why the fuck does my moms keep on doing this shit! she's supporting an abusive daughter and neglecting her only son! i've been through a million more things than she could ever imagine and she still has the nerve to deny my truthfulness!!! i dont fucking know why shes doing this shit to me, what have i done to deserve this! nothing but care for and love the women who sacrificed so much for me!!!IM FUCKING THROUGH WITH IT!im tired of biting my lip and going through my issues just because i dont want to hurt my mom!im alone in this world, all i have is me, and my girlfriend!!! and thats all that matters to me now!!!
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My Mother
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Somehow.... these: Quote:...neglecting her only son!...deny my truthfulness!!!don't fit along so well with this: Quote:the women who sacrificed so much for me!!!Besides, what the Hell did she do now anyway? Deny your truthfulness? What's that all about?I'd say it sounds like a good mother who just wants her son to start doing things on his own and not fling all his problems down on her like when he was a baby taking poopoos in his pjs.It sounds like she is just done sacrificing for you and is hoping all that effort she put in pays off in having created a man who can be semi-self-sufficient, respectable, and all the other things she taught you to be. As a birdling leaving the nest you can get pissed off that she's making you go, or you can fly off and show her what a good job she's done!LQ
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no, you see, my mom gives my sister melissa (the middle child out of 3) nearly all of her attention, because she was faced with a problem that happened almost 7 years ago! some guy pointed a gun at her and said he was going to rape her and her friend, my sisters friend like the coward she is, ran, and the guy jumped after her, then my sister ran, and he threw the gun, and just ran away...she used this as an excuse to smoke weed, drink, party, and take a majority of my moms money, because she has "emotional trauma, and stress" ive had a gun pointed in my face, and i never went running to my mom, i loved her too much to hurt her like that, and she already had alot of problems with my sister, she didnt need me going and adding to them...today my sister called again, complaining that she wants to come to california, because her babies daddy wont take care of her kid while shes at work... but... she doesnt want to buy the ticket... her phone bill who my mom said she was going to pay (the regular fee, not overdrafts) exceeded 350 dollars!!! my sister said, "well then, turn off the phone" my sister is ungrateful and takes advantage of people, and i hate how she goes and jumps into our life whenever she needs things, but when we need help, its "our own problems" as she would say...she gets my mom all riled up and crying and sad, and it hurts me to see my mother like that, and frankly she should be putting in more effort to raise her son(me) than waisting her time on a daughter who is over 21 is out of the house, and who is well known for taking advantage of her!ahhh... deep sigh... i just want my sister to leave me and my mom alone...
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You're young.. only 16 (i think)?I think alot of teenagers feel how you are feeling. I know I did.. I turned the situation around and rather then thinking of my mom treating me that way.. I focused on the amazing things my mother has done for me.. and they outweigh the bad things. The good things are so quickly forgotten.
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Speaking as a mother, it doesn't matter if your child is 2, 21, or 41...they are still your child and you are going to want to help them in anyway that you can even if they are taking advantage of you. Quote:frankly she should be putting in more effort to raise her son(me) than waisting her time on a daughter What exactly is it that you want from your mother? I mean, how is she not raising you?
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Quote:she used this as an excuse to smoke weed, drink, party, and take a majority of my moms money, because she has "emotional trauma, and stress" ive had a gun pointed in my face, and i never went running to my mom, i loved her too much to hurt her like that, and she already had alot of problems with my sister, she didnt need me going and adding to them...I think this might be the root of your feelings.The thing you have to understand is that everyone is different and we handle situations differently. For some, when we are put in a desperate situation, it can scar us for life. Obviously, the situation your sister was in was enough to traumatize her, if she continues to bring it up today. And if that's the case, she should see a therapist.When that happened, I assume she told your mom. Of course, your mom is going to freak out and be overly protective of your sister. She almost lost a child, which is the worst nightmare any parent can imagine. No matter how old, a mother will never stop loving her child and will always make sure they are taken care of. It's the basic instinct of any parent. I'm sure your mother would be doing the same for you if you told her that you had a gun pointed at your head, or if you told her what happened to you when you were a kid.Should your sister take full advantage of your mom without giving back? No, I don't believe so. But, the only way to break that cycle is if your mom stops. You can be mad at your sister all you want, but the one initiating her dependence is your mom. But I think your mom wants to help her because your sister has her grandchild. So, not only does she worry about her daughter, she's worried about her grandchild.The one last thing you should keep in mind is that if your sister is always going to your mom, it's because all she has left in the world is her family. Perhaps your sister is alone and she needs you guys. Can you imagine how lonely it would be for one person who doesn't have no friends or loved ones or no waiting family to go to?Perhaps what your mom should do, is to help your sister become more independent or if it will help you, talk to your mom about how you feel.
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Obviously your mother is being extremely generous to your sister, however you cannot blame your mother. Until you have children on your own, you probably won't understand how children are to parents. It's like having a pet, like a dog, from the time it was a small puppy; you want to play with it all the time, feed it, have it learn tricks, virtually you want it to become the best dog in the world. But the feeling is even greater for a child of course, because it is the same "animal" as you are.
Your mom's actions are quite valid, but she seems like she has been extremely tolerant of your sister's actions; the way you have explained the situation, it seems like your sister has mooched on and on from your mother over the years. If your sister is old enough to work, she shouldn't receieve anything at all from your mother, unless it is an emergency, because being able to work means being able to support. Plus on top of that, your sister lives with her child's father, so they should be more than capable of supporting a small family with dual income at the least unless they don't know how to save money, constantly spend, which seems to be the problem seeing that the phone bill is 350 dollars, or are being very lazy, which could also be the problem. If I were you, I would explain to your mother that she has been too kind and since your sister is old enough to work, and lives with another individual who can work, then they are more than capable to at least earn 14 bucks an hour collectively which is decent enough to support a small family and rent.