I feel really bad...

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Hey guys, haven't been here in a while. Things have been going pretty well for me, haven't really found the need to come back here for a while.
However I currently have a bit of an issue I feel really really bad about. So I just met girl a couple of weeks ago and we sorta hit things, but anyway to make a long story short we have gone out several times and are currently in a relationship.
She beautiful, smart, really nice, and totally crazy about me...but I'm her first boyfriend and she is really clingy and calls me all the time(blablabla, you have probably heard this plenty of times). Anyway it's driving me crazy.
That, and she is a horrible kisser, which sucks because I love making out with girls. I kinda wanna dump her but I just feel really bad about it.
Any advice???

You're in the honeymoon stage right now..

This will pass - it's undeniable. You can either wait it out and continue to have fun or not worry about her calling you and just dump her. If she's as good as you say I'd choose to wait it out.

Second: Kissing. Teach her. That is all. It'll be awkward and you'll need to use tact, but it can be done. Some people just need more help than others.

I can't be more extensive as I have to get some sleep. Wait for more posts and do what you feel is best for YOU.

Originally Posted By: blackmanoncampus

You're in the honeymoon stage right now..

This will pass - it's undeniable. You can either wait it out and continue to have fun or not worry about her calling you and just dump her.

that sounds so incredibly wrong in so many ways but whatever.

that sounds so incredibly wrong in so many ways but whatever. Welcome to the real world

wow, i was totally in the same boat as you during the summer. so i met this guy and we hung out a few times. and after like a week of hanging out we started going out and he used to call me alot and im me a lot...i was his first girlfriend ever...and he was a horrible kisser too. i was like great, he's a slobbery-all-over-the-face kisser. but as we started hanging out more, i just kept dropping hints if he wanted to hang out with his other friends he could, without actually bringing up if anyone was clingy. i think at the time, we were both needy of each other somewhat so he didn't feel i was clingy, even though we did realize we were together all the time.in the end, i was still the one who was screwed over because he broke up with me after a month, and i'm still not over him & it's been at least a month now, too..."didn't know what to do with a girlfriend." his feelings for me all of a sudden "disappeared" blah blah. i don't know how that works.but like for the kissing part, by the time we broke up, he got a lot better at kissing...so i guess...that if you continue things with this girl maybe just show her, don't tell how to kiss and then she'll catch on to ur way of kissing...

Originally Posted By: JapanFan14 Originally Posted By: blackmanoncampusYou're in the honeymoon stage right now.. This will pass - it's undeniable. You can either wait it out and continue to have fun or not worry about her calling you and just dump her.that sounds so incredibly wrong in so many ways but whatever. Please explain how it is or sounds wrong. What he's experiencing IS the honeymoon stage. Constant calling, and the little, "I wuv you snookums and kitty cat" blah blah etc. I never said that the feelings you have for a person dissipate, but soon after you get comfortable with the person things just kind of slow down and you realize that the relationship is REAL and it blossoms from there. And obviously if he doesn't like it and it annoys him, than one of his options IS to dump her. Why stay with someone who annoys the shit out of you? Tell me again, Abi, how is this incorrect?

think about it from her point of view first.
this is THE FIRST time you've ever had a boyfriend, and you're excited.
perhaps, think back to the first time you dated a girl.
what were you like?
YOU, should actually be honored that she chose you to be her first boyfriend rather than other guys.
I'd say to give her some time to adjust to the feeling of having a boyfriend.
and because you're her first, i suggest you don't just suddenly break up with her.
put some distance between you two first and eventually have a mutual breakup.
therefore she won't be scarred for life, and get suicidal and never be able to trust guys again.
i don't know. i don't know how other girls think or react.
so just be careful and think about how she would feel.
and i absolutely agree that you two are at a honeymoon stage right now, so give it some time.

btw.
honeymoon stage means that you two are totally infatuated with each other and can't get enough of each other...for now. after a while, (once the stage passes) you'd start getting sick of each other...and this is the number one reason why teenagers break up after two weeks. their infatuation towards each other wears off. and when they no longer feel attraction, they take a 'break' or just end it and move on. a vicious cycle.

"think about it from her point of view first."That's good advice for communicating and getting along with all kinds of folks in life.

I agree, and I used to be like her when I had my first girlfriend and she dumped me on Valentine's Day. I was like that once, and when I was, it was because I did not know CRAPPPPPP about what a relationship is like. But I was probably only that way because she said "I love you" too fast and got me lost in thoughts that weren't true. However, if she is like me in this case, then she probably doesn't know how to be in a relationship. After a while, her constant excitement will wear down, though longer than regular relationships because this is her first, after all. If she had just given me enough time to calm myself down though... Anyways, I say give her a little time, but if she becomes too invasive and too insecure, then you've got to talk to her about it. But that time hasn't come and hopefully won't. Good luck!

thanks for all the advice guys. I'll wait it out a bit longer. It's just I don't feel that spark anymore from when I first met her. She just seems so boring to me right now.

Ouch. How so? Is it because she's gotten from very nice to annoyingly nice? As I said, and many others, that's to come to pass, but if it's a thing on she'll seem boring whether or not she changes... I don't know what to tell you.I'm not the best person to turn to for relationship help, you see? I just work well in what people think when simple matters happen to them. You can say I'm too inexperienced in this kind of thing... kind of. I've SORT OF been in her position, but those two situations can be pulled easily apart with differences that change everything. Anyway, I guess... wait for another input? But don't totally disregard mine - I think it holds SOME value to the least... I would say so. Anything is worth something, no matter how small

That's what she said.I'm sorry but your last sentence was practically begging for it and I just couldn't help it.

Unless I can get better

Quote:honeymoon stage means that you two are totally infatuated with each other and can't get enough of each other i been with sahnnon for nearing 2 years (in another month) and we're still in the "honeymooner" stage. lol i mean if honeymoon stage means wut is quoted lol dances she'll be over in bout 30 mins... it's almost time to be bad....

Ah, score for CR125, huh? :grin: