Okay so I just finished my first year at university, and got my grades back about three weeks ago. I was devastated when I saw them, getting straight C's, and one D. Thankfully, I didn't fail any of my classes, but I am sure to re-take a couple of them.
Now here's the problem: In my household, getting a C is looked upon as a FAIL. There is NO way I can show these grades to my mom. Last semester, I didn't do this poorly, and my parents were furious at me, and there was a long talk. Having done worse this semester, I don't have the balls to show these grades to my parents and break their hearts. The thought of changing these grades came to mind, but a couple of my friends have told me to not go that route, and stick with these grades honestly. Mom has asked me about grades many times already, and I keep telling her that they haven't put up the grades yet.
Time is definitely running out, and she is getting more and more suspicious, and even said that she suspects me of lying to her, because my grades are bad. I am clueless as to what to do. And I can't just show it to her, and tell her that "I'm gonna do better next time", since that's just what I told her last time, and the time before that. I am shit scared of showing them my grades, and I sometimes feel like running away from home. I feel depressed and I've never been this stressed out in my entire life.
What do you guys think, given the circumstances?
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Dilemma with Grades and Parents
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Lying is only going to get you in deeper shit. They'll find out, they always find out.Did you actually try and and put forth the effort or did you just try to cruise through? Cruising through won't work in college, unless your damn lucky. If you got C's for lack of effort it's time to face up to the consequences. Welcome to adulthood.If you got C's and were doing your best, your parents need to be made to understand that.Giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming you were actually putting in the effort, do your parents understand college is not high school and good grades are often far more difficult to get? If not you might start thinking of ways to get that across to them. For instance, I had one prof., in an upper level class, that told everyone that on the final he would give out two A's five B's and the rest would be C's unless they did below pare work then they would get D's and F's and other than the final, which was a term long project there was only a mid-term project that had a grade.
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Indeed, many guys who got through school on a quick mind and a retentive memory, without doing much work, get a shock in college - if not in first year, then in second or third. How bright you are matters less and less, and how much work you do systematically through the semester matters more and more (as it does in real life).realist18, it seems your parents already suspect what your grades are, so you may as well get the unpleasantness done as soon as possible, rather than having it hanging over your head. The shouting will die down in time. Then do some reading over summer, and when college starts again, make sure you put the hours of study in each week.
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Originally Posted By: Ineligible
Indeed, many guys who got through school on a quick mind and a retentive memory, without doing much work, get a shock in college - if not in first year, then in second or third. How bright you are matters less and less, and how much work you do systematically through the semester matters more and more (as it does in real life).
realist18, it seems your parents already suspect what your grades are, so you may as well get the unpleasantness done as soon as possible, rather than having it hanging over your head. The shouting will die down in time. Then do some reading over summer, and when college starts again, make sure you put the hours of study in each week. can't say this held true for me... i did less work this past year (first year of univ) and i pulled better grades than i ever did in hs. but yea maybe it'll catch up to me next year :p
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Getting a C is not the end of the world; you can try harder for the next semester.