Female ATA Members

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Hm....

I myself am something of a loner. I have my interest which have been condemned. I would rather be alone then conform simply to fit it. I like metal, I'm into anime with people getting their heads cut off, Vampires, Swords, Guns, morbid sense of humor and reading good books.

Most people in highschool thought I was on drugs just because, I was different. I don't like being alone however, I'd rather be myself then pretend I like things I don't like to fit in and get along with others. Hell I can get along with people who have nothing in common with me so long as they aren't into things solely because "its popular" and they can fit in for the moment.

With that being said. I can relate. I' 19. My first "girlfriend" was an obsessive compulsive liar who deluded herself into believe she was rich and attractive. The second girl I liked didn't like me back and let me lead myself on for a long time. My last actual girlfriend had agoraphobia, multiple other issues. And then decided she just "didn't like me like that" and wanted to be just friends. I was cool with it. Then later on she just apparently decided she didn't even want to be friends at all.

I've been seriously interested in 3 girls all of which had serious emotional or mental issues. (depends on how you want to look at it). Any other girl I have liked shot me down, turned out to be someone I really didn't get attached to and disliked to the point we never actually went outor spoke outside of school. I'll probably pay a toll for that sooner or later >.

I'm curious, have you ever considered the possibility of you being 'asexual'?

i skipped to the bottom becuase i have a short attention span but i once dated a girl who dated another girl at the same time and that ended up sucking (not literally) it was before i could drive so she and the other girl would sleep over at each others houses and id here stories and that was it. once u tell the person about it they will pay MUCH closer attention to all u say which will make it sound like you talk about it more. id just be careful with how you present it if you go out with some sort of, "HONEY...i think im bi and im going to go wack off with fred on a hunting trip." that might not go over well id personally try a more gentler way iv found starting off by saying i was so FUCKED up. . . works very well as an intro

Originally Posted By: wowheadid personally try a more gentler way iv found starting off by saying i was so FUCKED up. . . works very well as an intro Huh?

im sorry i just read back through that and realized it didnt make much sense (redbull + vodka = awesome but really ADD) would personally say "I was FUCKED up and fred and i wound up jacking each other off. im sorry honey but i gotta say i kind of liked that. its totally different then you and me. do you mind if we do it more?" if this still doesnt make sense im sorry i might try to figure out what i ment in the morning when im sober but till then this is what you get

I believe what your trying to say is that anything fred can do his girlfriend can do. So she would be offended.You also brought up a good point. It can't be healthy in the relationship to have a third wheel. It just BEGS of trouble.

id call that cheating.^^ to answer the original posters question.

you said "thats the same as the guy having a need to masturbate his best woman friend. i dont care what the gender is, cheating is cheating"and I say again, no matter what your wacking to, wacking isnt cheating.cant follow your own thoughts? what the fuck are you on about?

Quote:and I say again, no matter what your wacking to, wacking isnt cheating.cant follow your own thoughts? what the fuck are you on about? He isn't masturbaitng while thinking about his friend.He is being masturbaited BY his friend.I might be wrong but, I seem to remember you saying you are married/were married. Or something to taht effect.Is your wife ok with another girl giving you a hand job? are you ok with your wife getting fingered by another guy?

no, whacking yourself off isnt cheating, but that has nothing to do with anything i said.. whacking another person off is cheating. pull your head out of your ass and try to actually read what im saying. maybe i should explain better? when you touch your own penis, it is perfectly OK. if you're dating/married to someone and you play with another mans penis, or another womans vagina, it is cheating. get it now?

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Nope nope ! my brain misread it, I THOUGHT IT SAID" masturbating TO his woman friend, not fondling her giggly bits.

you got it right, I fucked up, its cheating.

thank you.

Basically he is doing a sexual act with someone else outside his current relationship. I say thats a good definition for cheating.

i'd say cheating is more like breaking the rules...so if they discussed the situation, and decided that this was okay...then it wouldn't be cheating. But without such a discussion, not having sexual relationships with anyone else is sort of a "given" rule.

well your right thats trueas long as the other person in the relationship allowed it i guess it would be finebut you know most people wouldnthowever there are some.....

I think there are quite a few that would be cool with it, at least in my crowd. Alot of my friends will have some sort of situation where it's okay to cheat built into their relationships. A few have "waivers," actual physical contracts that both partners have to sign, they get a set number per month or year, and using one enables them to "cheat" with one person with no repercussions from the partner.

Quote:A few have "waivers," actual physical contracts that both partners have to sign, they get a set number per month or year, and using one enables them to "cheat" with one person with no repercussions from the partner. haha thats pretty funny

yeah I thought it was crazy when i heard about it, i don't think i could deal with that in my own relationship.

oh god me neither!!!