that if you are over 16 but under 21 you are too young to have children?i know physically your not, but mentally?i know alot of people who have children who range from those ages... actually even younger too!but i also know alot of people who are older than 21 and think that under 25 is just too young!i mean i just wondered you know, my mum had me at 16, im 18 now and shes 34 and our relationship is THE best ever, we ar enot JUST mum and daughter...we are BEST friends!i think if she had been any older i wouldnt of got on so well withher, as the ages gap and 'fashion trends' between us would have been alot different!i think its got something to do with the individual person though?you know, if you WANT children...then maybe you will become a better mother??not sure!just wondered what you guys thought?
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Do you think?
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It all depends on what you plan for your life. Do you have career plans, need to work, etc... Children cost money and demand a lot of time from you. It definitly makes it difficult to achive certain goals. Not impossible, but difficult. A lot of people grow and "find" themselves in these years. Will you be held back? My wife had our first child at 20, but she didn't have to work or anything like that. Is your husband able to provide enough for you AND a child?
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Quote:you know, if you WANT children...then maybe you will become a better mother??I wouldn't say that's true. Many people want children, I'm a 19 year old guy and I want children, but I have a certain sense as to what having a child now would cost me. The amount of time, and effort and lack of sleep and money and loss of social life. You will lose a big part of your life and altho having a child is great, I think that people should get as much experience in this world before they bring a new person into it.And of course, you have to consider that you may think that you're ready to be a mother at such a young age, but what about the father? At a young age would he be ready for the responsibility, or would he be like your own father?
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oh no this isnt about me personally jeez im 18 lol... but me and a few friends were discussing it the other day... i personally think you should wait till you have a good sturdy job and house of your own and someone there who is ready to have children with you =]i dont want to make the same mistake as my mummy! =]lol
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Smart girl. There is more to being a parent than biology.
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Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that it was about you, it just made it easier to say what I meant.And there is nothing wrong with mistakes, half of us are mistakes!
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Having myself had children later (as is now usual) rather than earlier, I'm in two minds. On the one hand, waiting until later puts you in a much better position financially - if you have organised things well you are clear of debt and can much more easily afford the loss of income that is the main expense of having children.However, waiting until later puts a bigger gulf between you and the children, and means you have less energy, which I think is a serious disadvantage.I agree that you should at least wait until you have a stable relationship and reasonable stability in your life.
