I don't know where to post this, thought it would be here.I just recently found out that one of my very cute male friends is gay, and I have known him for a couple of months now, he never told me. I kind of assumed something was up with him, because usually guys will flirt with me or something ya know, but he was like, "I don't want you to get the wrong idea," when I kinda tried to go for him (meaning make out with him) I guess. And this was about three weeks ago, which made me question, what is up with him and acting like that.It shocked me because he is not your stereotypical gay guy. As a matter of fact, there is nothing "gay" about him, not even his voice, except that he's short I guess...And the thing is, I kind of made fun of him for being gay last week, but that's because I didn't really know and I had a lil crush on him, too, and I most of the time joke with guys about being gay even though I know they're straight.Well, we were with other people too and I was also making fun of those other people. But I'm always like that, and I don't think he was offended, because after that, we started hanging out a lot more often than usual.So tomorrow morning @ yes, 5:20am, him and his friend will be picking me up and I will be driving up to Chicago with two gay males. I will also be the only Asian girl, and girl alone with them. If anyone is near the Chicago area, there will be the Gay Pride parade. I'm not sure if anyone here's ever heard of it.Just thought I'd share. I don't know how to feel about the whole situation, I mean, I'm really comfortable around him, but not sure how to react toward his friend, whom I've never met...I assume his friend is gay, too, even though my friend never said anything about it. I don't know if anyone gets what I'm saying...and if you do, any suggestions?At first, I really didn't like the idea of gays, even though I do have one other friend who is also gay, but for some reason, I'm okay with this guy. He even took me to a couple of gay bars and I didn't really think anything of it, surprisingly. I'm also wondering how you guys would react.What do you think about this whole thing?
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Is this a weird situation, or what?
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Originally Posted By: indygirlI don't know how to feel about the whole situation, I mean, I'm really comfortable around him, but not sure how to react toward his friend, whom I've never met...I assume his friend is gay, too, even though my friend never said anything about it. I don't know if anyone gets what I'm saying...and if you do, any suggestions?Okay, so you're going to meet your friend's friend, right? Just do what you normally do when you meet a new person and be yourself. Just forget the fact that he may be gay, and just look at him as a person. You shouldn't have to feel any different meeting people who are either straight or gay. Originally Posted By: indygirlAt first, I really didn't like the idea of gays, even though I do have one other friend who is also gay, but for some reason, I'm okay with this guy. He even took me to a couple of gay bars and I didn't really think anything of it, surprisingly. I'm also wondering how you guys would react.If you went to a gay bar, how is meeting another gay man outside of one any different? I mean, if you were comfortable in that setting, then I think you should be okay when you head to Chicago. Just be yourself and have fun with your friend. Originally Posted By: indygirlWhat do you think about this whole thing? I think calling this a "weird situation" is being a bit dramatic. If I were in your shoes, I'd be happy that my gay friend asked me to join him and his friend to a Gay Pride Parade because that tells me they're inviting me to something that is important to them.I too also had a couple of close friends who are like brothers to me. It wasn't until YEARS I found out that they were both gay. When I found out, I was like "Cool". I didn't look at them any different than I did when I first met them.
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Originally Posted By: indygirlIt shocked me because he is not your stereotypical gay guy. As a matter of fact, there is nothing "gay" about him, not even his voice, except that he's short I guess.Gay people are usually short?....What an odd stereotype
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ya, i dunnno. i told my friend about this and she said she never woulda guessed, except he's kinda short. i didn't know what she meant either, lol
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Yah your height has nothing to do with your sexuality lol
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i keep wondering myself that if i never ever found out by chance he was gay, when i would find out. i mean, i did like this guy and i have known him for like 3 months now, and him being gay never even remotely cross my mind because never acts like the stereotypical gay.i mean, last week was the first time ever i was teasing him and his friends about being gay (not cruelly, and i've known them for a while) but they weren't offended by it as i said before. and then when my friend didn't show up this week with everyone else, that's when i found out for sure.i don't know how i would react if like i kept thinking for months he was straight, without a word from him saying he's gay. i mean, we always wanted to plan a trip to chicago, but if it was the same as the gay pride weekend, not even with one word about being gay, i think i may have reacted differently, i suppose.but ya, i hope i can be cool about his friend since i am with him.
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I think it's pretty arrogant to assert that a guy who isn't interested in you must be gay.I'll assume you were joking when you said that.But it still sends a pretty not-helpful message.
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well, i have liked him for a while and there was just something about him that didn't make sense to me. i dunno how to explain it. i'm not saying being gay doesn't make sense, i mean i was trying to figure him out is all and why he said, "i don't want you to get the wrong idea."plus, i saw him with mostly guys (and yes, those guys he was all with were gay), but i didn't really think anything of it cuz straight guys hang out with gay guys, too, that i know. we're cool though, he says he loves me sometimes, but like in the friend kind of love way and we just got back from chicago. it was pretty fun. i didn't think anything of the gay or bi or lesbians that were all there either. we both had a good time.
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Originally Posted By: damien
I think it's pretty arrogant to assert that a guy who isn't interested in you must be gay.
I'll assume you were joking when you said that.
But it still sends a pretty not-helpful message. Not to mention very very shallow.
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Originally Posted By: Hawker23 Originally Posted By: indygirlIt shocked me because he is not your stereotypical gay guy. As a matter of fact, there is nothing "gay" about him, not even his voice, except that he's short I guess.Gay people are usually short?....What an odd stereotype this reminds me of someone in my class XDpoor Randall..
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interesting point...if a gay guy was regularly used as the meat in the sandwitch and he was on his knees between two big gay guys being batted back and forth like a ping pong ball giving head and taking it in the pooper, maybe that would have some type of lasting effect on his tallness. Maybe so many gay men are into being hte meat in the middle that it has made them all shorter and now short people are seen as gay?The other thing this proves is something I said long long ago.Eddie isnt gay, hes suing that gay front to get the biotches! eddie is too tall to be gay. I shall callibrate my gadar now to reflect these prrofs of gayness so I can locate all the gay men in my area and lock my doors when they walk by and live in fear.If not for you statement of the implied stereo type by indygirl I would of missed that on skimming the thread, thank you so much hawker for pointing out what she was saying about gays being short !