Remember that girl who told me I had no ambition? Well, it's been quite difficult talking to her over the last couple days. If she is online, I sometimes say hi, and she says hi but not much for conversation. So, tonight she says hi to me (already strange). She asks me what I am doing for the week... and then....We start talking about things, and then about this movie we watched where the girl goes to kiss the guy and he doesn't respond. And she said it was awful what he did. And I say that there is nothing wrong with a guy that wants to wait... and she says that it was like telling her to go fuck off. So I asked her if I ever gave her that impression... and she said that I had... and asked what else she was supposed to think about a guy who didn't want to get in her pants. I told her that she should think he respects her. Anyway... I asked her how it could be offensive to want to wait, and she says that it is if it has never happened to her before. Then she says she is going to log out... if I feel up to it to give her a call...What should I make of this? I have a feeling that neither of us really left with a full understanding of the problem before
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She messages me and...
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lol... two rules.#1 all women are crazy.#2 all guys are jerks.I'm gunna ask a random question. Is she the dominant type?A girl I dated was dominant.. and it seems (to me) much like the girl I dated the girl your dating is dominant.. wanting to control the relationship XD.. Anytime they don't have control they get deeply wounded.
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ahh she sounds like a sex hound if she can't be patient for sex
she just wants to give away some of the coochie. dutty gyal!
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so hold on.. shes offering herself to you and you are saying no? I think I already found what's wrong here.
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"shes offering herself to you and you are saying no? I think I already found what's wrong here."
Wait! Why is this a problem!? Why can't I wait!?
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alright first off imma say this, the reason why she feels soo bad about it, is she is prolly used to the player type guys, the hit it and quit it dudes... honestly, if she doesnt like you, then why even respond when you say hi... and her messeging you today said alot, it said not only were you on her mind, but that you got into her brain... honestly she is sooo fiendin for you...even if your the smallest guy she has ever been with sexually, you will prolly satisfy her more than any other guy has before, you are giving her, her mental stimulation...think about it this way, you just made one of the most, mac daddiest pimp moves you could EVER do, and you did that shit by accident!...you didnt fuck her, and that got to her, she was like... wtf? why wont he lay me out... and that really got to her mind man...so look here you are in a very good position... if you sincerely like this girl, i really think you have a shot of developing a relationship... if you just wanna fuck her, i think thats disrespectful, but do what you needa do...so what i would suggest you do... is go out with her... take her on a date, ASK HER ABOUT HER LIFE!!! get to know her really well, wait at least 2 weeks before having sex with her, go out on a date, every like 4 days... this way, by the time the 2 weeks are over, not only will she be madly in love with you, but you will of already figured out your condom size... found out more about her... she will of found out more about you... and who knows... maybe you two will hit it off really good, and maybe develop into a couple that stays together forever...but in all honesty, dont you dare have sex with her until at least 3 dates!!! i would personally wait 5 for her, but seriously, you have to get into her mind, you have to make her want you with every ounce that she has... and once you get that, give it to her, and you will blow her away...but please, in all truth, respect her, treat her like shes a woman who really matters... show her how much of a gentlemen you are, and im gaurenteeing you that she will love you, for you...damn... why do guys like you always get lucky!!! lol
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seriously? I agree! why CAN'T he wait?
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your post is INCREDIBLY disgusting and I hope there aren't too many guys out there that think like you.
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you can wait. you do what you feel is best. If she throws a fit and acts pissy cuz she ain't getting any.. it's all on her. most girls (maybe even all...but to be safe i say most lol) think all guys want it now. cuz i think cuz people put the crap in their heads that we (the guys) are supposed to be the horny sex crazy ones it's hard for them to relies it's true for all. There are some guys that want to wait. in other words... it;s rare to see a guy say wait. but it’s more likely a girl would say let's wait.No one gives girls shit for telling their guy they want to wait. Nope.. But if a guy says wait.. Something must be wrong with him right? ( that’s not a question.. More of a sarcastic statement thing I guess lol) I get a lot of grief and picked on from my older brother and his friends. They say I’m whipped, on a leash, her little puppy……….that I could be out having more sex than all of them put together. Usually I come back with a smart ass comment. My comment usually makes them dig into me more tho. My point is I’m not like them. I like being with just my ONE girl. Sex or no sex… Your one of the rare guys (I dk how rare it is tho but more would be screwing her than saying wait I bet) but still…. You want to wait……..nothing wrong with that.
