Has anybody ever had a problem with their girl or guy going out with the opposite sex? Or rather be jealous when they talk to other male friends or female friends? For example, virtual_star and I were at a convention when these three guys went up to her and then started talking to her about final fantasy, well me being the dumb guy that I am got jealous and said, well me and my GIRLFRIEND have heard of it and well she enjoys it more than I do. and when this was happening I had my arm around her. Fortunatly she just laughed it off, and said it was cute. Anyway my point is has any one here ever had a moment like that when they shouldn't worry about it? I was just wondering cause I'm hoping I'm not alone on this. Thank you all for your time!
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Crisis Of Jealousy And Trust
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I think I have, but I've tried my best to forget about all that stuff now. Though I think remember feeling a bit insecure... I mean, well, under certain conditions I would and get all nervous like a rabbit on steroids. But if I trusted the person, no. That's how I should really be and that's what I expect of me.
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my shannon can be like that. and i dk.. i guess i am too in a diffrent way. she will hang on me and cuddle on me when other girls are talking to me. (but then she does that when were alone too...) Shannon is not afraid to let no girl know she's with me. for me... i don't have a chance of hugging on her.. she's alwasy hugging on me anyway lol but when i bust some dude checking her out i step into their way. ..yea i know what their doing.. not going to do that to my gf. i don't see it as Jealousy. it's more of a protective thing for me tho.. i do the same when guys look at my mom, sister and ash. lol.. shannon is the only one that has picked up on what i do tho. lol as far as like if guys come up and talk to her.... i don't mind.
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Thanks guys for the replies I really apreciate it! But something else has come up that I didn't feel like making a new thread about. As some of you already know, Virtual_star and I are together. Now as some of you also know Virtual_Star has been depressed all this week now here's the part where I want your opinion. All this week except for monday I have not seen her. Last night I was speaking to her via aim. I asked her if we were going to hang out today and she said that she didn't know because one of her coworkers had called her and informed her that he found some place where they were interested in hiring. She then told me that she is having a conflict because she doesn't know if we could hang out and go back to my place because that guy asked her to go with him and that he would pick her up at 6:30pm and the moment I heard that I got really really pissed off. I then told her that I was upset even though I shouldn't be. And I also her that I felt like I was being an insensitive jerk and being selfish because I don't want to get in her way of being happy and succesfull. She said I wasn't but I still feel that way. Anyway we ended up deciding that we wouldn't hang out today and that we will see each other on saturday because that is our monthaversary. And I said okay. Now, this guy she went out with, I don't know him I just met him twice. I don't know what kind of guy he is. He might try to hurt her or he might not and that's what's killing me inside because I trust her, just not him. Now what I am asking is that I havent seen her for practically all this week and considering since the state she's been or rather was in made me feel so worried and so scared I have been crying all week. I want to know if she was not considering my feelings by not going out with me all week, during which I have been a nervous wreck over how she has been feeling, and then deciding to go out with some coworker, who I don't even know, early in the evening then spending time with her fiancee, who has been freakeing out and who still is over her emotional state. I know I am the one being the insensitive selfish jerk. But what i want to know is am wrong or right by saying that she was being inconsiderate. I need you guys input because I am dying of anger and of fear that this guy might try to hurt her. Thank you for taking your time to read my post I really do appreciate it. :angry: :frowning: :cry:
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I don't usually have that problem because I realize now that people are retarded lol. But you're so much better than my bf lol. He gets so jealous and it's so cute. And he's a big guy, not huge but he's not someone you would go up to and pick a fight with.
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Originally Posted By: JapanFan14I don't usually have that problem because I realize now that people are retarded lol. But you're so much better than my bf lol. He gets so jealous and it's so cute. And he's a big guy, not huge but he's not someone you would go up to and pick a fight with. Thanks japanfan14 for saying what you did. I just don't want to become that guy who gets all jealous and angry at his girl over her just talking to some guy. I would rather kill my self (and I mean it I would)than to turn into that scum who cheats and tries to beat the crap outta of some guy who simply says excuse me to Virtual_Star. But I feel so terrible I am litteraly crying right now I'm just so scared hurt and angry. But like I said I trust her not him. Again thank you for taking your time out to read my thread/post.
