sorry for the title i didnt really no how to word it
im 19 and my gf 18 , im still a virgin etc.. and my gf is really worried from past expericnces tht she is going to be to tight , and its going to hurt her , i assure her that its going to be fine , but im actually kinda worried , the last thing i want is to hurt her , i know this proberly seems like a silly way to make my first post , but i wondered if anyone could really give me some advice on the matter ,
thankyou for your time :smile: , narv.......
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Girlfriend .. tight ....
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My first time hurt like hell, felt like I was being ripped apart, so I can see why she's worried.
The most important thing would be for her to relax. When you get scared you tense up, and it hurts more. Also, either make sure she's really wet, or use lube. Lube would be a really good idea, then you can slide better.
Plus, the more you have sex the better it gets, for the girl mostly.
It took me three months for sex to start feeling alright, and it's getting better. My friends mum told me that it took her years to really know what she liked, and for sex to become relly good. -
thnkyu for yur post :smile: , tbh tho sex isnt really important to me , id much rather it wasnt hurting her etc.. thts wat worrys me more than anythng
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It's just that, she has to get over that stage where it hurts, otherwise she's never going to have sex.
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It doesn't hurt for everyone.
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It may or may not hurt her depending on a lot of things, but mostly if her hymen is intact or not. Can you finger her easily?
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She's already said that from past experiences it hurt?Plus, if you're scared, it's gonna hurt more.
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Exactly, since he past experiances hurt, this might not.
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Go slow and engage in a lot of foreplay. use your fingers and tongue to loosen her up. give her several orgasms before trying to insert your penis. the extra work will pay off in the end. I like to use a lot of lube too. Just don't shove it inside and hump her like a rabbit.
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yeah she said its hurt whn shes had sex before ,althought without being to blunt she did kinda say tht they went straight in ,
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if she has had sex before, then i would suggest lube and foreplay before hand
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just talk to her, reasure her that you love her and that everything is fine, use a fair amount of extra lube and feel free to re-apply as needed. tell her to tell to you if it hurts or if she wants to stop, just basicly make her feel like she has a bit more control in the matter it will help her to relax. try fingering her first, and working up to a few fingers before you try to penitrate with your penis. and last but not least try to penitrate her slowly, dont just shove it in. even if it feels like it will just slip in to you, it still mey feel very tight to her, so entering slowly would probably be best. good luck, and just be calm, supportive and understanding, from the way you said she feels i think that plenty of no-preasure reasurance would help her to be more relaxed. This thread might help aswell.