Hey everybody could do with some advice here, i had a drunken kiss with a random girl the other night, and when i say drunken it was complete blackout drunk I wouldn't recognise her is she walked past me now... Im not really asking if this is cheating or not, im feeling it is in my relationship because my girlfriend tends to get angry at me even talking to other girls,or having any female friends even (its not an issue though i knew this about her when i entered the relationship and accepted it) so i know she'd be really hurt and angry... My question is wether I should tell her or not? The problem is we are in a long-distance realationship, she is on a different continent and i will only be able to afford to meet her once round new year, its been two months since i seen her last. I've been with her one year, i love her so much, and we've even talked about marriage in the future... another issue is even though we've said we'd wait one year its not certain we'll be able to get back to eachother it'll depend on us both getting work or study in the same country, otherwise it'll be real problematic to be together. I've been really missing her, and getting a bit depressed and yea i've been thinking at times wether or not it was the right thing to keep this relationship going, not because I don't love her I do, indeed I can imagine spending my life with her and being happy seeing that same face every morning, its exciting not scary... but if i tell her now over skype about it, or even when i visit her then she might break it off, and being on different continents there would be very little chance to make it up to her she might break contact with me. This is the only time its happened and i've decided to wise up in terms of my drinking, but yea i guess im asking wether i should tell her and risk losing something great and special for a bloody stupid kiss or keep it to myself and maybe use the guilt as a lesson of what can happen when your an idiot. I'd rather some brutal honesty, if this was the other way round and she had a drunken kiss, would i want to know? not sure, because i'd would be hurt and angry to.thanks in advance for any advice, and apologies for the long post.
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Made a mistake
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I don't see any reason to tell her, myself. I think it would just hurt her. Others may have a different view, however.
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telling her would most likely end your relationship. Be prepared for that if u do tell her..I wouldnt say anything..
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Sounds like something good came of the situation, you decided to wise up and watch your drinking. The best thing you can do about this situation is to feel guilty about it, and you do. That alone says a great deal. Telling her only eases your own guilt and throws the pain onto someone else, and really thats unfair to her. It happened, its done, you can't take it back, you live, you grow, and you move on.
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The chiche 'Blame the Alcohol' in my eyes is half true...Firstly that must be pointed out is that it is YOUR fault for drinking too much of it, and thats why it can only be partly responsible as it does make you do things you wouldn't and often you just find yourself 'going with it', which can lead to trouble!This is nothing nobody doesn't already know!Tell her? Definately not! I'd say if you hadn't been drinking soo much alcohol you wouldn't have found yourself in the position in the first place but it seems like you've got the sense to notice that and will cut down... but will you!?I know whenever i've gone out in the past drinking and ended up sick through drink i've said i'll never have another, following week im back on it again! If I really wanted to I could stop drinking, I just don't want to. Sure, it makes you feel pap sometimes but feeling drunk can feel good!Thing is with cutting down, is you'll always have 'one more' and ya mates will also push you to man up, truth is it is very hard to 'cut down' if your a social binge drinker going cold turkey is the best way forward. Inevitability you wont cut down unless you have super human will power so stopping altogeather or only a casual drink at home would be best!Be the designated driver when you go out, drink soft drinks!Think VERY carefully because if this happens again, you may not be able to brush it under the carpet!