things may be a lot better than me, and that she may lie to not hurt me and just keep the relationship happy because I know she loves me.Sorry about being so long, I just have to get over these it's been way too long and i've tried so many things and don't know what else to do. Any advise, would be amazing, rather it's just relationship, or even sexual advice.
Why can't I get over my insecurities?
Be yourself, and do what you do. Insecurities are a part of life, but solve nothing. Even the people who seem to have it all fall to the human element which is insecurity. It changes nothing. And in my opinion I'd rather be jealous of a dildo than another man's unit, but that's just me. If you can, just pay more attention to her, and she'll return the favor.