Not sure if this is the appropriate board for posting a subject like this, but I figure this board is full of alot of cool people, and maybe some of you might have some suggestions for me.I am 24m, live with my mom, dad, and younger sister.During New Year's 2007, my sister brought home some new guy that she was dating. He seemed to be cool at first. Two weeks since we met him, he started sleeping over at our house every night on our couch in our living room. During week four (end of January), he moved all his shit (XBOX, clothes, etc.) out of his room and into our house. I don't think he had permission but he did it anyways. At this point, I was getting annoyed because he started to stay at my house during the day when everybody in my family was working. He started this because my sister told him he could, and my mom didn't say it wasn't appropriate.During week 6 on valentines day, he asked my sister to marry him and she accepted. After 6 weeks of dating! It was at that moment that my mom embraced him as her second son, and basically accepted the fact that he can live in our house, use our water and electricity, eat our food (and this dude never stops eating, he is overweight and out of shape, and drinks too much imho). He contributes nothing to the household at all, only helps himself to whatever he wants. It is so frustrating when I go in the fridge to pour a cup of orange juice (which I buy for me and my family), and there is none. Then this ahole pops his head in the fridge and says "Oh yeah, I finished it last night when I was mixing drinks! Sorry! Tehehehe!"Then he lost his job in a warehouse for taking days off all the time. When he doesn't feel like working, he says his back hurts or his arm hurts and just doesn't go to work. This happens at least 1-2 times a week. So they canned him. So ever since then, he sits at my house during the day playing video games and stuffing his face. My sister even bought him a $5000 car with her college money so he could go on job interviews. But then he can't afford gas or EZPass so she pays that too. Don't ask me how he pays for insurance.So here we are in June, and he finally gets a security guard job. Because its 10 hour days, he wants to quit because he feels they're working him too hard. All he does is sit there! He doesn't have people sign in or anything. He just sits in a parking lot and makes sure no one is stealing cars!!!! Sorry for all the background info. But the thing is I tried to remain cool with this guy (he's a year old than me). But he has my mom and my sister wrapped around his finger. My dad feels the way I do, but does not want to interfere in my sister's relationships. The fact is, my mom and my sister can't see that he is a freeloader, he wants to live his life at the expense of other people. And that p1sses me off to no end. I tried to convince my sister that he is not as good as she thinks he is. I don't want to see her marry a loser that she will wind up supporting. But she refuses to acknowledge anything I say, and just keeps going on that "He's trying to get his life straight! Give him a chance!"In all honesty, I'm moving out on my own soon. I'm making great money, I drive a new car, I'll be buying a boat soon since we live near the shore. But it sickens me to see that as soon as I leave, this guy will basically take my room and my place without any shame whatsoever.Any suggestions on how I can get this loser out of my house?
HELP! Need to get rid of FREELOADER in my house!!!
Well it's always hard to convince your parents of a thing like this, and to try convince your sister that he's a bad ass, is only a waste of time as she is in love at the moment.The day that she will realize that her big brother was trying to look out for her will be the day that he takes all her money and all her stuff and leaves her, then she will regret not listening to you.So trying to convince her or your parents that the guy is a bad ass is out of the question. Why not sort him out yourself. I know that sounds barbaric, but just give him a little 'warning' of what will happen if he doesn't stop his shit.Good Luck.
"...Sometimes you have to let go, just to see if there's anything worth holding on to..."
yeah there not much point in trying to tell your mom and sister of him. i'd speak with him myself. tell him to smarten his ass up. easier said than done. he DOES seem like a nice guy, which is probably why he can get away with being a douchbag.
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What I forgot to mention is that I'm his best man.
It's not your house, it's your parents' house. If they want to be stupid its their prerogative. It's time for you to leave, and leave the others to deal with their own mistakes.