Meh going into college I have had several issues which have bothered me recently surface.A. most teenagers "experiment" way before they get to college. Lets face it most teenagers probably lose their virginity at 15 or 16. (guessing not citing anything) And teenagers in their youth and stupidity won't hesitate to "pull out" rather then put on a condom. Would it be wrong to ask anyone I consider dating to put on a condom?B. Call me stupid call me mushy w/e. However, I don't really care for the toliet paper relationships present in todays society in which people feel they love eachother it last about 2 weeks and then the relationship is over with. So.. what are the odds of finding someone who isn't just interested in "experimenting" in college. Seeing as I have never been I can only go off the stereotype that most college students don't want commitment or anything past "experimenting" which really isn't my ally. I hate to say it but, to me "experimenting" equates to being a slut (male or female however you want to look at it). So is the stereotype just a stereotype or is there more meat to it then that?I guess this goes for C. I really am beginning to lose sight on all the issues invovled in sex. I guess as screwed up as it is to say this maybe I'm still too immature for it xD.
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Relationship contemplations.
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- Would it be wrong to ask anyone I consider dating to put on a condom?Nope, not at all. But shouldn't it be you who needs to put on a condom? Lol. 2. So is the stereotype just a stereotype or is there more meat to it then that?I personally believe that "stereotype" doesn't only apply to just college. But if you want to find a meaningful relationship instead of a fling, you need know what you are looking for and don't settle for less.3. I really am beginning to lose sight on all the issues invovled in sex.Call me stupid but what do you mean?
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Nny, people in college are not all the same. They weren't all the same in school, and they won't all be the same after college. There will be all types there, and you'll find that stereotypes aren't right.BTW, the surveys that I've seen find that the median age of first sex (that is, the age at which half of the people have had it) is about 17 1/2 in the US (and not very different around the world).
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sorry just got back from alabama. long vacation and I'm still not quite normal in the head >.>I ment "would it be wrong to ask them to get tested" not the condom remark.As to the remark of beginning to lose sight on sex. its just a remark to myself mostly but, its something of a comment on how there are two entirely seperate sides of the coin invovling sex.One is the standard "don't have it you won't get pregnant bottom line".The other is the issue of "innocence and experience"
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I ment "would it be wrong to ask them to get tested" not the condom remark.Personally, I believe it's fine. But I also think it would depend on if the relationship is getting close to that level.One is the standard "don't have it you won't get pregnant bottom line".Well, that's true. But if you're responsible (as in using protection), then you shouldn't stray away from something as natural as sex.The other is the issue of "innocence and experience" Hmm, what do you mean exactly?
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Blake an english poet wrote "songs of innocence" and "songs of experience" as contrasting themes. The idea is that if you are experienced you are inherently no longer innocent.
In application to sex. You can lack experience and be "innocent" which can be looked at threw many ways. If your "innocent" you are "clean" in essence.
If you are expereince then you are the opposite. You are no longer innocent. In order to gain experience you essentailly must lose your innocence.
The same themes can be applied to sex interestingly enough. "Innocence" meaning you have almost 0 chance of having disease, pregnancy or any of the other complications of having sex. However, on the other side in todays society.. "experience" is highly valued.
Believe it or not I didn't even think this post out 0.o. I literally just thought of it as it was written xD.
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Almost forgot. So this makes an interesting complication because, while I don't want to hold anyones past against them. The more 'experience' someone has the more you would have to question them as a person. If a person has an extensive sexual history I wouldn't want to hold it against them.. however, over indulgence of anything would lead me to question their mental state as a whole.
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Blake was thinking more of general experience of life, especially toil, poverty and misery, than of sex.While I greatly respect those who choose to sacrifice sexual experience for a higher good, and while also I think the aim of life should not be to gain as many experiences as possible (as some believe), counter-balancing 'innocence' with 'sexual experience' suggests sex in itself is bad, which I don't agree with.
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My aim wasn't nessicerly to say that sex is bad.However, I think that like in the rest of life sex is quit applicable. Not the main focus I do believe it can be put on the scale.Also I believe the concept can be weighed in the same way. Not aiming to make "sex" sound bad. Not saying it is.I don't believe you can truely aquire a huge amount of sexual experience without some lose of innocence.I have nothing against people who have a large amount of sexual experience however, I would go as far as to say that someone who has excessive sexual experience most likely has some form of issues.Granted I am speaking in extremes.Hookers tend to have a load of experience sexually and regardless of why I think its safe to say that they are far from mentally stable.However, the same can be said for any excessive experience. Politicians lie excessively and have a load of experience at manipulating people. Hence the issue of innocence and experience. You can be skilled and charismatic. However, sooner or later your excessive experience is going to lead you to lie.So while my examples are the extremes. I am not going to say that in moderation sex is bad. I also feel the need to point out that in this day and age it is expected for people to be "experienced" on some level.So while i have no issues with sex in itself. The issue of expereince is an interesting one for me to think about simple due to the nature of the subject.