Psychopath?

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ok DO NOT respond to any of my posts again. and i hope your in my sistuation one day. it is my freakin buisness because im around him ALL the time and not by choice.....just stop responding to my posts your a jerk and if i could say more to you i would but im not gonna get kicked off this site because of some bored idiot

Lol wooooo calm down there missy, look your doing a great job but you done what u can so leave the child be fir a faw years like that other guy said his parents will soon get a wake up call so just hang in there.Also whens the wedding day?

Java's one smart cookie, so she doesn't need no one defending her. But... Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickok DO NOT respond to any of my posts again. and i hope your in my sistuation one day.You're talking to a mother. Who else would know better on how to deal with a child?  Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickit is my freakin buisness because im around him ALL the time and not by choice.....What do you mean by that? Are you saying the parents dump this kid onto you all the time?* Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickjust stop responding to my posts your a jerk Just because she says something you don't agree with doesn't make her a jerk. In fact, after reading up on all these posts, I agree with her. I mean, you've done all you can and if the parents don't want to do anything AND your fiancee, what more can you do?ADDED:*Nevermind, I think I found my answer: Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickno he doesnt come to my house. i go to his uncles(my fiances) house and he still lives with his mother(the grandma) and the child is ALWAYS there the grandma watches him every weekend (and i stay the night there on the weekends cause its the only time i really get to see my fiance because of his job) and hes there alot during the week too So, stop going to his house? If they honestly just laugh at you because they think you're crazy, then I don't know what else you can do. Either just get used to it or stop going to your fiancee's house when the kid's over.PSIf your own fiancee thinks you're crazy about his nephew and gets into an argument about it, then I suggest holding off the marriage. If he's going to be your husband, I think he should be more understanding rather than brushing this situation off and let you deal with HIS family.None of my business though.

Thanks hon I was going to let her think what she wants.She doesn't understand I'm raising my 17 year old Neice who is a handful on her own, and my son.

ok, first of all, my fiance doesnt think im crazy he also think the child has a problem, but not a much as a i do. and you may be a mother, but youve never met this kid, so you have no idea about his personality(i have 5 neices and nephews BTW and ive babysat them alot so i know about kids) .and im not going to stop seeing my fiance because of his nephew, i mean thats messed up. and i cant go there when hes not there, because hes there like evvvvveryday ,and my fiance knows i have a problem with the child but he cant keep the child from coming to his house, because my fiance lives with his mother(the grandma)and she watches him almost as much as the kids mother, and the grandma is always trying to get me and my fiance to watch the kid for some stupid reason.

and i bet your 17 year old neice doesnt try to kill animals or slam a car door on your head or throw big metal cars at you!!!!!!!!!!!!

BTW {star} the weddings in fall of 2009 or 2010

Woooooo can i come pretty plz with cherry on top . In a church?

dont you live in england?...dunno where yet more than likely a church though

Awwww yea i forgot about me being here :(......tell me how it goes? if we both still here. Send me some wedding cake btw

ok i will lol. too bad the wedding couldnt be in england, ive always wanted to go there.

If she did I wouldn't talk about it to complete strangers, and even so, It's still none of your buisness what their child does.

England is a very bad place to go too

Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickok, first of all, my fiance doesnt think im crazy he also think the child has a problem, but not a much as a i do.Wait, what? Uh, didn't you say this? Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickwe've argued over his nephew before and it didnt turn out well because he doesnt understand that his nephew has problems and YES i tried to explain it to him but he just thinks IM the crazy one Keep your story straight. I get confuzzled easily. Anyway... Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickand you may be a mother, but youve never met this kid, so you have no idea about his personality(i have 5 neices and nephews BTW and ive babysat them alot so i know about kids) .I was talking about Java being a mama, not me. I don't have any kids at the moment. And I believe you that you've been around kids. I'm from a Mexican family and believe ME, I've been around kids also, since they pop up like daisies. But the problem here is that this child is NOT your kid. Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickand im not going to stop seeing my fiance because of his nephew, i mean thats messed up. and i cant go there when hes not there, because hes there like evvvvveryday ,and my fiance knows i have a problem with the child but he cant keep the child from coming to his house, because my fiance lives with his mother(the grandma)Then why don't you and your fiancee go out, instead of staying at home? You said that you rarely see each other, so why spend your little time with him babysitting a child that isn't your responsiblity? Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickhe cant keep the child from coming to his house, because my fiance lives with his mother(the grandma)and she watches him almost as much as the kids mother, and the grandma is always trying to get me and my fiance to watch the kid for some stupid reason. Okay, the parents won't discipline him and his grandma won't watch him and the uncle doesn't seem to care and YOU get stuck with him? I really hope you think really hard about what you're getting yourself into (i.e. marriage).In my most honest opinion, this child isn't your problem (even though it wasn't in the first place). I think it's your fiancee's family that is the problem. They get YOU to watch this kid, not your fiancee. And when you tell them that this child is out of control, they dismiss your opinion and concern.In the end, what really matters is your own wellbeing. You need to worry about your own life and your own responsibilities. If you really tired to bring attention to this kid's family and they are not budging, then you've done all you could. Time to move and take care of yourself.

