That's just horrible. I could never bring myself to treat people like that No offence or anything.
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She messages me and...
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Treat them like what?unlike most peopel I didnt do anything wrong, I didnt lie to them, I was honest and upfront and explained Id never be a bf, and I wasnt even considering dating anyone. I told them I sleep with alot of other girls they are not the only ones and that its only about having some fun and having lots of sex.They knew going in what I was after. I didnt lie and say I love them, no need for that shit. I didnt treat them badly, they knew from the get go what was being offered.
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I see. Well, that is understandable, then. Either way, I just could not bring myself to be that kind of a person. I am not like that. Just like I don't like sports, I do not like the idea of having random sex. I have nothing wrong with anyone who does, any more than I have wrong with someone who likes sports.What, however, does this attitude of mine mean, then, for me relationship-wise? Will I ever find someone?
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what it means is that its harder to find someone, and the sports part...me either. I like some, atleast to play them, but I dont like to watch. The only game on in my house is the super bowl and thats just because its a good excuse for a party. I stick to hockey (I play and watch that one!) and boxing ( i used to box but have since been banned for life from boxing in the state I live in) outside of those I watch games if my kids are playing in them.I liek playing basketball as well but dont watch it unless I end up with tickets to a NBA game.whats that got to do with you needing a woman?Alot!get the fuck out of the house, go out, meet people, you dont have to treat them like shit, you jsut have to be who you are.No matter who that person is, its a game of numbers.You dont have to fuck them all, but its fun to try, you do however have to meet as many as possible.sooner or later youll find someone interested in the same shit you are.go to some pro ball games if ya got the option, shit loads of women there looking for guys, thats why they chose to goto sports shit even if they are only half a fan and occasionally youll find a devoted fan as well. go play some sports, your nto a physical guy? no need to be thers shit you can do thats related to it that can be fun and meet people doing it.How about fishing? its a sport, of sorts, and is solo but gives ya a good chance to talk to people on teh rivre or lake, see whats being taken by the fish, show off your catch, bullshti wiht them over thiers, not to mention in stores that are exclusive fishign and hunting places thers alot of girls that are getting into that themselves.Some of the hottest girsl Iv ever met I met while rock climbing or at te shop getting a new rope or harness. put yourself out there, and talk to girls, Iv been asked out maybe 20 times by a woman, but Iv asked out over 1000 girls.Dont take rejection personally, push it to the side and go after another one.remember this as well, the most important thing is to tal kto them as soon as ya see them.If you dont the odds are that youll never se them again for a second chance. Iv asked out girls in grocery stores, movie lines, at te gas station, in wallmart, sitting next to me at stop lights, in bars, on teh street, any place I ever found them I asked them out on the spot, if not then, its going to be never. just do it.
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I'm not that kind of a guy I can't do that... I won't ever meet anyone, then But... I just had my first class... and I am happy I mean... I got all those folks from last semester (they are in my major—or minoring in it) and life is great.There's some cute ones too... from last semester... and now If a gal's in school, that's gotta be a good sign right there! LQ
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If itsa girl you see on a regular basis, its fine to let it go on asking them out right off, you can warm up to them, and shit then make a move. I spoke only of those girls you see out and about, the chances of seeing them again are next to nothing.You still have to take a chance and ask them out sooner or later.I wouldnt sya thta not being able to talk to them like I used to means youll never have anyone, but it certainly does increase the odds of being alone.
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So... we talked on the phone.I told her about this ginger-bread kit that my mother gave me, just 'cause it was cheap, and she bought it... and I knew she liked ginger. So she has now planned a whole day of making ginger-bread cookies and watching movies with me.And she jokingly mentioned about me trying to bench her.AND THEN... I told her I owed her for all that running she did for me, and she said, perhaps jokingly, 'yeah, when you get your job, you have to buy me a lot of nice things' Then she mentions me driving her 'bout 80 miles to some city to get a book that she needs from her ex-boyfriend for a class that she is now taking. AND, she says she wants to be nice and hot when she meets him to make him upset, or jealous, or some crap like that...Man... this is getting more confusing by the minute
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OMG......You have way too much stress and drama in your life for me...Good luck with that whole thing....
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I was just talking to her, and I told her I was trying to convince this girl to join my major at school. And she asks who it is... and I say it is just some random girl I met on MySpace.... and she says: 'do i need to go kick her teeth in because she's going to steal your heart?' And I say 'AWWW, you would do that for me? (angel emoticon)' She says: 'probably'... and I say, 'probably? well, then we might have to just put a little maybe behind that angel emoticon'. She says 'hehe'What have I gotten my pea sized crushable little heart into ? And why am I such a sucker to get it out? I ... am gonna go and reread our old conversations and see once if it was even clear that we had decided to stop dating Anyway... we have our gingerbread thing planned for a couple days from now when there is no school LQ
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listen, you're giving me a headache with all this nonsense. we gave you what we thought would be good for you so whatever happens next happens. but i'm tired of hearing about this girl
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okayI apologise. Thank you for letting me know that I had gone too far.
