So I've been seeing this girl for the last month or so. We're going to the prom together and stuff, and we hang out often. She was in a relationship for almost 2 years, and broke it off back in march. She's liked me the whole time, and so we just clicked. Last weekend we kissed for the first time (in the rain, isn't that cute). Today she asked me to get out of class for a minute to see her, so i did. We walked back to her classroom holding hands, and I kissed her before she went inside. To me, it seems like we're dating, and everyone's asking about it. So today I told her that i'm sick of like hiding from what other people think, and not being able to tell them whats going on. She told me to tell them whatever I wanted, so I asked what she would tell people. That's where it got really confusing for me. she told me she's definitely not ready to be in a relationship right now, but we're definitely something, and she doesn't want to be anything more or less. What's that mean exactly? So we're like good friends, that make out, and act like we're dating, but we're not?
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Commitment issues
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Isn't that a question you need to ask her? But perhaps that wouldn't be a good idea just yet. It seems that you are de facto in a relationship, but she doesn't want to admit that degree of commitment to herself. And perhaps she is trying to keep all her options open.At some point she'll have to make a choice, but if you want to keep her it may be best to let her slide gradually into it.
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yea, i'm kinda wondering what she considers a relationship them, because to me, it'd be just putting a title on what we already have. I dunno, I worry myself too much, and have let past relationships slip because of that. I plan on kinda just ignoring that conversation, and just going on the way things are going, which is almost what she said she wants anyways? I dunno, I guess if I go too far, she'll stop and tell me, otherwise, I'm going to continue to let things unfold.
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Stop worrying about the label that you guys are, just enjoy it with out trying to define it. The biggest problem that people get, is trying to define what they have. And after you define it, it can't morph or change or get better, can it?
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good point. It's just hard when people see us, and they come up to me later and are like, are you going out, and I have to be like, well... no... it's just wierd, but w/e. It's good.
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tell them what you have is more special then that or just nothing at all