Ahh nervousnesss

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well, i have a gigantic crush on someone from school, and this is a first. ive never liked anyone from my school before.. but hes a freshman. so hes probably around 14 or 15, and im 16 turning 17. im pretty sure he's noticed me looking, and ive caught him staring at me *giddy school girl squeal* but is he too young? he seems pretty mature, but i really havent had the guts to hold a conversation with him, and that brings me to the problem.... a few days ago i introduced myself, and i was shaking like a leaf! and im pretty sure it was visible..and since then every time ive tried talking to him, i chickened out because i get wayyy to shaky and nervous and i can never think of something to say, and he seems to be pretty shy around people he doesnt know..so i know if i want to try anything im gonna have to start it, which normally wouldnt be a problem. i dont know what it is about him but i really wanna know him but im wayyy tooo nervous around him and i dunno what to do about it...i was thinking of getting myself some caffeine pills because those give me instant confidence, but i cant do that this time. any tips on getting over my shakeyness? and do you think hes too young for me? and btw sorry if i rambled too much

First of all, congrats!Second of all, in all honesty, you really don't have anything to be nervous about. I 100% GUARANTEE that he's happy you're approaching him instead of the inverse. So now that you've made contact, you can start to relax. Unfortunately the only way to get over (or diminish) the nervousness is persistence and repetition. It will not go away completely until you can feel comfortable around him. Each time you see him, smile at him and say hi! He'll enjoy this. After a while it will become second nature to just talk to him and the shakes will go away. It's interesting to know how many guys feel though when we need to approach an attractive girl, huh? Deeper appreciation eh? hehe I'm only messing with you. But seriously, time and time again will calm your nerves. If you want to expedite the comfort level, go up to him and give him a hug. Seriously, try it. When this happens you'll feel more comfort towards him and talking will pale in comparison...

thats what ive been doing but i didnt know that might help, thanks a lot:) but hug him? oh god... lol, id die of a heart attack..

i'll agree with the going up and talking to him and getting to know him more. more u 2 talk more at ease each of you will be. but i wouldn’t go hugging him until the two of you are friends. if your not friend yet and u go to hugging u might freak him out. (i would be) I was a bumbling nervous wreak when I first started talking to Shannon but the more we hung around each other the easer it got.

but was it noticeable? lol, when i get shaky around him it looks like im having a seizure...lmfao

oh yea... my hands and legs were shaking and the stuttering and wut i could get out with out pauses came out backwards. who knows why she thought i was cute. he probably can't tell u are shaking as much as you think.

Celithrathien: Like someone else said, this guy is probably extremely happy that YOU are approaching HIM. Usually, people seem to think it's the guy's job to do that, so I'm sure this kid is not complaining that you are trying to start things off instead of having to wait for him.And like CR said, he probably can't tell that you're shaking as much as you think you are. Or maybe he does notice, and he finds that kinda thing cute, so it's a good thing? Either way, just try to tlak with him some more, maybe meet outside of school or exchange phone numbers to get to know each other better.Good lucka nd have fun

Originally Posted By: CR125but i wouldn’t go hugging him until the two of you are friendsSee the problem with that though, is, once you're put into the "Lets just be friends" category, you cease being an opportunity and just become a friend. While this can be a good thing for long term, when you like someone and they say "Lets just be friends" it's actually quite devastating. I said hug him, because physical contact is much harder to do at first than just talking...once done the rest is cake.  Quote:Treat them like your girl/boyfriend -- and it will be so

u'd walk up to a girl that all u knew about her is her name and hug her? nv..... it don't matter. she already said she would't be comftuble to do that. and if u do it then that's ok..even if she want to try it it;s ok. but no girl bette rcome hug me with out me knowing who she is. i'm not meanign she has to be in the "lets be friends" thing.. i'm just saying she needs to knwo more than his name. but wutever.

Absolutely. People hug all the time man, it's not like I'm going up to her and asking for a blow job or sex. What's wrong man? You don't like hugs? Think it's a sign of disrespect?? Come on, man, let's keep it real.

i don't mind them when i know the person....... but a stranger. no. but it's ok.

thanks a lot guys, your replies are much appreciated.. when i go to school on monday im gonna try talking to him and hopefully not chicken out

I sometimes get nervous talking to people i dont know especially if it is a girl i like. The only way to really overcome it is get comfortable around that person. As far as age i went out with a freshman when i was a junior and it didnt really work out because i found her way to immature. But everyone matures differently so he could turn out to be really mature or immature or somewhere in between. I know when i was a freshman i was pretty immature but like i said everyone is different.

