Wow I cant believe this happened!

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You could always tell your parents. I bet the police wouldn't laugh if your father called and said they wanted a report filed.That is what parents are for. To TEACH and HELP their kids...

That's where the reasonable doubt enters. If she does, in fact, flip the script on this situation and takes HIM to court, well, all that needs to be discussed is how he made the first move. Beyond a reasonable doubt, and burden of proof against the defendent. If the cops laugh at the situation, then they laugh, but I guarentee someone there will take the report, whether they feel it serious or not. If this were me, I would've gone to the cops with a video camera. I'm terrible with names and dates, but tape won't lie.

First of all, I'm not the kind of guy who needs rape counseling, I have strong friends and I actually know what I have to do here. I am going to the Police bright and early tomorrow with a tape recorder and demanding they take a report. If they don't I can threaten to have a legal case on them. I will tell them only the truth no matter how sketchy it may seem to them. I don't want to lose something because I tried to get fancy and stretch the truth. After I do this, since my Dad is friends with a really good lawyer, Im going to walk over to his complex and tell him about everything. He will believe me and I trust him. I know what I'm doing here guys, but thanks for all the help anyway. The Lord is giving me strength in this time of need. -Jonathan

Print this thread and keep it with all the rest of the records your keeping. It will help lend credence to your side of the story should it ever be necessary. It will go along ways to show a jury that you were trying to find out how to react to this and reaching out for help as early as 6/21/07.

Yes, I think that's a good idea. Admin here could provide the IP number if it became necessary to prove who posted it.

I think you should be really concerned about STD's from this mystery chick (if it really happened, because it also sounds suspicious to me).

i'd say report it. ditto on wut inliguble((pete i can't spell u SN name!!) said. I have had a girl and her mom show up at my house and tell my parents i got her pregnamt. never even screwd the bitch. i'm really really sorry that happend to u. i've had simular happen..at a fuckign party too. i stay away from parties now. i'm so sorry.. i can't stop cring....  Quote:This clearly is a rare occurrence it's not really that rare... happends more than peopel think. guys just don't talk / tell like women do.

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Print this thread and keep it with all the rest of the records your keeping

like he was saying....print this out. it can be used as evdence..proof. or somthing. i know this as a fact.

Superman675757, i hope this bitch don't try anything...
dude... don't let the people that are saying ur bullshitting get to u. I believe u.

it's a shame that when some one come here for help they get called a bullshitter.
It hurts. And especially for a rape victim. If u don't believe him.. keep it to yourself. To me those of u ( u know who u are) are no better than the asshole police laughing at him.

When I posted that this is a rare occurrence, I meant that a guy would make a report. But the fact that it is rare does not change the obligation on the part of the police to take the report. A report is not an investigation. Police take reports all the time and don't investigate them. It simply puts the facts on record.
Big Jay's point about possibly contracting a STI is a good one that I hadn't thought of.
Superman, I'd also see a doctor and get checked out. If he discovers anything, get it added to the police report. I'm really sorry that you're having to go through all of this, but it sounds like you're strong and have a good head on your shoulders.
This is just as wrong as a guy raping a girl, which is probably (unfortunately) more common.

That makes more since to me.. I guess that is right it is rare that a guy will tell. I would have never said anything if it hadn’t been for frustration and anger.  Quote:Big Jay's point about possibly contracting a STI is a good one that I hadn't thought of.Yes it is. And so is Roc’s post about telling his parents. BUT it was the other part of big jay’s post that pissed me off. I can guarantee that if he was a she and it was a he that had raped in her sleep that none of the BS shit would have been posted. But it pisses me off that he comes here for help and a few give him the BS shit. Why the f*k do u think guys don’t tell …….why cuz they get laughed at and called bullshitters….. I know people can come here and cry rape.. (stupid people trolls) but I take posts like this very serious and it pisses me off when some one calls a hurting person a liar.

The experience you had with the police is unfortunate. Here are a couple of suggestions to deal with that, assuming you still don't want to talk about it with your parents.... Request a woman officer, if your town has one, to take the report. I think you may have better luck reporting this to a woman. Maybe she would take rape a little more seriously or a least be more willing to listen. I'm not quite sure why, I just feel you might have better luck giving your statement to a woman.... If the former proves to be unavailable or just as fruitless, get someone from a rape crisis center to call before you go in to let these pigs know your for real and that they better do their fuckin' job. If you don't want to call a rape crisis center, I would bet that one of the mod's or admin's on this site would be willing to call your local police department and tell them, "this is serious and that they need to take your report".Whatever you do leave a paper trail showing you tried to report a serious crime. When you go to get checked for STD's tell the doc why your getting tested and the problems you have encountered trying to report this. The doc should be duty bound not to reveal your identity to anybody but would make another witness to what you have had to endure.

Originally Posted By: Tomatoes

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to call BS on this thread.

I'm glad you feel confident enough to make that call.
So how do we know you haven't been lying in your posts? We don't do we. Fact is, you can never know for 100% when someone on a message board is telling the truth. But are you willing to run a kid off who very well may be telling the truth, deny him any kind of help and encouragement, because you think his story sounds fishy? Not a chance I'm willing to take.

Fact is, rape happens. And it happens to guys. And a lot of times we don't want to tell our stories - or are even hesitant to call it 'rape' - cause of folks like you and that police officer who we're afraid are just gonna laugh and say 'yeah, right, bet you enjoyed it, didn't you?'

OP - you are getting excellent advice from folks here. Stuff I wasn't even thinking of - like printing off this thread. These guys will go to bat for you.

Once again, don't let this go. And keep us posted.

I totally understand rape happens to guys. It sucks how society ignores it. The parts that alarm me is how he acted almost happy when he started the thread. And the first mention of going to the police station sounded totally fabricated. If he is legit then I apologize. But I called out that fake emo guy "Converse" before about stealing model pics and claiming they were his own. I get the same feeling here.

Keep in mind you are reading an anonymous post to a message board. You can't look at his words and tell if he was happy or sad or whatever when he wrote it. No way. I'm hoping you never have to experience anything like this. But if you did, you would have a little understanding of the kinds of mixed-up screwy emotions and thoughts and fears and questions and anxieties that whirl around in your head FOR YEARS. I insisted on taking the blame for years. If I had told you my story and you heard some of the strange details, I'm afraid you might very well insist on my continuing to feel guilt around it. If a kid types "lol" when telling about a rape, that does in no way mean he was happy about it. Just a little advice to put in your pocket of social skills for the future, when you hear people talking about traumatic crap like this, you might want to give them a break and possible even the benifit of the doubt, and not expect that everything they say or the way they say it will be completely rational or fit your expectation of how it should be said.

This is NOT a rape situation

You were conscious?
You said she was attractive?
She had no knife at your throat?

You could have pulled out if you chose

You decided not to

A woman held down by a man generally does not have these options

Could he have done something about the situation? Maybe. He said it all happened rather quickly.Did he choose the situation? No. He said he was sleeping.I will grant you, however, that a woman being raped would have fewer options than he did. But, wrong is wrong . We're not talking degrees of wrong.

WTF? Rape = FORCED Sex. He had no choice if he Woke Up in the Middle of it, really...

If nothing else, it could be sexual assault or just assault.

thats terrible! well, theres not much i can add. just do what everybody else already said.one question. why is this in the masturbation section?

Any luck with the police yet Superman? Keep us updated