you don't have to go around asking people to like you to be conceited. matter of fact, that's the exact opposite. and I say bull crap to your first comment. you started the thread with "girls are always saying this and that to me and I like it when they do this and that and I don't tell my girlfriend etc etc etc". you said Quote: im a pretty popular guy and i have a lot of girls that like me, and i like the attention..its like i feed of the attention it makes me feel good to have lots of girls like me and sit on my lap or tell me how much they like me and how they want to go out with me..of course i dont tell my gf about these things b/c i love her alot and dont want her to get pissed.are you going to read that and tell me those are not the words of a conceited person. you may not want to believe it but it is. and if you don't mean to then I understand but you can't say you aren't. and again, I don't want to come off as rude or anything but your post is a complete turn off and then how you treat your girlfriend is just preposterous.
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I messed up B.I.G. TIME!!!
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You're a sellout, the end. You dont deserve your g/f and you betetr cherish every last minute you have with her.
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Quote:honestly don't know why people are trying to help this guy. He may be sincere now, but he's going to mess up again in the future. I guarantee it. cuz mandude.. that's why A2A is here. ..to try to help. wut he does with the information given to him is his own. people can ask for help and get subjections one wut to do for the help but in the end it's the one that asked for the help to put the information help to work. ........ ok maybe some one else can say that better. but yea. he needed a good slap in the face to see he’s really in the wrong. now he needs to go and change that wrong to doing her right. but still in the end.....he's the only one that can do that. we (as the ones trying to wake his ass up...(so to speak) can’t change him. only he can change himself. im a pretty popular guy and i have a lot of girls that like me, too. But I don’t like attention.. and I know how to treat my gf. I spoil the shit out of her. lol I’m not conceited but I can be……… I’m one f*n Hottie! LMAO Now dude.. See how all these people are responding to u. not good is it. So u need to check over your self. …wake up. And again………. Not only tell her but show her how you really fill. And if you really fill like messing around with other girls then break up with your gf.
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ok ok, I don't think it's necessary to come down on him so hard. he's got the point lolto the OP, I hope things work out between you two and I pray that you learn to appreciate her more. because from the sounds of it, she's a really special once in a lifetime kind of girl and she deserves more than what you're giving her if it's anything at all. so get your priorities straight before you blow it. good luck
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he's got the point lolHow do you know?This kid's messed up so many times and has been given so many chances. People like that don't just change. They get used to being given another chance, so they see no problem with messing up again.> cuz mandude.. that's why A2A is here. ..to try to helpI guess... but it's quite obvious he's not going to change. He enjoys the way girls act around him, and that's not going to change unless he wants to change.
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i dk.. i kinda whent threw soem simular with shannon... we never were at the breaking up point. but she was soooooooo pissed at me. and she had every right to be. it took a action to happen for me to wake up and see it as it was. wut i did wasn't behind my gf's back...... it was in her face. it started with me letting lindsey hug and put her hands on my chest or leg. and i got hell looks from shannon. and when we were alone i got bitched at. (i deserved it tho) my excuse was.. she's just a friend.. it's how she is. (yea.. she's a slut) then there was when we were at a dance and lindsey had her ass all in my crotch {lap dancing}... every one else was laughing but shannon was steaming...watchign my ex do that to me and knowing that our relationshiop was just about sex.. yea i was a big a sss jerk.! (yea i got into a lot of shit for that too) and then there was when lindsey got the my cell out of my pocket. Shannon had had enough of her and my crap by then and that was the bigggist fight we have ever been in. i was too stupid and blind to see wut was really going on. then i go with lindsey to see her new horse triler wihr lq in it... i could have cheated on shannon. could have got laid and shannon not know anything about it ..... but i couldn't. i made up a nd excuse and i ran.. then it came clearer about all the other shit that she had been doing. and it was all my foult cuz i allowed it. i told shannon wut happend... i understood why she was so mad at me.. i finally got it. i finaly got it that lindsey only wanted to bust me and shannon up so she could have my jabathehut. i've coused Shannon some hardace too... but i relised that she means more to me than a fuck with a slut. I don;t want anythign else to do weiht lindsey....... and she sure as hell was never a firend like i thogut.so maybe all he needs is to be woken up. ...and relise if he don't wake up than he could lose his gf.
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Dude you have gotten about 4 chances to many IMO. It takes 2 to flirt. Girls flirt with you and you obviously flirt back if they keep doing it. You go and hang out with all these bimbos when you have a girlfriend and you lie to her about it to. If you dont get dumped your girlfriend is just as airheaded as you in my opinion. Learn to treat women with respect and if you actually loved her you would have showin it long ago.
