I can't find a guy best friend..

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I've always just had girl best friends and idk why i've never had guy best friends, well i did have 1 guy best friend but it was in 5th-6th grade, and then i moved schools. Now im going into 10th and i don't have a guy best friend. So i don't really have anyone to hang out with all the time, sleep over, and hang out with girls with. I do have guy friends, you can say im sorta popular, but i dont have a guy BF...and its weird because i barely hang out with guys, mostly girls..im sorta looking forward to this school year to see if i can finally find a guy bf..btw no im not gay.

Originally Posted By: eh501btw no im not gay. ummm okay... thanks for clearing that up though not sure what that has to do with anything...As for the issue at hand, why not hang out with the guy friends you say you have now? What stops you from being best friends with them? I'd recommend hanging out with them more and see if you can connect with them better, who knows one of them could be your potential male best friend. Though to be honest, when I was in High School I always valued my female best friends more so than my male friends friends because they were usually honest with me. But I suppose that was just me

Well the thing is, i do want to hang out with them but its sorta hard to explain why i can't, well one of the closest friend i have lives about 2 hours away, i used to be really good friends wth him in 7th-8th grade but not BFs, but then he moved to hours away from me, and the guys i know now most of them i dont like because theyre sorta annoying and weird, i know it sounds harsh but yeah. And i made a new friend last school year, i went to his house like 2 times and we drove around one day but i haven't hung out with him this summer at all, i called him up but its as if hes to cool for me or something or idk its sorta complicated for me to explain this..

Originally Posted By: NtroducingMyself[quote=eh501]Though to be honest, when I was in High School I always valued my female best friends more so than my male friends friends because they were usually honest with me. But I suppose that was just me Well thats true, and i can tell them anything and they understand, but you know a guy needs his best friend..

Originally Posted By: eh501 Originally Posted By: NtroducingMyself[quote=eh501]Though to be honest, when I was in High School I always valued my female best friends more so than my male friends friends because they were usually honest with me. But I suppose that was just me Well thats true, and i can tell them anything and they understand, but you know a guy needs his best friend.. why can't his best friend be a female?

well i have alot of female friends , i finm easyer to get along with and tad thelk about 'things' but i am gay , i spose you could call me a faghag, but i also have male friends, i find it harder to talk to them tho , but i think collage will may have more male friends for me to get along with , i would like some more male friends, got to many female friends , i also had a male best friend at school ( didnt know i was gay tho, no body does, but i think many peple have worked out i am, i give alot of hints) u might just find that u can get along more with females, doesnt mean ur gay

Originally Posted By: NtroducingMyself Originally Posted By: eh501 Originally Posted By: NtroducingMyself[quote=eh501]Though to be honest, when I was in High School I always valued my female best friends more so than my male friends friends because they were usually honest with me. But I suppose that was just me Well thats true, and i can tell them anything and they understand, but you know a guy needs his best friend.. why can't his best friend be a female? I know theres noting wrong with it, but i've had girl bfs since i was in about 3rd grade ive had about 3 girl bestfriends, but like i want a guy best friend someone that i can sleepover house and vise-versa, someone that i can talk about girls with and everything, someone who i can hangout with like everyday, someone who i can call my brother or something like that, you know all that crap lol

Quote: ummm okay... thanks for clearing that up though not sure what that has to do with anything...1. i'm not saying it's true.. but it's a stereotype thing.. where i live if a guy hangs out with alot of girls mostly he gets called gay. i was going to say something about this in crag’s thread when u and him were talking about the bullies but i didn't know how to say it. i guess this si a good way too. in 9th grade a got picked on by a group of guys and their favorite thing to call me was little fag (or little fagot) and i just figured it was cuz i hung around girls. like with u and crig wut u guys were talking about with ur bullies and remembering... liek i got hell and called names cuz of my smallness and hanging out with girls. i dk i can’t explained it cuz it makes it sound like gay is bad but i don't want people thinking i'm gay cuz i'm not. i don't think i'm making any since..... i dk how to explained it.to the OP... i'm alot like u. i really don't have any guy buddies except for a very few "online" (and i hate using that to describe it cuz right now it's only way i can talk to them...) but i hang around girls. my close friend is a girl (ash) and i know her close friends and my gf and her friends, and the girl that lives across us...... most of all the people i show horses with are girls. Most..well all my mom's students are girls. the only time around guy is my brother and his buddies. but their HIS buddies not mine. we all still ride bikes/ATVs and play pool and shit but still....... there his friends(and i'm the one that gets all picked on). i guess i hunger for some male bonding too..lol

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why can't his best friend be a female?

She can be. I have one. but I can't talk about girls.. sex.. and tits with her. lol she don't get why bikes and cars are so cool either... and it's cool to hang with some one that don't care if ur freaking shoes don't match. lol

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well i have alot of female friends
But ur gay .. And that's the stereotype that gay guys hang out with mostly girls... that's why "us' straight guys have to say... I'm not gay. it's the stereotype thing.. wut i was tryign to expline ^. Stupid sterotypes!!

Originally Posted By: CR125 Quote: well i have alot of female friends But ur gay .. And that’s the stereotype that gay guys hang out with mostly girls… that’s why “us’ straight guys have to say… I’m not gay. it’s the stereotype thing.. wut i was tryign to expline ^. Stupid sterotypes!! You know whats really funny about that Stereotype? Most gay guys (At least from my experience) don't hang out with females that often, most of the time you see them with other gay men. I'm the opposite... personally most other gay men get on my nerves (though I have a couple close gay male friends), I like my lesbians LoL. So for me that stereotype always struck me as odd. And yes Stereotypes are stupid, could not agree more!To the OP, if you really want close male friends you need to put yourself out there, people won't know you are there if you don't. Introduce yourself to new people, sit with new people at lunch etc etc.

I naturally gained guy friends because I had a brother on the football team, another brother on the basketball team and one of them in the army. And his "buddies" used to come hang out at the house all the time and eat everything we had. I feel it's harder to gain guy friends. Whether you're actually a guy or not. Guys are more physical they don't like to talk they just want to do. But that could just be my experiences. FInd something you have in common with the other guys and hang out with them and enjoy that past time with them whenever it comes up. Then if anything else occurs continue to stay with them. Just a suggestion

yepp! i think camp gay people relly annoying , give us all a Stereotype thats pretty annoying, your expected to be camp just because your gay

its stupid!

meh. I like it more when I'm close to females.
But, right now all my friends are online =/.
Oh wel 2 or 3 days we all meet up. \>.<

Ok thanks guys, but i still wish i had more guy friends to really hang out with not to just talk online :/..o well il just have to see how it goes this school year..