My 2 dilemmas

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hellodilemma 1when i went to QLD last x-mas i met a guy and we only had a short relationship because he came the week i was leaving but i knew he wanted the whole lot but i didn't give him anything not even my first kiss because he only kissed me on the cheek. When i got back home a week later i called him and he put me on loud speaker with all his mates. all his mates just laughed at me and later on i found out he had told everyone that i was fridget!!! he also wanted a picture of my boobs which i refused to give him. he lives in NSW and i live elsewhere lol but i now i think that its my personality that causes guys to think im easy. heaps of guys ask for pictures of my boobs and think i will give them wat they want because i am soo bubbly and fun and now i think that i will never get a decent guy to like me... Please help me!!!dilemma 2well i do dancing and there is this guy that i like there the other say i took my best friend with me and she told me he was the ugliest guy she had ever seen and was all like "i cant beleive u like him... ewww" i feel really bad now because i really like this guy but i know we wouldn't be able to be anything more then friends because i only see him once a week or even once every 3 weeks. i spoke to him the other day and acted really cute and it is really fun talking to him because we just laugh but i dunno wat to do... plz help!!!thank you all for ur time =]

Guy 1 seems to be a complete jerk. Guy 2 seems to be the right sort. Don't take any notice of stupid comments by other people. Don't let them decide for you who you go out with!And when you're with people, be yourself. That's plenty good enough!

i quite agree that guy 1 was an idiot but when im myself i laugh heaps and i am all happy and bubbly but lately if i add a guy on msn or anything after talking to me for one night they just ask for a picture of my boobs and it bugs me soo much... i say no but they just dont be quite. Also i have no clure how old guy 2 is and i think that maybe i am just being an idiot and looking like a fool all the time

Will you not date guy2 because your friend said that? If that's true, then you might be missing out on the love of your life for caring about what someone else thinks about your life, fuck them, live your life how you want it.

One of the best phrases for life is "Fuck them" You don't need to give a shit about what anyone else thinks, just you and that person that you want. your a happy person, don't let the knobs get in the way of that. don't change for anyone else.

Quote:Will you not date guy2 because your friend said that? how can i date guy2??? guys dont like me... they only care about boobs and sex!!! guy2 isn't like that but i dont ven know if i will see him next week or not and some of the girls at dancing r all weird.i dont care wat my friend thinks!!!

Originally Posted By: gorjus suga

how can i date guy2??? guys dont like me... they only care about boobs and sex!!! guy2 isn't like that but i dont even know if i will see him next week or not and some of the girls at dancing r all weird.
i dont care wat my friend thinks!!!

That's a gross over-generalization.

How old is guy 2? Is he old enough to drive? If so, then there's a good chance he can make a trip and see you more than once in a blue moon. If you like him, but your friend doesn't based on looks alone, than at least you don't have to worry about her trying to snag him from you. I say go for him! You don't know what you got till it's gone -- big yellow taxicab.

i have no clue how old guy2 is but i dont think he can drive yet... i saw him workin at the news agents but was too scared to talk to him...u see im a shy girl when it comes to talking to guys and seriously i am fed up with guys trying to score pictures of my boobs for pictures of there dicks... i dont want there dicks ewwwi barely even see guy 2 though because he only comes every snd week to dacning =[

Oh. Well I'm sorry some guys have left you with a resentment towards males. We're not all like that though. If you like him for his personality and looks.. go for him.

i sort of only like him for his personality... he isn't the hottest guy =/and i dont really hate males its just everytime i talk to one the convo ends with can i have a pic of ur boobs

I saw elsewhere that you are 13. That makes a difference, because guys at that age often hardly know one end of a woman from the other. For a lot of them, boobs are all they know, and asking for pictures of them is the most erotic thing they can think of. (Don't give them any pictures - if you do they'll show all their mates.)They'll learn more with time.

Originally Posted By: IneligibleI saw elsewhere that you are 13. That makes a difference, because guys at that age often hardly know one end of a woman from the other. For a lot of them, boobs are all they know, and asking for pictures of them is the most erotic thing they can think of. (Don't give them any pictures - if you do they'll show all their mates.)They'll learn more with time. im turning 14 soon but i have a feeling this guy i like is 16 or older!!! im really confused about all this because i have never really gotten involved with a guy!!! I have never sent pictures of my boobs or anything to anyone and never will!!! and i really do hope they learn soon that its not on!!!

I didn't realize you were only ~14. So you like this guy for the personality. That's actually a great basis for a relationship. Of course physical attraction helps, sometimes it comes with getting to know them. Which goes along with...yep, personality. Yes, guys get better with age. They will always be interested in "the goods" but as you get older they'll treat you with much more respect instead of, "lemme see your boobs!" So go for the guy but be cautious. If he's 16 or 17 (17 might be a bit too old just because of mentality and emotional connection) but he may be at a different more...active (sexually) part in his life than you're ready for. Just be careful.

ok then well now can some one please help me get used to talking to the guy i go all funny around them especially if i like them

Originally Posted By: gorjus suga

ok then well now can some one please help me get used to talking to the guy i go all funny around them especially if i like them

you can really only get used to talking to him by doing so. It's like with any new friend. Once you get passed that funny stage of awkwardness it's all golden. Just talk to him about dancing or school, ya know, start easy. If you like his personality, and he's a dancer, that's a good start. There's no wax on, wax off to getting it going. :smile: Learn by doing. I know it's tough, but it's so worth it.