Socially immature? (Maybe even sexually immature?)

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Just a heads up, I'm not talking psychically.

So. Tenth grade. Everyone dating. Everyone having sex. Everyone rushing through girlfriends and boyfriends.

Not me. I have had one girlfriend my high school career, and I wasn't even into it. Yea, she had a great personality, and she had a nice body, but I didn't enjoy it.

As everyone is staring at girls and talking about how hot they are. I prefer to look at my studies and just have friends with girls (and anyone else too.) I feel really awkward this year because how everyone is talking.

Apparently I'm very flirty, and I don't even know it. I tend to get girls thinking that I'm interested when I'm not. So they start getting all close and stuff. Then I get uncomfortable because I don't like them like that. Then they get all put off because I lead them on.

I do think about making out with some of the girls in my classes. And doing other things too of course. But it's easier for me to think about it then do it. I know that if I'm ever in that situation that I'd back out. I had never made out with a girl until my girlfriend practically jumped on me at her house. Am I just extremely prude? Or something more?

In my honest opinion, it sounds to me like you're a normal kid with a good head on his shoulders. Instead of getting into unneeded high school drama or teenage pregnancy scares, you're focusing on your studies. And that's a great thing. If you are simply not interested in any of the girls at your school, then you're simply not. It sounds like you're not interested in dating, at least not now. This doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Your time will come when you feel like heading out into the dating game.As for the flirting thing, are you really sure you're unaware of it? You can just simply tell a girl that you're not interested in a relationship to save both her and you from some akwardness.

Well, I love to joke around with people and I guess some girls think that I'm hitting on them

Hi dabomb, in some ways it is very good for your school grades not to have the distraction of social and sexual dramas. But I understand your concern that your social development is not keeping pace. It may be just a bit slower for you, but I wonder if poor self-confidence is holding you back? You say "Then I get uncomfortable because I don't like them like that" - I wonder if you don't like them like that because you don't feel confident that you can handle a close relationship?

I ask this, because a lack of confidence can express itself as a feeling of not wanting what your subconcious mind doesn't feel confident of handling.

It's probably my lack of self-confidence that's doing it. I've never had a lot confidence in my self. It really started in elementary school. Then all during middle school I had to deal with a youth pastor who was a total ass hole. He was fired on loads of harassment charges. And now in high school its all piling up. I had a lot of anger issues as a child and went to therapy for it. But we eventually stopped it after a about a year. Perhaps there is something bigger? I think I am a very mellow kid because I've haven't' acted out on my anger since after the therapy.Anyway, this has gone very off topic. Sorry.

I think this isn't off-topic at all. I think it's very relevant for you, and also for many other people in a similar situation. If something makes you distrustful of other people, then it's harder to form close relationships. Sometimes you can be afraid of getting hurt again, afraid of opening up to people, of making yourself vulnerable.