I am going to leave alot of information out of this post just because I feel it doenst need to be said and because I feel wierd posting it. Just making that clear now.Ok here goes. I dont know why this happens and it really confuses me alot. Im older than this kid by 2 years. He sometimes acts like a normal person but many times he is a jerk. Makes all these jokes and wisecracks, gets touchy, lies, two-faced, and always wants to start trouble. He is able to influence the other kids to follow him and it bugs me. I am actually, in my opinion, a really humble guy. I am like brother brother to the younglings and nice to the others. I dont start fights or even like to for that matter. Actually I think im really quiet if you ask me, but I speak up alot to defend my point. Today we were gonna play baseball but that failed. I try to not invite that kid but somehow he found out and was there. Writing bad messages in the sand before I got there. Making his ethnic slurs which are far from accurate. Trying to get physical and get me pissed. I think I can beat him up but I never want to hurt my friends. In the basement tonight because I dont want him on the computer cause everyone F's with it he says that he is gonna take the people that are here adn go eat pizza without me only. Then i let him go cause my other friends are stupid and would ditch so then he says I talked behind his back. I didnt...not like it would be bad if I did cause he does all the time..and he wants to wrestle. I dont want to in my house but he is getting me pissed. I have a huge temper and so I try to calm him down and he wants to fight for real. I throw him into the couch and try and keep hi m down and I dont want to fight. He says no its serious...and I dont understand why he is doing this. Then 15minutes later he is like oh its cool now...I hate it!There is much more that you dont know about this or my life which im not gonna tell cause I feel wierd doing it. But what can I do to stop him? Why does he do this? One day he acts all nice and then 5 minutes later he is a dick! Is there anything I can do...support would be nice. Talking to him isnt going to work. Telling someone would bring insult to me. I feel like I should enter karate or something lol but nah. ...i cant believe i posted this and i hope i dont get any grief for it. just feel wierd posting on a place like this just to say something like this.
-
Childhood friend or childhood dick
-
Sounds like this guy isn't much of a friend, or at least someone that I wouldn't want to be friends with. What I would do, is probably talk to him about his random mood swings where he (as you put it) acts like a "dick". Hopefully, he'd at least know what was up, and then if he didn't stop being a moron, I'd just stop being friends with him. Someone that immature, and violent mannered is someone I wouldn't want to be hanging around. But this is all just what I would do if put in that situation.You say that talking to him wouldn't work? Why is that?
-
It's not weird at all, jamesbond. It sounds like he has a lot of internal conflicts going on, and/or some very serious mood swings. It's possible that he is very conflicted about how he feels about you (or other people in general).You could try to have a serious long talk alone with him. But he may well resist that, in which case I think there's very little you can do except wait until he's ready to talk, years if necessary.
-
The only problem with talking to this guy is that he would always resist it as you say. He would probably just go and laugh at it. He makes cracks about everyone in the neighborhood...saying they are gay, mexican jokes, black jokes, any jokes you can name just to be an ass. The sad thing is, all the other kids even if he targets them go crawling back to him for some reason. And believe me, I dont want to be friends with him, but he will somehow find and try to hang around with us or the other kids will crawl back to him and basically ditch me. I always try to make an excuse not to hang out with him, or my phone died and couldnt call, or just plain hang out with other kids. But my other friends dont live in the general area and thats a big problem. He lives two houses down and I known him for ages. So he simply bribes the other kids to come and hang out with him at his house and wont allow me sometimes. Oh and guess what he did before. He called and said he was "just playing". Dude this is really pissing me off. Its easy to piss me off, but its really hard to make me go to the extreame and actually fight someone and I really really dont want to and am not there yet. But im just sooo lost. His parents and his sister (older) are really nice but how did he go wrong. I feel like he only does it to me too even tho he doesnt and it just really brings me down. (although i have to act like it doesnt). I can go on and on with this story but thats only a small part of my life and I can go on and make things clearer in a more general sense but I cant lol. Boy do i end all posts like this.
-
I get the impression that he craves attention.