I dont get it. Whether it be family, friends, or at work, I always seem to be doing the middle work to get shit done. Im always the one organizing get togethers with my remaining loser friends, always callign everyone up, dealing with their excuses and their own shit, and going out of my way just to make them have a decent time with me.I got pissed the other day and just told my friends to give me a call when they actually want to do something, and I havent gotten a call for about 2 weeks now.My co workers always give me errands and other shit to do that I dont even get payed for.And to top it all off, everytime I want something for myself, or want to do something with other people, -NO ONE- is there for me, they always find excuses to bail on me, no matter how fucking retarded of an excuse they come up with.I guess thats be cause my real friends left for college, and I cant make any new friends at this community college.I think im done with friends now, till I leave for my 2nd yr of college next year. I should just be a loner right? Im tired of dealing with everyones bullshit... always using me to help them and never being there for me.This is probably just another byproduct of my self image... I can't wait for the day I "look good" and I can rub it in all these peoples faces... I hate people who don't meet me half way, and expect me to go the extra mile for them(which I do) and then they get pissed at me when I cant help them the next time they call me up.I think I put myself in this situation though... just because its always been hard for me to get friends, and I try to please them by doing shit for them... so they wont de-friend me. Wow im pathetic...
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Why am I always the middleman?
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i go through the same shit, i know how it feels. im wayy too nice to people, and i cant even help it.
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Same here.So once I moved I decided to take a year off school... just because of the people.they kinda terrify me. but Im a people person.I thought I had all these great friends before I moved, we always hung out and stuff..after I moved, Ive only kept in contact with one of them. I tired too hard for too long to keep friends, So Im giving up. no point in trying anymore if I know Ill never be able to have to great friends everyone else does.I guess theres some people (like us) who actually deserve good friends, but never get them. and its too bad for the other people out there, cuz their missing out on a great friendship.
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thats what i tell myself every day
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I guess theres some people (like us) who actually deserve good friends, but never get them. Agreed.
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Well, you deserve better. I'm sure you know that. If someone asks you for one more thing, and you say no, and they get mad, you should tell them that they don't deserve to be mad because god forbid you couldn't do anything for them for just ONE time. Tell them you've done enough for them and you can't continue doing everything for them. I don't really think you should resort to being a loner right away from this one problem. I wish you best of luck.
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Originally Posted By: katonsuiitonTell them you've done enough for them and you can't continue doing everything for them. I don't really think you should resort to being a loner right away from this one problem. I wish you best of luck. I agree with katonsuiiton's advice here. I've been in your situation many times, and feel similarly.Give friendship another chance. To go through life without friends isn't much of a fun life now is it? If your new friends give you the same trouble you're telling us about, tell them. Wake them up, make them notice that they are not doing the right thing, not being a good person/friend. Hopefully it will do some good.
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i feel you pain man. its the same why with me.all of use who have friends who get pissed off when we decide not to help them or do something for them for once deserve better thena that but shit it wont change more then likely thats why im a loner most of the time