Does she have a point?
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Stop setting alarms on my biological clock!
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I think she makes a few good points. Like not bringing your kids to adult parties and teaching them how to behave. If someones kid ever punched me in the face, I think I would punch thier parent in the face.I think she unfairly lumps all mothers into one group though. I have many friends ranging in a variety of ages that have children. Certainly none of them would stick thier hand up a womans shirt and pat her belly.
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I agree with lish that her blanket statements might be a cast a little to broad but I will say what she is talking about seems to becoming more and more common.As for men not getting asked why the don't or when their gonna have kids that's bullshit. I've been married ten years and get asked that all the time generally by strangers who proceed to tell me how empty my life is without a kid. I hear at least once every couple of weeks from the ladies at work, how "god wants me to have children", how I "can't know happiness without them", how I "can never know what love is". It's not just women either, men go on with same shit about something that is none of their business saying the exact same things.My wife and I may have a kid some day or we may not but please don't tell me what I want, that I'm not happy or couldn't appreciate love.There was an old axiom in society that seems to have been forgotten, that is, mind your own fucking business.
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Originally Posted By: OldFolks
mind your own fucking business.
If only more people followed that...
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personalilly..her not having kids cuz of other mothers is an EXCUSE. wtf does other mom's have to do with her being a mom?no one can help how some one else raises their kids....this woman makes out like all parents are bad or somthing.. maybe she hasn't been around good kids i dk.. but i'm around alot of kids... (kids and teens) cuz my mom is a horse riding teacher-couch. i mean right now there are 3 girls here now getting ready to ride for their lession and theses kids are cool kids. one even asked me to ride with them but i had already rode 3 horses this morning... i dk.. i've seen the bad kids at shows and in stores and i've seen good kids. i knwo this tho if i had puched a lady when i was a kid my parents wouldn't have done nothing. shit my dad would have knocked me on my ass.
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What the author forgot is the human prejudice to ignore the good and remember the bad. Good kids aren't going to be noticed or make an impression unless they're good in some uncommon way that forces the observer to take note.It's kinda like driving down a street with very nice, well kept, manicured homes, it only take a couple of derelict properties to ruin the whole look of the street. Mom's street is like that. There are twenty, thirty or so nice looking houses but what you see when you drive through is the one abandon house with grass ass high and the old grocery store that is being used as a machine shop, that looks like shit.It seems to be that what's out of place gets our attention. Not all kids and parents are bad but the one's that get noticed and remembered are the one's that ruin the movie, the dinner, whatever for everyone else.
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I agree
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That is why more people should do time in prison !even fuckheads that didnt know that rule learned it really fucking fast when I was inside. not minding your own business can get your ass killed, the grand teacher of the rule is the prison system.I will however say one thing more directly to you scotty.to a degree the people that tell you that shit are right.I never understood it till my first son was born and I could hold him and see him.I never understood was true undying love was untill I had a child.its diffetrent than it is between two adults or a child and his parents, a parents love is different and stronger. and then I had two and thought jesus fuck how can I ever love the second one ? there isnt anymore left to give for another kid, and I was wrong, I loved him just the same as I did the first.I wont say thta your love for your mom grandma and wife are not as strong or not as real, it is, but its not the same love, the love for a child is a new thing that is totaly different than the love of anyone else.with that said Ill now mind my own fucking business and let you get back to living your choices in life instead of reading hte shit I spew out on a page.
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I understand what you're saying about the homes, but don't agree with the analogy. Well behaved kids are the exception these days...not the rule. Well behaved kids "stand out" with me...and sometimes I'll even tell somebody something like, "You know...your kids are really well behaved." I know it's none of my business, but I think most parents appreciate hearing from somebody else that their efforts are noticable.
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I agree, and I think that is a point the article was trying to make. Children are becoming more and more rude and disrespectful, and it's being excused more and more by their parents. And I can tell you that men too get asked the intrusive questions. Every time someone asks me why I'm not married, I wanna shout something like "Cause I've got AIDS and I don't wanna pass it on to anyone else" or something like that. And every time someone (who's not a close friend who has earned the right) asks me about marriage/dating/girlfriend/getting some or whatever, it makes me feel like I'm being judged. Like they're wondering what's wrong with me? Am I gay? That sort of crap.And the funny thing is that most of the people who do that to me are on marriage number three and have kids who are in prison for drug raps or who can't pay their bills and such. I agree. People should mind their own business.
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Well said.