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intimacy>sex.
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ok.. after reading grownpastmyyears post.. i;m really confused here.........i thoguth you were wanting to NOT have sex (yet) with this girl? @ grownpastmyyears, are you trying to pressure him into having sex with her after he has said he wants to wait? CR is very confused.......so confused i'm talking about myself in 3ed person... @ Nny Quote:intimacy>sex. huh?? i must be smissing somthing here... or mixing him up with soem one else. i swear i thoguth he was talking about the girl that wants to do him...and he wants to wait and she;s pissy cuz he wants to wait. ........ i'm so confused i;m comfusing myself btw... intimacy does not alwasy mean sex.
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LittleQ, for the love of your life, don't listen to the idiots that say you should nail this girl. There are better women out there who would not only respect your decision, but actually like you for it.Let me tell you something; my boyfriend is 26-years-old and we've been together for almost two years. Not one day goes by when he tells me he regrets having sex too soon and not waiting. He values the idea that sex is more than a good time. And if you feel the same, then don't let no one pressure you to something you don't want to do.As for this girl, it just sounds like she needs sex in a relationship. That might be good for her, but not for you. If you and her can't see eye to eye on this AND be happy, then you need to cut her off from your life, so you can move on. A relationship will never work if there's not understanding and common ground. Plain and simple.
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What if she seriously thought I was rejecting her though and this has all just been a big misunderstanding? Am I just being lonely?? We were just talking on the phone now and it came up that it is her TV in my apartment. She said, 'oh yeah, i have to come over and watch that thing some time'Also, we made plans to meet on campus/talk on the phone tomorrow... so... I assume we will make plans for her to come over and watch movies or something :...
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Originally Posted By: LittleQWhat if she seriously thought I was rejecting her though and this has all just been a big misunderstanding? Then talk to her and make sure you let her know how you feel and where you stand. Let her know you want a relationship with her, but not a sexual one (or at least not yet). Communication is key for any relationship to work. It's scary, but you have to do it.But never feel pressured to do something you're not ready for or change what is good for you. If this doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world. At the very least, you gave it a shot.Best of luck to you!
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What's so hard to understand about you wanting to wait to have sex? It sounds like she's the kind of gal who wants/needs sex in her relationships, but you don't have to give in and just have sex just for the sake of having sex. If you're not ready, you're not ready, plain and simple and you need to tell her that the next time you talk about it. If it's not something you can agree on, then agree to disagree and move on because she's not going to be someone worth having in your life if she can't understand you wanting to wait until it feels right to you.
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@CR Intimacy is greater/better then sex. She wants to have it too soon and he doesn't. If he doesn't feel there is intimacy then it is pointless to have sex.@LittleQ Girls are extremely self conscious it is possible she isn't considering that you really do just believe its too soon.. And that you really and honestly found something wrong with her.People in general are self conscious ... so You rejecting an offer of sex could very easily be received by her as "something is wrong with you".
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Thanks folks... I will see how things go. For now, though, of course, we are just friends.
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ok first off, idk if that whole little, "after reading your post, im disgusted" thing was for me...to clear things up, I SAID MINIMAL, and if i didnt say it, thats what i meant,im saying cause littleQ has been practicing putting on condoms, and he seems enthusiastic about having sex, but he just might not be ready with her yet...theres no time limit on how long to wait with a girl to have sex, you can click with her in just one night, but im saying that if you are going to have sex with her, wait till at least 3 dates, you have to stimulate her mind first, or else she will take you for granted, trust me, its happened to me ALOT! i think that your a sweet guy, and that you just have more sensitive needs (like myself) and she needs to see that, so if it takes 3-4 dates, or if it takes 20, im just saying you cannot rush with her, or else she wont take you seriously...im just giving him advice on women, i know quite a bit about them, from being raised by pure women, to dating a shit load of women, to sexually being with alot of women... he can take it our leave it, but i mean it cant hurt to try...
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I just got this weird feeling that people here do not know I was a virgin???I should have said something... I think it changes the situation. She knows.
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Maybe you should just forget this girl... Chalk it up to experience, and make sure that with the next one, you don't screw up (which you won't, now that you've gotten our friendly advice, haha). It seems to me like she's stopping you from going out and meeting other girls (who you can start out fresh with).