Alright, this problem has bugged me for awhile now and I really wanna fix it and would be willing to do almost anything. When im around my family im a very talkitive person, same as around my friends. But when I meet new people or am in a new place I turn into this really quiet guy. Now the problem is, im not a shy guy, at least, I dont think I am and I dont wanna be. Im not really scared of talking at all, the problem is I just dont know what to say. Im not really good at conversations and I get nervous because of that, then I just get shy and dont really talk at all. Or, I do talk but im so worried about what im saying that I talk like a complete idiot. Anyways, im sure theres gotta be something that can make me better at talking to people.
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Being quiet
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It's a good thing you can talk so much. It's a great trait to have in a person.But as for your conversational problems, I understand. It's not that you're shy, it's that you don't know what to say because you don't know the people and their interests and personalities, right? So get to tknow them. I know you say you're bad at conversation, but taking the first step and mustering up enough courage, even when you know you're going to stutter a bit can help you improve your conversational skills and get over that nervousness you feel by making yourself comfortable as best as you could. I know it sounds hard and something you don't really want to do, but if you're bad at something, keep doing it until you get better at it. That's what I think.
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i definitely feel you. i have the same problem as u. i'm only open to my family and friends, but when new people around, i just don't like to say anything for some reason. which is odd, because i don't even know how i made my friends in the first place, right? heh. they think just because i don't talk to them, i'm like stuck up or awkward; yeah, i tend to make things awkward when they shouldn't be. i hate that, haha. but i've been trying to grow out of this phase, i just don't like to be around a lot of people sometimes.it's like some people u meet, u can talk about anything, but others may be kind of intimidating.i never know what to talk about, either.
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Some people have found it helpful to get involved with Toastmasters.
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I have the same exact problem. For me i just have to get to know the person. Sometimes you just have to try to start a conversation and get to know them.