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I agree completely. He needs to be waken up.And I still hope his girlfriend breaks up with him. If she's really meant for him, and he's meant for her (as he claims), that will be a wake up call when she breaks up with him.If he shrugs it off and doesn't care, it'll all be for the better anyway.Win-win situation.
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OK so i just got on and i see like 12 new message! oh my ty for the responses guys.WEll anyways its been a really tough few days for us..but 1st let me say a few things...1. Ok so im sorry if i sounded conceited with what i said in my 1st post. I was just saying it like it was, so i can see why some would say im conceited..2. I was given multiple chances..its always been this way in my relationships, ive always been like this idk why..i honestly never GAVE a FUCK ..."BEFORE"3. WE talked today some more..she said she is just about done...she says she loves me, and that she doesnt want to spend her life w/o me...BUT she doesnt know what she wants to do anymore..she says that we have been through thick and thin, but now its so thin thats its transparent SOOO... here's what my resolve is...1. Ill STOP all of it...no more of this going out with these girls that disrespect my gf and my relationship with her. I wont do that.2. I know i was given multiple chances..not just in this relationship but throughout my entire life...with my parents, my past gf's...I have fucked up sooo much. BUT i know that this girl means the world to me, the thought that i truly and deeply hurt her this bad..that she has no trust in me as a person anymore is really really really making me learn and want to grow up! And stop telling lies..or playing games.3. I dont know what to do now...:( i honestly dont...i am honestly the biggest ASSHOLE there is out there, i deserve all the criticicsm im getting, i think i deserve to loose all my cookie points for a loooooooooong ass time..but honestly this has been a wake up call for me. I have never been so scared to lose something like this before, im so scared to lose the one girl that honestly truely loves me and is always there for me. I know i DONT deserve her...:( actions speak louder then words...i can make all the promises i want. I can promise her the world!But that doesnt matter....what i wan to do now is to SHOW HER, that im serious. THat i want a monogamus relationship with her. THat i will never hurt her again!!BUT HOW?! i need her to give me one last chance i'd do anything, this girl is my one love! the only girl i have ever know to truly love mE! I'd do anything !!! IM A HUGE DOUCHE BAG, i really honestly know that what can i do to make this right?p.s. ty very much guys
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I'll believe it if you can come back in a few weeks and say that you haven't done any of the things you sued to do.I've seen many poeple say what you're saying now and just going back to the old ways.
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Lot of pwnage going on in this thread. Carry on.
Seriously though, you're antics are causing you to tread very thin ice. that is all.
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I think some people are being harsh here.We all make mistakes, and not just little ones. We all do things that we shouldn't do, that we know are wrong. We may not all do them repeatedly when we should know better, but I know I do. I could not condemn takumi10 as hopeless without passing the same judgement on myself.I see much evidence that takumi10 is determined to do the right thing in future. Will he keep to his resolutions all the time? Probably not. But if every time he falls he picks himself up and tries again to do the right thing, he is no worse than the common lot of humanity.
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you gotta understand some shit.there is nothign wrong with wanting the attention, fuck Im an attention whore myself.I dont need to seek it out, I never had a problem getting rils.Your problem is that you let them do shit.haveing someone like you is one thing letting them sit on your lap and sucking it up is the problemyour youth is another problemI whored around for many a year before I found the one Im with now.I was honest my whoring, I told them it was about fun and they would not be my gf that I didnt want one and they had no chance of becoming that. If they were Ok with that then I fucked em six ways from sunday, if not we parted ways. Iv been in a relationship now for several years with one girl. I dotn let other girls hang on me or sit on my lap and I dont lie to my GF, she knows where I am and who Im with I dont leave out names becaus she doesnt like them, she trusts me and I trust her and we do shit seperate sometimes but never lie about what it si or who we are with.I could still be fucking 2 or 3 different girls every week, Im commited to the relationship I have with a single one so I dont let outside sources influence me. Sex is easy to get, its only slightly harder than jerking off, its the fact that Im with someone that means I dont have sex with anyone outside of her or let shit like hanging on me happen. Its a matter of respect for my woman and our relationship that keeps me form letting that shti go on.its ifne to like attention, its fine to want it, its another thing to let it go anywhere and yes a girl sitting on your lap is it going somewhere.You lie to her, you want other girls toughing hanging and holding you. Your not ready for a relationship with jsut one, so cut her loose, let her have her life and find someone thats afer what she wants.I was nevre ready till I was 32, theres no shame in not being ready to be with one person even if your fucking 80, the shame is in saying you are and fucking over someone just to get down thier pants or keep them clsoe to you so you feel better about yourself.
