Me and my girlfriend have been together for a few months and all we have done is make out. Lately though, we have both been getting very aroused, and we grind and she let's me touch her down there. The wierd thing is though, she let's me rub her clit, but after a few minutes she wants me to stop. Is this normal? I don't know what's wrong, if it's something I'm doing or if she just doesn't want to orgasm, which doesn't make much sense to me. Someone please explain what could be going on.
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I don't know what's wrong
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"If you don't use even a little (lots of) spit on the tip of your finger..."Spit? That's a new one for me. Since your down there anyway, why wouldn't you just dip your finger in the honey hole, as needed, and use her own natural lubrication. When the lube starts to where off your fingers you just run 'em through the wet middle and your all lubed up again and ready to get back to the pleasure button.
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Well we do talk when I'm rubbing her down there and she does say she enjoys it, so I don't really think that's the problem. But she doesn't want me to "dip my finger in the hony hole". I've tried before and she says she doesn't want me to, though I'm not sure why.
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Then your guess is as good as ours.Why don't you simply ask her? You can ask her things like "Does that feel good" or something like that while you're rubbing her.
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I do talk to her though! Whenever I ask her what's going on she always says "I don't know". I've asked her many times but she doesn't know why.
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It sounds to me that she doesn't feel 100% comfortable with you fingering her.
The only other thing I'm thinking of is you may be too rough down there. If you rub too hard, it hurts like hell.
I know you say you talk to her, but is she really being honest? I'm not calling your girlfriend a liar, but I think she should be open enough to tell you, plain and simple, what she likes or doesn't like or if you're being too rough or anything of the sort. It's kinda hard (for me at least) to believe that she "doesn't know".
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Do what I do, ask her before doing it and tell her if she likes it or not. Also aske her to put her hand on yours so she could show you how to do it. It'll be fun for the both of you, trust me. :wink: :smile:
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Try an "accidental" slip just enough to lube your finger. If done quickly a few times, it may change her mind. Dont concentrate too much on the same area the whole time. Maybe your doing it too hard or too soft, get her to tell you what feels better. I am sure that she masturbates at home by herself so she would know what feels best. She just has to tell you.
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She's told me she's never had an orgasm before. She also tells me she likes it when I touch her down there. However, after a while she wants me to stop, but I have no idea why.I ask her if it hurts, but she says it doesn't, and she's pretty open with me. I really have tried everything, but I don't really know what else to do.
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From personal experience, when my boyfriend rubs my clit for too long, it gets to the point where it gets red and begins to feel uncomfortable. Maybe this is the same for your girlfriend.Bottom line is don't let this get to you. Understand you can't do one thing forever, especially on the most sensitive part of the female body. Pleasure her when it's time to stop and move on to something else.No worries, it's not the end of the world, honey.
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All of your advice is helpful, really, but she doesn't let me finger her for more than like ten minutes anyway.
I just don't get it. I figure orgasms are like chocolate, and she is like my very close friend who has NEVER had chocolate! I know, NEVER had chocolate, how crazy is that? I love chocolate and I would feel like something is missing in my life without chocolate! She's never had chocolate, so I can't even imagine how empty her life must be, I mean without chocolate life would probably suck. And I know once she has chocolate she'll like it and definetely want more... I mean everybody likes chocolate!!!
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You don't know much about the female orgasm, do you?Honey, for us girls, it takes TIME to reach an orgasm. It can take days to YEARS until we learn what makes our body reach that point of pleasure. Just because you finger her for 10 mintues doesn't means she's going to get one.Also, understand that having an orgasm isn't the point. It's about having fun with your partner.Again, it's not the end of the world, so just relax.