OCD - Not about me

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Ari was diagnosed with OCD. This is neither a suprise, nor new to me. I've long since known about his eccentricities, and always thought he knew, however now that he's been diagnosed with this, he's gotten quite depressed, and it's affecting his relationship with Raspberry and Joeseph. I won't get into the work end of it, because that would take far too much time to explain. How do I cope with his new found depression, and how do I try to explain things to Joeseph so he doesn't feel forgotten/not important?

Does everyone know these people? I must have misssed the first episode of this Telenovela.

It is hard to find out that there is something wrong with you, whether it is physical, emotional, or mental. Ari will adjust in time, and be back to himself.In the mean time, Joeseph needs to just be told the truth. He needs to know that Ari will be back on board soon, and that he is just sad right now. Are they treating the OCD? or is it not so severe as to really mess up life?

Java's talking about her family, if that's what you meant.

Oh, yeah. That's what I meant. I'll stay out of this one, I have no clue as to who is who...

maybe its the diagnosis thats got him fucked up.You cna know you suck, but when somenoe poitns it out to ya it really hits ya. Maybe he knew he had some form of it but to have a medical pro dignosis is what really made it real and got him thinking on it.as to little joey, your just gonna hve to talk to him, explain that aris sick, hes getting better, once hes better shits back to nromal, or atleast some close resemblence of normal for your house.being dignosed makes it real, before it was a maybe.

This morning before I got on and read the replies I actually sat down with Joeseph because he asked me why Ari wasn't playing dinosaurs with him. I told him basically exactly this: "Papa's not feeling well, remember when you had the flu two weeks ago? It's kind ofl ike that. He doesn't wanna play or do anything right now. We justneed to be patient for a little while." Joeseph then went intot he kitchen and made Ari some Hot chocolate. i swear to god, this kid is amazing. Words cannot describe the emotion that I had when he did that. Ari... Has a history of mental problems in his family, three of the last generations developed some type of schizophrenia, and I dunno. I think he's got it wrapped up in his head like it's only a matter of time. He promised me we'd have dinner tonight, just us. I hope we can... I dunno, work it all out or at least get him to open back up to me. He's so scared that I'll think less of him because of this or something silly like that.

Ari's my husband, Joeseph is our six year old son who we adopted, and Raspberry is his neice that we are taking care of, she's on the forums under raspberrytuesday or raspberrytues, I can't remember which.

just because Im an asshole, not to mennion a music fan, shouldnt it be Ruby Tuesday instead of rasberry?

he is only headed down that road for 100% sure if he lets shit like that eat at him, noone knows for certian hell endup like that or he wont, being dignosed with it doesnt mean hes gonna end up in a psych ward, he needs to understand that. letting it eat at him and constantly thinking about it though, thats jsut as good as having the whole blown disorder, and depending on how it effets him could even lead to it.
thas nota professional opinion, just a personal one, I dont knwo alot about it, but it seems to me the mind is a powerful thing, thinking your gonna end up that way could be accomplished by beliving it.
like I siad, just my opinion, I have no facts to support it.

That's what I'm worried about. As I a scientist, I concede the power of suggestion and as a wife, I'm worried sick. I've never seen him so depressed, honestly. It's not the end of the world, it's only a small OCD disorder, and it's really not terribly bad, but he's treating it like the end of the world.And Raspberry is her actual name snickers the only full blooded jew i'll ever know named Raspberry.

I wonder if the idea of a mental disorder of any sort carries particular horrors for him?

I think it does... We talked and talked and talked all day and night (well, part of the night, the rest was spent doing other things >.>) and one of the things that he said that really stuck out to me was "If I have this, then how long till I get like my grandfather, and how long then till I'm completely lost". Right now he's out on medical leave for work... granted he didn't have much going on, but a trip to Burma was cancled, as were several others.

I just wish it would finally calm down for us.

it takes a while for some one when they get diagnosed with something. It still bother's me when i think about wut i have. when i was first diagnosed (not with ocd but with ptsd) he's was liek some people do get over it.....then he went on about how it depends on some factors. then i started seeing a nother one and he diagnosed me with the same but he called it complex.....then my last one said i was chronic ptsd. every time i chnaged therpist they have to do there own tests and come up with wut they think. i guess it's a good thing cuz my very first therpist diagnosed me as bipolor....
well u think ur confused... lol the one i have now i talked to him abotu the differences... basical he said the word infront is just telling him to wut degree it is... ok.. fine. but when he was explinign to me they kinda sounded the same to me.. then he told me the bad news.. i will aways have this...........forever. the scary thing is i hav ethe same thing as war vets. that's some scary shit... never know when it will play up, never know when mmight have a flash back, or freak out, or somthing set it (me) off... and then the fact that i's for life.........never going away.
i can see how he's depressed and worried.

it's easey for u to say "I just wish it would finally calm down for us." when you haven't been diagnosed with a life long.... problum. (well mine is a problum... i dk about his degree of ocd, i'm sure he see's it as a problum tho.)

It just seems like we always have some sort of drama going on. I love him, and I'm patient, he can take as long as he likes to work through this, I just want to be included in helping him, you know?

actually i don't know....Your asking a lot of him… he’s just been told he has cod. It’s not like a doctor telling you that you have a cold. I dk what to tell you….. Your just going to have to put up with the drama I guess…… my parents do. my siblings do. My gf even has too. it’s why there all better off with out me around. I guess you could se eif he would be willing to go talk to a 2nd doctor or even his.. And ask questions about cod. And talk about his degree of it and ask about maybe things he’s asking like.. Will it effect his future… maybe it make him feel better. I dk…

Joseph is your son? Who is Raspberry?I have no younger siblings but my mom always has kids around (cuz she gives riding lesions) Theses kids love me…… always joking around, begging me to ride with them, hanging on me, trying to get me with the water hose, run over me with their horse & and just stuff…. When I go down deep so that I can’t fake a smile or go into one of my I don’t want to be bother’s moods.. They always ask my mom , sister, and dad where I am. Because me or any one in my family don’t want no one to know.. They say I have health problems (not really a lie either) So the kids & the teens know I have health problems. So now when I’m not out in about or doing my work in the barn they tell my mom to tell me to fill better soon. Last year year when I got out of the hospital one of mom;s younger students (she’s 8 now) made me a get well card. It was funny…she drew stick horses, hearts , balloons, and theses things that kinda looked like bikes. On it.

Raspberry is His neice that we're taking care of. Things are better, he's working towards being back to his old self. I'm paranoid that I'm prengant again, haven't told him yet. He doesn't need that right now.

why can't you go to a doctors anfd get a pregnacy test done... it would end the paraioidness...........wouldn't itgood that; she;s doing better..........

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it's why there all better off with out me around.
I don't believe that in the slightest. We all have to put up with other people's weird ways (just as they have to put up with ours), but it doesn't mean their company isn't well worth it.