I used to act that way around this guy I used to like, I’ll call him ‘Bobby.’ Every time I would see Bobby I turn into this stuttering, bumbling, shaking wreck. I’d get really nervous when ever he’d speak to me and it felt like my knees were knocking so loud that I just knew he could hear it! I’m serious, my knees would get wobbly, my heart would flutter around in my chest, and my stomach would be tied in knots by the time he’d look my direction. He made me jumpy and I always felt so ‘school girlish’ because of that. I finally decided that I had two choices: 1> I keep acting shy and wanting to hide under a rock every time he’d come near me- or –2> I be brave and walk up to him and say something (even though my legs felt like they were made of rubber). That’s exactly what you need to ask yourself. That may not seem like great advice, but do you really have to lose? I mean, you can continue to shy and shake like a leaf when ever he’s near and miss out on the chance to know if you guys could have a wonderful relationship. I’m not saying run up to the guy and start talking about nuclear fusion or anything, but I am saying you should walk up to the guy and say a simple ‘hi.’ Yes, it’ll be scary at first, but after a while, you’ll feel comfortable enough to be around him and just maybe it’ll turn into something more between you two.

thanks katie, that was pretty helpfulbtw, i gots news! yesterday we had a small conversation lol, and i didnt shake or anything because this time he sort of approached me..kinda hard to explain how that happened but il tryin gym class, everyone was getting changed back in their normal cloths and i didnt bring my sweats so i was standning at the door of the gym waiting for the bell to ring, so i was like the first one there..well he comes over to wait too(its what everyone does...lol) so i look at him and he looks at me and raising his eyebrows(not in a bad way, a friendly sort of way. non sexual.) so i raise mine back at him, that went on for a few seconds then we talked about how football sucks, but its better than softball, and that he's lucky his teacher made them play football while i had to throw around a soft ball. lol sorry about the ramblingness and the crappy typing, im home sick and completely exhausted, but really excited haha

That’s a great start! Do you know any of his hobbies or anything he likes? Ask around (do a little digging) and find out what he likes and dislikes. That way the next time the two of you talk, you can casually work one of his ‘likes’ into the conversation. For example, if you find out he loves comedy, you can steer your next convo towards comedians and ask him who his favorite comedian or what kind of comedy he’s into, or what the last comedy film he watched was. Asking simple questions to the person you're speaking with normally shows that you’re interested in what they have to say and it’ll make them feel comfy enough to open themselves up more to you.Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!

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he looks at me and raising his eyebrows(i do that. i "talk" with my eye brows, eyes and face expressions...
a girl from the coast that would go to the beach with us told me once that i flirt with my eyes. (really i got not clue but i think that's wut she was meaning).

i'd say him approaching you is a very good sign. Now at least when you walk up to him to talk u'll know he's cool with you. well it's the way i see it.

Do you know any of his hobbies or anything he likes? well i know by wut she just wrote he hates football and not crazy about softball (i always wondered why girls base ball was called soft ball instead on women's baseball...) but yea.. now u got something to go on. you can bring up how PE (gym) sucks and ask him like about his hobbies... And yea like Katie Lov was saying. Wut’s his dressing like…. Well I guess first I should ask if u have to wear uniforms lol cuz if so wuts going on in my head is kinda out the door. lol but if you get to wear what you like… what does he wear a lot of? If he dressed somewhat like you (didn’t you say you wear a lot of band tee shirts?) he’s got clue’s all over his shirts! I know for me I wear a lot of tee shirts with either logos ( if a person is wearing a logo they better know wut that logo represents….) or bands. I’ve had a girl approach me at a horse show and ask me what the fox was for. It did lead up to a short conversation. .. She asked I answered then she asked more…. She was like wow you ride dirt bikes too…. lol but that lead us to into talking about horses. Lmao.. If he don’t; wear clues then…. Well I guess back to wut was said before and wut Katie Lov said. lol

i dunno lol, i never actually payed much attention to what he wears..i know he wears jeans and a black hoody that says smosh on the back though..dunno wtf that is

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