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I have a few things that i just need to sayFirst off,i'm a junior in high school, i smoke weed every once in a while. Am i a stoner? No. I am always worried about getting caught, but then again, i only do it maybe 3 or 4 times a month? And then i get this thought, that maybe i can tell my parents, and they will understand, but i dont want to risk it. I know its a gateway drug, but im pretty sure i have enough self control... I mean, i know they say thats what everyone says, but trust me, i would never do anything else that smoke some weed every once in a while. My second problem is girls. I dont think im unattractive at all, but its my fucking confidence... Most of my friends arent virgins and they really have no problem getting laid, i really dont get it, whats the fucking secret? I can talk to a girl, but i'm to big of a pussy to take things further.My third problem that PISSES ME THE FUCK OFF, is when people think im mexican, or middle eastern, when in fact, im fucking Italian... I just hate it. I get it so much. I really dont know why i am so tan, i never was a few years ago.. It seems like everytime i get in the sun, my tan just gets darker and never fucking goes away... Anyways, i hate it

Originally Posted By: FrankDFirst off,i'm a junior in high school, i smoke weed every once in a while. Am i a stoner? No. I am always worried about getting caught, but then again, i only do it maybe 3 or 4 times a month? And then i get this thought, that maybe i can tell my parents, and they will understand, but i dont want to risk it. I know its a gateway drug, but im pretty sure i have enough self control... I mean, i know they say thats what everyone says, but trust me, i would never do anything else that smoke some weed every once in a while.Two questions:1) If you can stop and you're not a heavy user, then why do you do it in the first place?2) Why do you want to tell your folks? Originally Posted By: FrankDMy second problem is girls. I dont think im unattractive at all, but its my fucking confidence... Most of my friends arent virgins and they really have no problem getting laid, i really dont get it, whats the fucking secret? I can talk to a girl, but i'm to big of a pussy to take things further.Honey, no one cares or should care if you're still a virgin. Sex isn't the goal when meeting a girl. Just work on your confidence and self-esteem. Originally Posted By: FrankDMy third problem that PISSES ME THE FUCK OFF, is when people think im mexican, or middle eastern, when in fact, im fucking Italian... I just hate it. I get it so much. I really dont know why i am so tan, i never was a few years ago.. It seems like everytime i get in the sun, my tan just gets darker and never fucking goes away... Anyways, i hate it Why does something like that make you so angry?

Its not that i cant just stop whenever i want too, but i dont want too. Its fun when im with my friends. We just hangout on his porch, and smoke some weed, and go inside, and watch a movie. We arent hurting anyone, its just a good group of friends, hanging out, and enjoying ourselves.And about the telling my parents my parents part. I guess I just want to be open with them, and be more of a friend. Im a mature kid, i can make my own choices from now on.Secondly, im not worried about having sex, even though that is all i have been thinking about recently. I have a really-esteem and confidence. Its almost like, sometimes my confidence will be high, and then when i go out at night, it just drops along with my self esteem.Lastly, not to sound like an asshole or anything, but I really don't want to look Mexican, or middle-eastern and it just pisses me off simply because i am nothing of the sort, im fucking Italian.

wow. thats the same way i am, with weed. except i smoke once or twice a day. but hey im in a good university and doing good there too. and i didnt even cheat. haha

I think the talk of weed being a gateway drug isn't really true. Any truth in it, I think, comes from its illegality rather than the thing itself.Regular heavy use can lead to mental problems, but that seems unlikely for you. The biggest issue is probably all the nasty carcinogens in the smoke.If you tell your parents, can you handle how they might react?About girls - I think comparisons with other guys don't help. Some of them are sure to be lying about their exploits, anyway. It's what is right for you that matters. If you can talk to girls, I think you're doing well.The pictures you put up long ago looked Italian to me. Perhaps the people who get it wrong just don't know enough.

i know its not the weed affecting my personality, i have felt this way for a long time. I dont know if this is a phase in my life or what but its really aggravating... I hate every aspect about who i am, the way i look, everything! I'm just unhappy with me.

Ok so first of all Marijuana is not a "gateway drug". Generally people get into harder drugs when they hang out with the wrong people, are severly depressed, or just curious. I used to be a "casual pot smoker" but i do not smoke pot anymore. My mother knew and said she would rather me do that rather than drink(which i dont do anyway). My mom was a huge stone in her day and my aunt is still the biggest stoner i know (she supplied me my weed). So weed in my family isnt a huge deal, only you know how your parents will react so base ur decision on how you think they will react.If you are afraid to take things further maybe its because in the back of your mind you know its not the right time to make the move yet you are just anxious to do it to get laid? Not sure on that one as far as confidence, just talk to people. I think talking to girls you dont know more often will help you boost your confidence as the event will grow to become less scary.And lastly about the ethnic mix up. You sound like you dont like being stereotyped. I can see why it makes you mad. I am italian/german and the first thing to come out of peoples mouth when they find out im german is "NAZI!" in a joking way of course but yet its still retarted. Dont let it get to you some people are just ignorant.

Originally Posted By: FrankDMy second problem is girls. I dont think im unattractive at all, but its my fucking confidence... Most of my friends arent virgins and they really have no problem getting laid, i really dont get it, whats the fucking secret? I can talk to a girl, but i'm to big of a pussy to take things further.You're putting the pussy on a pedestal man. Is sex enjoyable? I pressume it is which is why we do it. However the main goal in life is to live man. Breathing is not living. Getting out there and socializing with girls, finding that girl that makes you happy and creating a bond is one of the things on Maslow's Heirarchy pyramid. You can't have a fulfilling life without it man. But at the same time you don't want it to be a vice that consumes you. To build confidence you need to build yourself from the inside out. Your avatar, or representation of yourself, is a mirror image on how you feel on the inside. It works both ways. Looking good makes you feel good. Feeling good makes you look appealing.

Great advice!

The fact that you think weed is a gateway drug kinda bothers me. A gateway drug can be described as "taking X amount of a drug, and needing more the next time to get the same high, and eventually moving onto a different drug to get a better high". Weed doesn't work like that.

It may be true that if you smoke a gram one day, and smoke a gram the next day, your high may not be as good. But I guarantee if you smoke a gram one day, don't smoke the next day, then smoke a gram the day after, you'll get the same, if not a better, high.

Like someone else in this thread said, the only reason it leads people to harder drugs is because of the people you associate with. Quite a few people that smoke weed also do other things, which is how you will likely be introduced to these other drugs.

You just have to make up your mind on what you do and don't want to take.

And do me a favor and please do at least a little research on the things you take. Like I said, the fact you thought weed was a gateway drug shows that you've no idea what weed really is/does.

Originally Posted By: StillSearchingThe fact that you think weed is a gateway drug kinda bothers me. A gateway drug can be described as "taking X amount of a drug, and needing more the next time to get the same high, and eventually moving onto a different drug to get a better high". Weed doesn't work like that.It may be true that if you smoke a gram one day, and smoke a gram the next day, your high may not be as good. But I guarantee if you smoke a gram one day, don't smoke the next day, then smoke a gram the day after, you'll get the same, if not a better, high.Like someone else in this thread said, the only reason it leads people to harder drugs is because of the people you associate with. Quite a few people that smoke weed also do other things, which is how you will likely be introduced to these other drugs.You just have to make up your mind on what you do and don't want to take.And do me a favor and please do at least a little research on the things you take. Like I said, the fact you thought weed was a gateway drug shows that you've no idea what weed really is/does. Excuse me? Do research on what i take? Like im some kind of fucking piece of shit druggie? I smoke weed every once in a while, don't blow things out of proportion bud

Do research on what i take?Uh, yeah? Wow.Never mind I guess, have fun going from weed to heroin (since weed is a gateway drug, right?)

you're an idiot

What a completely ridiculous argument. Nobody who smokes weed calls it a gateway drug. FrankD calling it a gateway drug has to do with his perception of others calling it that.Argument solved.

you're an idiot Says the one who calls weed a gateway drug? Ironic