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Holy crap...
Originally Posted By: JEDI-ALCHEMIST
Has anybody ever had a problem with their girl or guy going out with the opposite sex? Or rather be jealous when they talk to other male friends or female friends? For example, virtual_star and I were at a convention when these three guys went up to her and then started talking to her about final fantasy, well me being the dumb guy that I am got jealous and said, well me and my GIRLFRIEND have heard of it and well she enjoys it more than I do. and when this was happening I had my arm around her. Fortunatly she just laughed it off, and said it was cute.
You know pretty well that I'm not in a least bit jealous when you talk to your ex. I trust you completely, so fortunately, I don't have to deal with that.And may I add, to prove that I'm not jealous when it comes to other girls, I remember quite clearly in that same convention you were staring (for 30 seconds) at that girl's ass? And what did I do? I laughed and thought it was cute.
Originally Posted By: JEDI-ALCHEMIST
Now what I am asking is that I havent seen her for practically all this week and considering since the state she's been or rather was in made me feel so worried and so scared I have been crying all week. I want to know if she was not considering my feelings by not going out with me all week, during which I have been a nervous wreck over how she has been feeling, and then deciding to go out with some coworker, who I don't even know, early in the evening then spending time with her fiancee, who has been freakeing out and who still is over her emotional state. I know I am the one being the insensitive selfish jerk. But what i want to know is am wrong or right by saying that she was being inconsiderate.
Wow.First off, we talked about this all last night and we both agreed that it would make sense to go out all day on Saturday and I go with my coworker to that job meeting. I didn't realize how messed up you would be until I read this thread. It's not that I wasn't being considerate, because I was. I told you first about it and you said you were okay with it. Plus, we have Saturday. It's just one more day to wait. Really honey, relax.
Second, I told you also that I was feeling better. Why would you worry yourself to the point of tears? I'm fine, really. You're going to make yourself sick. :frowning:
Originally Posted By: JEDI-ALCHEMIST
I would rather kill my self (and I mean it I would)
Shut up.Originally Posted By: JEDI-ALCHEMIST
But I feel so terrible I am litteraly crying right now I'm just so scared hurt and angry. But like I said I trust her not him.
You know I love you and I hate to see you upset. Just relax and know that everything is okay. I swear, I will kick your ass if you get another panic attack.And if you really want to know, he didn't try to pull a fast one. We just talked a lot and I met his GIRLFRIEND!
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O_O Dude do I have egg on my face. And that's an understatement. And as for me checking that girls ass out, she was wearing fishnet stockings and I imagined you wearing them and I litteraly melted in my pants. And you're right I shouldn't have stressed and I'm sorry and what I meant by killing myself I meant start to eat fatty foods and the like. Not litterally do it.
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Shh! That's supposed to be a secret suprise. :blush:
And eating yourself stupid with fatty foods WILL kill you. :P
Anyway, I just hope you're feeling better. :smile:
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Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarShh! That's supposed to be a secret suprise. And eating yourself stupid with fatty foods WILL kill you. :PAnyway, I just hope you're feeling better. First, YES MA'AM! Second, that's true your right I guesse I'll feel dead cause I would become an agent of evil or some dumb obi-wan stuff like that. And yeah I feel better thanks
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you would kill yourself? that's scary. get that checked out. virtual_star, jump on that lolI always freak out when people say stuff like that whether they are serious or joking. it's not something to be taken lightly.
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It's not like that at all. I trust her to the ends of the earth it's just that I watch alot of law and order: svu and well you know how sometimes on that show they have stuff like some guys fiancee goes out with her male friend and he ends up killing or raping her and well that is my biggest fear. If I can't keep her safe then what kind of man am I? And Japanfan you're right I shouldn't speak that way. I meant to say that I would end up hating myself for the rest of my life if end up doing that.
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Those shows aren't realistic at all. They are based more on people's fears.
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Exactly why I was afraid that day. :frowning: