I was just wondering what are some of the safety measures you all take before/prior/after sexual contact with someone. The world is a scary place and stds are going around like the common cold and what is scary is that NO ONE talks about it until they are afflicted by it. Lets talk and share our ideas on some of the little things we can do to keep ourselves safe
Here are a few things that I like to do:
When I'm getting to know someone, I like (or starting to like) to wait before engaging in any sexual activities. Waiting atleast a month before engaging in any type of sexual activity gives me the chance to learn more about my partner, her sexual history, and background. Usually, I find it that girls become very aggressive when you show control and are turned on even more by this.
I guess its a no brainer, but dialogue is VERY important in my book. Asking questions such as how many sexual partners have you had, whats your take on having unprotected sex, what are your thoughts on abortion helps you to get an idea of what this person is all about. Then you can slide in more edgy questions like 'have you gotten tested for an std' and what not. Usually this might be a hard topic to bring up, but if your happening to be watching tv and one of those dreaded aids commercials pops up, then I think thats a good time to say 'hey, what are your thoughts on getting tested for aids?'
When I was younger and a little immature, I use to spit after kissing a girl. Especially if we just had an intense make out session with saliva going all over the place. Now that I'm older, I think that was a silly thing that I did because kissing is well... kissing. So now I prefer to not kiss as heavily before and not to swap saliva as much or tongue wrestle all day but just to make it light, repetitive and simple. No tricks... hehehe. This is important to me because it reduces the chances of mixing blood with each other.
Inspecting someones genitalia is also important to me. Before I would blindly stick my hands into a girls pants and 'finger' them, but with herpes, hpv, and what not going around I think twice before sticking my hand into the dark. And don't be afraid to stand up for yourself if the person is forcing you to do something you don't want to do. And if I do finger a girl, i'm careful to not use the same hand and rub her chest or something like that, because more than likely i'm going to suck her chest.
USING CONDOMS!!! As a male, you should always have a stash with you and get into the habit of using them. I don't care if it feels better without it or not, if your clean or not, or whatever... Wrap it EVERY time. You can never tell if your partner is going to be faithful to you or not, no matter how long you have been together so wrap it just to stay safe. Also, DON'T have sex with someone who wants to have unprotected sex with you. ESPECIALLY if you just met them, I know the is common sense, but you would be suprised at the magnitude of people who do this.
Anywho, lets have a talk about this. I need to learn other ways/ideas to protect myself. Such as how to have sex with someone who has herpes/hpv, or how to tell if your partner might be unfaithful, whatever!!!
Safety precautions for various sexual activities..
Also, here are some other things that you can do to help to protect yourself :grin: :
Get tested. Even if you're 100% sure that you have zero stds its always a good idea to familiarize yourself with the whole process. So far I have been tested AIDS, ghonorhea (not sure if I spelled that right or not), chlamydia and syphillis. Luckily my results all came back negative. Getting tested helped me to reflect on all the high risk activities I engaged in prior to getting tested and made me think about the 'what if' scenarios. The next time I am about to engage in a sexual activity with a new partner, I will always remember how nervous I felt when I was waiting for my AIDS test result. The world went into slow motion and I began to think about how my life would change if my results came back positive.
When I went to my local clinic this summer to get tested for stds, they gave me the default std check-up package. This package basically consists of getting tested for syphillis, gonnorhea, and chlamydia. I wasn't too worried about this because I didn't have any signs of diseases aforementioned, but I knew that they could remain dormant in the body without presenting any symptoms. When your tested for syphillis, they draw blood. I'm not sure what they check for in your blood sample however. When testing for chlamydia and gonnorea, they check for white blood cells in your urine. If there are white blood cells in your urine, then they will take other tests to see what is going on.
The message in all of this is basically to get tested. Not to get tested for everything all the time, but just so that you can get a feel of what it is like to get tested for an std. :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye: