The girl's fried my brain.

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Ok, I need some serious help.I met a girl last Tuesday, and I've been meeting up with her since then. On Sunday, we had a great night. We were sitting on the grass, mucking about, rolling around, and she somehow settled in my arms, both of us looking at the stars. We kissed, made out, and then I walked her home, holding her hand, and we made out again as we said goodbye.So anyway, I didn't see her the next day because she was working, but yesterday she had the day off so I went and met up with her. We walked for a while, not holding hands, then went to hang out with some of her friends. When she introduced me to one of them, the guy asked "So are you two going out?" She said no, and I think she must have seen my face drop.I then though "well maybe she just doesn't want to tell this guy". I started texting my good friend about the situation, because this was nothing like Sunday, I had assumed we were going out.I think she noticed I was texting my friend and looking down, and she slyly gave me a kiss on the cheek when no one was looking. After her friend left, we went to the park by ourselves, and ended up just like Sunday, kissing, making out. Then we walked into town holding hands.So anyway, I decided to ask last night on IM, how she would describe what we're doing. I was basically just looking to check that she just didn't want to tell her friend about us.The reply I got was hardly what I was expecting. It was basically "Erm, I don't know what you'd call it. I'd just like to get to know you better."Like WTF? I seriously thought the way she was acting with me meant we were going out.Anyway, this is maybe just a rant, or maybe I'm looking for advice, I don't know. We do know each other quite well by now so I'm not quite sure where she's coming from

its just how girls work, they usually like to know a guy for a while before they're comfortable enough to feel like they can "go out" with themmainly they like to get friends approval and make sure they don't make a mistake with the guyjust go with it and if she isn't touchy with u when you guys are around friends learn to live with it, it will come in due time. just keep being nice to her and doing what you've been doingi hope i got this right....anyone else got an opinion?

> I decided to ask last night on IM

Do yourself a favor and never do that again

No offense to anyone else here. But, I get the idea yall aren't too experienced with women.

I wouldn't call myself good with them.. but, I've been in a similar experience so I might as well chime in >.

No offense to anyone else here. But, I get the idea yall aren't too experienced with women.Is that really necessary? I could give you a long list of things YOU have no experience about.This website is exactly for people asking for advice, especially on things they're not too experienced with.

Quote:No offense to anyone else here. But, I get the idea yall aren't too experienced with women.well i dk but i get a stomich feeling lots of people arn't going to be crazy about wut that says. lmao...no i don't take offense. ya'll could mean the ones that have already posted or it could mean the intire forum..... i take it as in the ones that had psoted /replied already..haha so i'm not included in that yall. I have experence with the ladies...but none like wut he is talking about. i dk wut to say really. i mean every girl i been with makes a point to let people know i'm with her. so ..i dk. i just realised i replied to ben and not Nny ....oops.

If she really wants to get to know you better, then I suggest you guys slow it down a bit, like cut down the make out sessions and get to know each other more. Generally speaking, you would need to know each other enough to see if you guys could form a relationship. But be careful because there are some others who just want to have fun with no strings attached.If you want to stay to see if you have a chance with this girl, be upfront with her, in person, and see where it goes.

Erm. Sorry I am beginning to believe i have trouble expressing ideas threw writing/talking. Sometimes I can do it wonderfully.. others.. I leave people asking wtf.I actually had to hit something as I spoke today just so I could say it without screwing it up xD.. Do, *taps table you *taps table need *taps table help. *taps table xD.I was refering to a poster who already posted not the community in general. The comunity in general has far more expereince then I do. I try not to single people out.. even thou it was intended for one person in particular.

I was seeing, or dating my current girlfriend for about 6 or 7 weeks before we offically started going out. Some people just have different views on what going out is. Some think if you're kissing someone on a frequent basis, then yes, you're going out. Others will only say they're going out after officially becoming a couple.

Thanks for all the replies. I posted this just before I went to bed so it was nice to wake up to a whole load of replies. That’s the great thing about this forum; you get to see everyone else’s perspective on it. Thank you all for the words of wisdom.Nny, as for not having much experience, it did sound a bit offensive, but I'm only 16. However, thanks for the words of wisdom also involved with that post.Just to clarify, I didn't ask her out on IM, I just basically asked what we were doing. I know it might have been better in person however, but my mind was doing loops.Here's another big problem to throw in the mix. She tends to get drunk. Very drunk. It's only started these past few weeks apparently, but shes done some stupid stuff while drunk with other people. She lost her virginity to a player.I don't know why I didn't put that in the first post, cos it could explain the importance of getting to know someone.There is an event today which involves lots of people getting drunk. She has already told me she is planning to. I am going to be at said event with her, but I don't plan to drink much, if at all. I want to look after her today, and make sure she doesn't do anything stupid, but how can I go about that without seeming like I'm trying to control her?Also, should she try and do anything with me while drunk, how do I politely refuse? Believe me when I say I would never take advantage.Thanks.

If she's a heavy drinker, I say, don't get involve with her. She sounds like trouble and you shouldn't have to involve yourself in the mix. And if she is actually PLANNING on getting drunk, she has serious issues. Don't make her problems become yours. And don't even THINK about drinking with her.Bail out now.

Thanks Virtual_Star.I wont drink with her.I know it sounds strange to plan on getting drunk...but considering most of the people at the event are underage, they tend to plan on getting others to buy the alcohol for them. I know several other people that are going without drinking.I've heard a few of her friends mention how shes only doing this because its the summer holidays, and she is bored. Of course, she could get herself in a rut. I already have an alcoholic brother, I don't need someone else close to me having a drink problem.Thanks.

Ok yeah, like Virtual said, I would NOT get involved with this girl, especially if you're only 16.The whole thing just seems like a bad idea, and given the fact that you have no idea where this is going, you should probably let it go now before it's too late.

To give a small update...neither me or her got drunk. Thanks for all the advice.

Meh. This girl is a nut job. I get the idea she is somehow highly unstable. Have you spoken to her anymore about the issue of "dating" or what.. I mean what to do you plan on doing?

No, I haven't spoken with her about it since.To be honest, I'm gonna see her a bit more, then make my mind up, rather than rush into this.

I am warning you don't let it drag on with the most respect I can command which probably isn't much xD.Letting it drag on is not good. If you want to give it time thats fine by all means.. however, do not let it drag on otherwise you'll end up obsessed.

Haha Helms, non taken. I'm just gonna pretend that it's just because everyone in my city is like that xDThanks everyone though, I did take on board all your comments and such, it's just my own stupid ways.