Alright so my girlfriend is bisexual. Though she's constantly worried about the issues of cheating in general.She got drunkish at a party, and asked me if she could make out with one of her chick friends, I said go for it and she laughed and said she was joking. I said, whatever, but if you really want to, go ahead.She did, and she called me later getting all depressed about it acting like she did something horribly wrong, I told her I was fine with it and it didn't bother me.After a few days she was ok, but then my friends started laughing and saying, it doesn't matter if you gave her permission, it's still cheating, and now she feels bad about it again.Do you think she's over reacting to the matter?
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She's over reacting right?
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Not at all. It's obvious that she cares a lot about you.I think you just need to talk to her and keep reasuring her that you are okay with what she did and that it's going to be fine. She feels like she cheated and it's a big deal to her.Let her know also that it doesn't matter what your friends or her friends or what anyone else think what she did was cheating. It's how YOU feel. And since you're okay with what happened, let her know that that's all that matters.Hope that made sense, lol.
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Your friends are morons. If you knew about it and gave her permission it's not cheating. It is, to a limited degree, an open relationship, even if that openness is one sided.Don't listen to your friends, take V.S's. advise and reassure your girlfriend that your okay with it and that's all that matters. Just talk it out with her.________________________________________________________________As a side thought, that I have no indication for in your post, are sure your girl isn't upset because you were fine with it. Is it possible that maybe she feels a little hurt because you weren't jealous.It's just food for thought. I have no reason to think that from anything in your post, it just comes from my own experiences with women.
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I second that.
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I'll fourth that. (Someone else can third it.)
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I'll third and third in a half it
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Hell, I'll 37 3/8th's it.
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It's cheating. In my opinion with or without permission it is still cheating. If virtual_star were to let me do that I'd let her dump me. I wouldn't do it anyway though. Sorry if you find it offensive, just my opinion.
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Originally Posted By: JEDI-ALCHEMISTIt's cheating. In my opinion with or without permission it is still cheating. If virtual_star were to let me do that I'd let her dump me.1) It may be cheating to you, but to him, it wasn't. And that's what matters.2) If you and I were in the same situation, why would I dump you for something I said it was okay to do?You're such a dork, but I can understand where you are coming from. You're one of those people who believe cheating of any kind is a huge issue.
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Yeah, you are right I guesse the reason why I tend to make it a big deal is because I've been cheated upon so many times. That is until I met the perfect woman, Virtual_Star. But yeah you have a point. In my opinion I think I was taking this personally even though it isn't about me . So I have decided to change my mind and say no it's not a big deal. Tell her that you love her and that it's all okay. Trust me thefalenlight take her out to dinner and show her your okay with this and things will be back to normal in no time!
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Originally Posted By: JEDI-ALCHEMISTThat is until I met the perfect woman, Virtual_Star.You're such a little dote!