Turn off for some girls?
Originally Posted By: aFIREinside32
but honestly, around here, its not a big deal. like at our school, if a girl has sex, and people find out, shes a slut.
Can you please explain to me how that's not a big deal? I'm having a hard time believing that this girl, being called a slut by her peers, think that this is "not a big deal".
When he said "not a big deal", I kind of took that to mean it didn't seem to be happening as much as you would think. Look at it again in the context of the rest of his post.
meh. not to be mean. However, your post screams much about your character or lack there of.Hmm.. kinda ironic but, I think one of the biggest reasons I'm a virgin right now is because of people like you my friend.See what you probably don't realise is that you can catch disease from blow jobs just like you can from vaginal intercourse. With the teen sex going on these days it really bothers me and has me pretty paranoid to persue a relationship with anyone besides someone who is a virgin.Now. my post is going to fork some because, I'm curious as to why you really posted.Odds are you are going to do what you are going to do with or without our consent. However, I am curious if that is why you posted. Are you looking for consent?Or are you really legit seeking advice? If you are seriously seeking advice I applaud you greatly. I encourage abstinence in every meaning of the word. If your seeking concent well I still hope for the best for you. erm. As to sex... here is sorta my rule of thumb. If you would be too ashamed to admit it to your mom. don't do it.No one wnats to talk about sex with their parents thats strange in ever sense of the definition. However, if your mom asked you "are you having sex" and you think there is any chance you wouldn't tell the truth.. don't do it.there are alot of sayings and quotes about it. "what goes on in the dark eventually comes to light" or "never do anything you wouldn't do with people watching" or "the real test of a man is what would he do if no one would ever know he did it". They are pretty much slightly different variations of the same saying. they all have different authors which I can't remember. However, they all make a the same valid point.As to teenage pregnancy. It is not right under any circumstances to force someone to have sex against there will.. especially children. I personally don't endorse pre arranged marriages. HOWEVER, I will say that i do not hold anything against them. I think in reality they aren't that different from regular marriages. Some work. Some don't. Some are abusive, some are loving.If the people involved in the prearranged marriage start off hating eachtoher or not. If they can eventually learn to work together and love someone they had no control over picking then I think that is truely spectacular and probably a deep connection. Man nor woman can really back out. So if they truely learn to co exsist and love eachother I think thats awesome. If they can't. then well.. its not really any different from a relationship where two people think they are in love.. get married and end up hating eachother. There is no universal right or wrong to it.
Hmm, I understand what you mean. Quote:if a girl has sex, and people find out, shes a slutI guess this is what I'm more worked up about. What I didn't understand is why when a young girl has sex, everyone has to call her a slut? I mean, what business is it of anyone? And who knows if that's true or not.
Quote:never do anything you wouldn't do with people watchingThat rule seems a bit over-strong - if followed, the human race would dwindle quickly to the children of exhibitionists.
