I have a problem that I hope somebody can assist me with. If you have the time that is!In August last year a good friend of mine (mike) liked one of my other friends (Sarah). I helped and the two of them hooked up. For two months after that three of us were as happy as ever now being quite bonded toghter. December he told her to break all bonds with me and never speak to me again. She told him the last person that made her choose didn't even come close to a friend again. So she told me this and naive as I am I told her to give it a try and break contact with me as it is her boyfriend and she should try to make the relationship work. She said to me she had a plan...She told me that we must pretend that we had a fight and broke our friendship but still be friends in silence and fool the rest of the people. This we did and it all went well. In April, late one night, she txt'd me and told me she has something to tell me. ( Just another thing, she was like my sister I never had, and I was the brother she never had) So then she told me that it could ruin our whole friendship, so I said it won't I won't allow it, so she told me. She said she wanted to be more than brother and sister. I was shocked. I never expected this! She was my sister for crying out loud. (She told me this while she was in her relationship with mike)I told her that I felt no feelings for her (initially) but later I did. So what happened she wanted to break up her relationship with him. This time I didn't bother to say she should stay with him. It was the first Saturday in may that she broke up with mike. (Me and mike lost our friendship in November 2006) The Monday I was walking to school and while entering I saw mike and Sarah talking. I smelled trouble a mile away. half an hour later they were back toghter and she txt'd me "SORRY".How fucked up is that. Anyway, earlier today I got a call from mike. I didn't answer because I don't owe him nothing! Then I checked my voice mail and he said I must leave Sarah alone or I will be sorry. Just then , I went like, "what was that". I txt'd him saying that it was months since I heard from her. It seemed like 1 second went by, and he called again. He told me that he saw a message that I sent her on her phone and I'm implying that he's dumb. And he made it clear once again that I was going to be sorry and this time he added, I must check both ways when going to school.She later called me and I was furious already, so I didn't answer. After she called I checked my voice mail and she said she's sorry and ..... well it was alot of shit she spoke. It's been months since I smoked, so I went out bought a pack of smokes and I looked like a fireplace.Now I'm scared to death. This guy is 3 times bigger than me and I've never been in a fight. So please, any advice would be HIGHLY APPRECIATED
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PLEASE HELP!
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At this stage it's just talk, but it would be wise not to get him in a position where he feels he has to prove himself.My impression is that Sarah is trying to keep all her options open, at your expense. I think, for your own good, you should be seeing other girls, and not her.
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Don't ever delete those messages, and if it does come down to the fight, tell him you'll go straight to the cops. Some would call it cowardly, but they're idiots. Fighting is not worth it, ever.
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Thanks you guys, that's already comforting. I'm going to call him later today. Any further advise would be appreciated.