I have only just got with my gf and we have only had sex a couple of times. So still getting to know eachother's bodies and what we both like during sex etc.We booked a hotel near to where we both live and went out on a night out, but during out very long conversation, she has told me that she has never ever cum. She is nearly 21 and been with 8 peoople before me. She said she has tried everything and she said that she cant even do it herself.So i said i would try and help her and see if there could be a possible problem or is it just something simple?Any of you guys got any idea whats wrong (if anything) or is it just a matter of practice makes perfect.Thanks for any help.
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She Cant cum
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Not knowing details, I can only postulate that maybe the guys in the past were more interested in getting themselves off than they were worrying about her needs and that they just haven't hit the right spot(s). In that sense, practice makes perfect. Remember, too, that lots of foreplay and fingering are necessary before the main event. Many girls can't cum from penetration alone.
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Does she mean cum or orgasm, cus not all girls have the ability to cum, but I believe all can orgasm as long as there isn't some sort of medical thing preventing it.
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Or psychological.
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She means orgasm. I thought that because now she knows that she cant orgasm and is blaming herself she is putting pressure on herself to actually have an orgasm and because of this its going to be increasing difficult to have 1. Is there anything i can advice her to do, or help her witrh/
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Advise her to just enjoy it, relax and let it go however it is going to go. If she feels like she is gonna pee, tell her to let it go, (be willing to get peed on) but she will learn how to orgasm....
*the first orgasm I had, I DID pee all over...lol but from then on out, I knew what one felt like, didn't pee, and then lots of years later found out I was a true squirter, not a pee-er... It's all about learning how her body works.
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http://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/orgasm.htmlRead Symptons, Causes, and prevention,
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Originally Posted By: Java_Addicthttp://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/orgasm.htmlRead Symptons, Causes, and prevention, Thanks for the replies guys.This was a good read she has said that she has been abused in the past, so this could be a huge reason why she cant orgasm. As i dont relly know how much of an effect it has had on her. Maybe i should try and discuss it with her furthur see if i can get her to open up a bit, maybe that will help