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Quote: I was nevre ready till I was 32, theres no shame in not being ready to be with one person even if your fucking 80,my brother is one that likes all the ladies too. I don;t understand him and he don't understand me. He (and his friends) are alwasy saying to me how i could be out doing all theses girls and getting "it" more than them. but i'm not like that.. i like my Shannon. I don't really see how they can go out and date 3 different girls in a week. (some times more...sometimes less) For me i want a girl that like sme for everything and not just my dick and looks. Shanon has showed me (that's why i kep saying show her and tell her) that she cares. My brother and Josh tho.. they don't care... they just want to get laid. I don't knwo wut to tell u (op) to try. your going to have to win back her trust... words isn't going to do that. This is when the showing her is going to come in. By wut u say she's had her last of it... You blow it, she's going to be gone.fist.. to show her.. i would delete that girls coment on myspace and tell her who holds ur heart and let her see it. (that means telling that girl u are not getting back with her cuz u have a girl and u say her name) Thats not just ur showing her ur thowing the other girl to the side but ur telling them all who ur gf is. and dude invite her do things. do everthing with her. i invite shannon to everthing i do......she does the same. I suffer threw her shopping trips and i suffer threw those stupid chick movies with her. but even tho i said suffering i don't mind it cuz i'm with her. that's abotu all i can say. oh yea..and... Yea and most girls like romantic cheesy crap. So be romantic and cheesy………..well u can leave the cheesy out but.. Yea. Go the extra mile to make her smile! (no wonder Shannon calls me a rare find LMAO)
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TY fot the advice...yes i am young, im only 19 years old.I have honestly never with her because i wanted sex..sex for me is something that has to be special.But anyways your right..I think im going to post a picture of me ad her together on our myspace...so maybe she will be happy knowing that all the girls know i have a gf that i really honestly love...ANd update on where she stands..she says she love me and still want to keep it going..BUT!!1. i lost all her trust...and it will take a long time to earn it back..2. I think i pretty much lost all my cookie point for like at LEAST 3-4 months!! ( im not with her for sex honestly) but that really sucks...cause im a guy and i like to be pleasured..3. THIS IS THE FINALLY AND LAST CHANCE I WILL EVER GET!!!!I really got to get this right...honestly i dont want to ever make her feel hurt again..this girl really makes me want to be a better man.. when i ask her how long do you want to be with me..she says she wants to be with me till we are old and grey..and im stroking her hair with my old wrinkly hands like i always do it makes me sooo happy to know i have a girl that love me as much as she does
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Quit being such a tool. Tell her that you can do what you want, its not like you cheated on her or anything (unless you did T_T). You're conceding your power in the relationship by letting her overreact and tightening the leash on you. You make it so that you're lucky to be with her, when you want her to think the other way around.
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Lately that has become my motto, "I am the prize" for the girl...however, there needs to be a line drawn between being self-confident and being arrogant.
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The only thing to do is to make sure she know how sorry you are. Then it's up to her to see if she can trust you again. You should probably let her alone to decide.
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OK! SO i have a new question i want to ask...idk if i should make a new thread or say it here, ill just say it here and if i get not replys ill make a new thread.ok so my gf just asked me yesterday if i wanted to go to her homecomming game with her group of friends. Mind you im in COLLEGE now, and i was already invited to a frat party tonight so i was like ummm, yah sure maybe.I dont mind spending time with my gf, in fact i made plans for us to go to the zoo tomorrow BUT i dont know if i should go to this homecomming game. It just feels stupid for me, a guy who goes to college to go to a high school game. I dont want her friends to be like hey! YOur alyssas bf right? YOUR A FAG! what the hell are you doing here, when your a freshman in college? you should be going to frat parties and tailgating or something! FAG! lol i know thats a little bit extreme but thats just my example.SOo like i dont know what to do or tell her...i mean we are spending time tomorrow together so is it ok for me to go out tonight? im just going with my guy friends to a frat party, im trying to be a good boy.I honestly would go with her...but does anyone else think its gay? Or lame for me to go do that? go to a high school football game when im in college? I dont mind going to her dances with her..but the game is like ;-/
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P.S. i know some of you people are going to try to be ass holes and say something like, stop thinking your all cool get over yourself, stop thinking your to cool to go to a high school foot ball game..cause thats not true, i just feel awkward and lame cause im in college and im in a frat