Now i feel guilty...

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ok soo...i have a girlfriend, and i kinda accidently flirted with this other girl. nothings gonna happen or anything but now i feel guilty for flirting with her. what should i do?

How were you flirting? Just in conversation or was there physical touching? If you feel bad there's always choice A: tell your girlfriend. She'll probably be happy knowing that you feel bad for doing it, but you also have the balls to tell her. That could potentially strengthen the relationship. Option B: ...the opposite of A, except you may or may not get over it, and it can either eat you up to the point of Option A, or you'll just ball it up and it'll come out eventually (possibly). I'd go with A. Accountability my man.

thanks. yeah, it was only conversation but i was complimenting her and stuff and i feel bad about it. i'll probably tell my girlfriend tomorrow, and tell her i feel bad, but i dont want her getting mad at me

Personally I think it's ok to compliment other women. Hell, you can say, "wow, you look great!" in front of your woman, and 9/10 I doubt (hopefully) she wouldn't take it the wrong way.

thanks. ill try 2 figure all this out....

_Hell, you can say, "wow, you look great!" in front of your woman, and 9/10 I doubt (hopefully) she wouldn't take it the wrong way. _

Don't EVER count on it.

Lol tru dat..But you know from personal experience man?

Hahahahaha! That's so true. But then again. We never know how women's mind thinks!

I've been married 18 years. You're better off keeping your mouth shut, if you know what I mean.

Lol just trying to make the lad feel a little better about the sit-che-ation.

No, I meant about giving another woman a compliment in front of your woman.

lol yeah I know. I'm just curious as to how his woman sees this whole thing.

Honestly, cheating is a big thing for me, because if I am going the extra mile to not cheat on a guy, he better do it for me. If he told me that he was flirting with another girl, I might get a little bit upset (based off of insecurity)... So, if he worked extra hard after telling me that, to make me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, I would forgive him, because it would show that I was being stupid for feeling insecure.

And if a boyfriend flirted with a girl in front of me... It really all depends on my relationship with her, and if I think she's prettier (and nicer, and etc) than me. I mean, it's pretty insulting to do that.
I would be pissed if she was:
a) A lot prettier (or nicer, or etc) than me... Basically, a threat.
b) Someone I really don't like
c) His Ex
d) A girl with a reputation for cheating
e) My friend or sister, or other family member
f) Someone I don't know, and haven't ever met (which means you could be doing more than what you are saying).

I wouldn't mind if:
a) She was uglier (or more annoying, or etc) than me, and I felt like you were just trying to be nice. This could go into the realm of being annoyed if this sparks a love interest from her (which she tries to pursue).

And it really varies on how strong your relationship is, how big of a temper your girlfriend has, and her personal views on cheating.

I completely agree with everything you said. I guess I'm a really jealous person and I hate to think of my guy flirting even if I'm not there. I'd hate to know about it!! Unfortunately he's a natural flirt anyway and doesn't realise he's doing it.. grr..

Erm. I would tell her as stated before.

Sure you can always take that puss filled ball of pain place it right there next to your liver and cut it out as a piece of tumor in 20 years.

However, in honesty if I found myself "flirting" with someone I doubt it would be intentional and I would sorta feel obligated to tell my gf.

If you can't talk about such small issues then whats gunna happen if you accidently walk in on some other chick naked?

Originally Posted By: ajmakokoHonestly, cheating is a big thing for me, because if I am going the extra mile to not cheat on a guy, he better do it for me. If he told me that he was flirting with another girl, I might get a little bit upset (based off of insecurity)... So, if he worked extra hard after telling me that, to make me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, I would forgive him, because it would show that I was being stupid for feeling insecure.And if a boyfriend flirted with a girl in front of me... It really all depends on my relationship with her, and if I think she's prettier (and nicer, and etc) than me. I mean, it's pretty insulting to do that.I would be pissed if she was:a) A lot prettier (or nicer, or etc) than me... Basically, a threat.b) Someone I really don't likec) His Exd) A girl with a reputation for cheatinge) My friend or sister, or other family memberf) Someone I don't know, and haven't ever met (which means you could be doing more than what you are saying).I wouldn't mind if:a) She was uglier (or more annoying, or etc) than me, and I felt like you were just trying to be nice. This could go into the realm of being annoyed if this sparks a love interest from her (which she tries to pursue).And it really varies on how strong your relationship is, how big of a temper your girlfriend has, and her personal views on cheating. Lol wow. Just...wow. lol I'm sorry I don't mean to laugh. That just instills the image of all these shows on MTV about dating when two girls go at it without even knowing each other.

Yeah, well who do you think caused us girls to be this way? It's not unusual for guys to leave girls for a prettier one....

Originally Posted By: ajmakokoYeah, well who do you think caused us girls to be this way? It's not unusual for guys to leave girls for a prettier one.... Sorry but I'm going to have to pick a bone with you on that one. Not all guys leave their girlfriends for a more physically attractive girl. There are some good guys out there who stay with their current girl because of their personality, and not their looks. My man is one of these guys. I'm not the hottest thing out there but he always tells me everyday how beautiful and sexy I am. Because he tells me this and I know he loves me, it wouldn't bother me if he gave some other girl a complement. Quote:And it really varies on how strong your relationship is, how big of a temper your girlfriend has, and her personal views on cheating.Lol, you even said the magic words (although, I don't think flirting is cheating unless it's acutally pursued).

Complimenting another woman shouldn't be enough to make you feel guilty. If you were asking for her number, touching her...ect then you should feel bad. But I doubt your girl would be THAT upset about you talking to another girl. And if it DOES bother her that much, then you need to sit her down and tell her to CHILL!

Yeah, I was trying to not be stereotypical when I used the "not unusual" bit. And congrats on the good man!And if a guy ever told me to CHILL I would freak out more. That is NOT how you calm me down.