Oooookay... Wow. So, in my opinion, kids don't fully understand things like death or pain. It usually has to be explained to them, because all they see is, if I do this, then I get a reaction. I'm sure he didn't really KNOW that the garage door would really hurt your fiance if it closed on him. And a lot of little kids throw fits when they don't get their way.I mean, it's sad about the bird and everything, but there are lots of little kids that accidentally kill pets (for example, my cousin stuffed a cat in his plastic backpack to take to school for show and tell).Also, it really isn't your place to tell someone about their kids, unless they straight out ask for your advice in private (jokes in public about the kid's behavior are not invitations). Trust me, they already KNOW that their kid acts naughty, and it's probably a sore subject (which is why your advice is even MORE unwelcome, since you aren't an "official" member of the family yet, and you don't seem very close to them).Also, if the kid's parents are going through relationship problems, that can really cause a lot of child misbehavior...But have you ever heard of the terrible twos? The threes are just as bad.

my cousin stuffed a cat in his plastic backpack to take to school for show and tellIs it bad if I find this funny?

I kind of did till i pictured it >.>

Okay, i understand that he's not my kid(thank the lord because i'd end up going insane) but it's my business when hes tries to hurt me or someone i love(btw i forgot to mention about a week ago he tried to stab me with a tooth pick, yeah i know just a tooth pick, but it could have been a knife). and me and my fiance have faught about his nephew alot, and he does know the chid has a problem, but like i said, he doesn't think it's as bad as i do, I mean if i said "hey your nephews a psycopath", then he would think I'M the one with the problem,because he's never been around kids before his nephew, and who wants to believe someone in your family could be a psycopath?. and you ask why we don't leave when the child comes over? well we do, but my fiances mom tries to make me and my fiance feel bad if we don't babysit him so we get stuck watching him because of that. there's just soooo much going on that you don't know, but i don't feel like typing it all because it would end up being a book lol. and one other thing i'm not trying to be a jerk, but this child is really not like normal little kids and he's really driving me crazy. the grandma tried to get us to watch him again this weekend but luckily we didn't end up having too, i really can't hardly stand to be around him, which is sad because i love kids but he REALLY isn't a normal child.

what's so bad about england {star}?

Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickand me and my fiance have faught about his nephew alot, and he does know the chid has a problem, but like i said, he doesn't think it's as bad as i do, I mean if i said "hey your nephews a psycopath", then he would think I'M the one with the problem,because he's never been around kids before his nephew, and who wants to believe someone in your family could be a psycopath?.If there's someone who might have a violent problem, I believe anyone would care. But it's obvious that he and the rest of his family doesn't (or seem to mind). I just really don't like how your fiancee is just brushing this kid's problem off and letting you deal with his family. Originally Posted By: StarWarsChickand you ask why we don't leave when the child comes over? well we do, but my fiances mom tries to make me and my fiance feel bad if we don't babysit him so we get stuck watching him because of that. there's just soooo much going on that you don't know, but i don't feel like typing it all because it would end up being a book lol.Your fiancee's mom is doing is playing you like a fiddle. I forget what it's call exactly, but she's manipulating you and using guilt to watch this kid. That is simply not right. It's not fair to you and this kid. He's a child, not a tool.But hey, you know what you're getting yourself in to. You marry this guy and you marry his entire family. So, either think about this whole marriage ordeal or just get used to it.Best of luck to you, honey.