So yeah I have a problem right? And I can't tell you guys without telling you the ugly truth. Basically, mis padres got a DIVORCE like a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG time ago. Emphasis on the long part. Loads of crap and the reason why I haven't told my close buddies on here like Kristal, Steph, Leah, Dan, bob, and Armondo,etc is because... actually I don't know why I think I was just trying to get over the idea of them getting a divorce. Especially Eddie... I'm sorry Eddie :cry: Just weird but whatever stuff happens. I told Wally and he freaked out lol. But anyway, long story short. I haven't talked to mi papi in forever and occasionally I do... occasionally. But not that much. Didn't hear from him on Christmas or New Year's. And remember I told you guys about the problems of getting driving lessons and whatnot... it's a really long story just... yea. But anyway, I called my dad and spoke to him for a record of 10 full fledged minutes. Love and HAPPINESS! I'm in bliss. But I don't know if he's either having memory loss or he just doesn't miss me or he just hasn't talked to me in a long time because... he didn't recognize my voice. He didn't know how old I was, didn't remember when my birthday was. He thought I was turning 18. Didn't know what grade I was in. Didn't even ask how my sister was doing. You get the idea. So what do you think? Is it memory loss or does he just not care. And it's not like he's an OLD MAN decrepit can't hear what you're saying but he's not young either.
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Memory loss.
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Quote:Yea it sounds to me like your father's memory is serious. Especially with the driving lessons thing that you just mentioned, that to me sounds like an indicator of memory loss right there. Just try to check up on him and maybe see if he can take some tests to make sure if that his memory is failing, like make an appointment to have him go see a doctor to see what's going on.lol nooo that's a COMPLETELY different situation and a long story in itself and has nothing to do with my dad's memory and stuff.
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I'm glad you feel able to share that with us now.
How old is your father? It's possible for memory to start going quite early.
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he's like.... 52 or 53
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You shoulda said something! I'm like the queen of dealing with divorce. That's nothing new to me.But anyways...As far as your father. It might not be much to worry about. My Dad does the same kinda thing. And I see him quite a bit. I'm sure he's also had alot on his mind as well. If it gets worse and more frequent however then I would think its a possible cause for concern. I hope things continue getting better between you and your father. It's tough but you get through it.
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PFFFT please. my dad is partying it up down south. stress my footthanks leah, yeah I know I shoulda said something. I'm just hoping my phone call is the "beginning of a new relationship" lol
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so...For pure personal reasons, like making sure I understand what your asking befor answering with any rational thoughts at all....you say aloooooooooooong time ago they got a divorce?so is this your dad that youv talked about so many times on here? the same one you were living with for most your life? or is this like a blood dad who disapeared many years ago from your living arangments and youv been living with a step dad who is currently living with you?Just trying to make sure I am following along as Id thought that when you spoke of your parents they were together all this time.If its a long lost father, Id say its hard to keep in touch sometimes and you get busy with shit and dont realize how much time has gone by. if its a father that more recently moved out Id say its stress, even if hes partying and shit, thers tremendous stress invovled in a divcorve and putting shit back together after wards. and as far as nto recognizing your voice, I see my kids daily, sometimes ctalking to them onteh phone I still dont recognize thier voice. the one that lives with his mother is even harder on the phone as I only see him every other weekend and most of e summer vacation he has is with me as well.I talk to him a few times a week by phone, but still I sometimes miss recognition of his voice when he calls me instead of me calling him.It sure as hell doesnt mean I dont love him, but phone sdistort some shit, and even when he calls form the number I have for him in my cell, I know its him but it jsut doesnt sound like I think he should even though I knwo Im talking to him.Nothing here to give ya any real answer but some shit to think about.
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Quote:or is this like a blood dad who disapeared many years ago from your living arangments and youv been living with a step dad who is currently living with you?bingo. Quote:If its a long lost father, Id say its hard to keep in touch sometimes and you get busy with shit and dont realize how much time has gone by.aint that the truth Quote:I talk to him a few times a week by phone, but still I sometimes miss recognition of his voice when he calls me instead of me calling him.It sure as hell doesnt mean I dont love him, but phone sdistort some shit, and even when he calls form the number I have for him in my cell, I know its him but it jsut doesnt sound like I think he should even though I knwo Im talking to him.Nothing here to give ya any real answer but some shit to think about.as much as I hate cursing this really helps. thanks chance
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Im sorry to hear hun.That's always hard to deal with.Im sorry your dad treated you like this.. but look at the positive side.. you guys talked! This could be the beginning of something wonderful. You guys could get much, much closer. I dont think it's a matter of him not caring or having a memory loss... but you did say you rarely talk to him.. so maybe he just doesnt know?
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Thanks for sharing. I know personal things like this are difficult to tell people. We're here for you if you need us.
I'm sorry you were hurt when your dad didn't recognize your voice. I don't think he did it on purpose. I would just have a guess that your voice sounds very similar to someone else he knows and wasn't sure. I call home every week and my parents still don't know my voice. Every Sunday night I call home and I say " Hey how are you? How are you feeling this week". The answer I usually get from my Mom is something like. Oh I'm doing fine. I'm a little tired today. Who is this? ... LOL. This happens just about every time I call now that I think about it.
Don't take it to so hard. I'm sure he thinks about you all the time and loves you with all his heart.
The next time you call say something like "Hi Daddy! I miss you" and see how her responds to your voice and call.
Hope my little story helps
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actually it really does help! thanks
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