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I think JapanFan was harsh. What I think she meant to say was that you are taking this too heavily, trying to read a new message into every interaction. Look at the overall impression, as dispassionately as you can. If you let every new word raise your heart a million miles, or sink it similarly deep, you are acting as a slave rather than a free man. You're being too emotionally clingy.
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She's playin' games with ya.
"Am I...?"
"Are you...?"
"Will I...?"
"Won't I...?"
"I'll keep him on his toes, chasing me, and my options open by not letting him know where things stand or what I want."A game player is either, simply, out for themselves or to mentally immature to handle a real relationship. Either way it doesn't bode well for a future with this girl. She knows whether she's interested in you or not.
If she isn't willing to set down and lay it on the line for you than don't invest any more emotional energy in this chick.
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Okay, first off, IT'S A DRAIN. Second, she still sounds pissed off about the rejection thing, and I think she's just assuming you are bullshitting her with the virginity thing. And then you kind of insulted her when you explained that you are respecting her (you made her kind of feel like a slut, I'm guessing).And lastly, the whole "I'm never gunna fall in love" whiny thing is really unattractive. Actually, ANYTHING whiny like that from a guy tends to really irritate us girls, because it's kind of like you're manipulating us to be kind to you or something. It actually just causes me to be meaner (and say, "No, you aren't going to find love, because you're a fag and no one likes you"). Wow, I'm mean. But then again, people know how to take me, and just laugh.
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Is there a way I can actually convince her that I am NOT bullshitting? I mean... I did essentially ask her to be my girlfriend not long after that, so I do not know what more I could do to convince her, other than simply fuck her and get it over with. But that doesn't sound like me. I guess if I cannot convince her that I like her without having sex with her right away, then she is just not the girl for me. Quote:And lastly, the whole "I'm never gunna fall in love" whiny thing is really unattractive. Actually, ANYTHING whiny like that from a guy tends to really irritate us girls, because it's kind of like you're manipulating us to be kind to you or something. It actually just causes me to be meaner (and say, "No, you aren't going to find love, because you're a fag and no one likes you").Ouch. I had that coming I rarely whine in real life. The Internet is a nice out where I can get all my whining done so that I do not have to worry about people in my real life noticing and hating me for it And lastly, not to pull this topic out any more than it needs to be: Quote:And then you kind of insulted her when you explained that you are respecting her (you made her kind of feel like a slut, I'm guessing).Could you explain the logic behind that? I am not sure I follow how this could make her feel like a slut And of course, if you are all just sick of me and do not want to answer the questions, I understand that as well! LQ
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I guess if I cannot convince her that I like her without having sex with her right away, then she is just not the girl for me. bingo! like i said (or did i deleted that lol) sometimes you have to talk things out to come to an answer.
that;s your answer right there.i looked back up and i saw i did delete it. So i'll tell u now.
you go on and post what you feel you need to get your answers. Talking it out helps. Sometimes just talking to someone you can come up with your own answers, and sometimes you have been given the answer but your not sure until BING it rings and you get it. sometimes you see the help you need in one two posts... either way you need a answer and you should do what you need to do to get that answer. no matter how short of time or how long of time. it's took me like 6 years to figure that one out lol (bet ineligible glad too lmao.. sorry i had to put a joke 4 ineligible in someplace)
You answered yourself (I guess if I cannot convince her that I like her without having sex with her right away, then she is just not the girl for me) but other's have told you the same thing.. but whatever it was it had to click in you to see they were right or to help you decide to come to that answer (or conclusion) no one can convince you they are right unless you are willign to be convinced that they are. :grin: does that make since? lol :sunglasses:
As for those that say your whining..... i dk. I get whining myself. no one here is forced to read what you type. I had to learn that myself. and don't apologize for needed help. never do that. I they is tired "hearing" about it they don't have to read about it.A2A is not mandatory for no one to read.... it's all by choice they chose to read your questions, and problems and chose to try to help. If they are tired of hearing it they should move on and not read this thread anymore so that the ones still trying to help can do it.
A girl that wants to do her man is not a slut.
A girl that wants to do every man is a slut.
A girl that does not want to do as her man wishes is not a girl worth having. (in your case it's wanting to wait to have sex)CR's rant is now over.... :eyes:
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A girl that does not want to do as her man wishes is not a girl worth having. (in your case it's wanting to wait to have sex)
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And then you kind of insulted her when you explained that you are respecting her (you made her kind of feel like a slut, I'm guessing).>Could you explain the logic behind that? I am not sure I follow how this could make her feel like a slut It's like someone coming up to you, when you haven't showered or whatever, and they go, "I shower everyday, to make the people around me happy." Which makes it sound like they look down on you because you didn't, and then they are also saying that you are upsetting the people around you... So by you saying that you're a virgin, and it's to respect her, she may have taken it like you being all high and mighty... And since she ISN'T a virgin, that also means that she doesn't respect you... Or something.