Where should I start? Alright, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and three months. My first long commitment. I was caught up in a torrent of passion and joy for a relationship after 3 years of complete loneliness. However, now my relationship is rolling downhill. My boyfriend and I used to constantly fight, now there are nothing fights like the tone of your voice, or the look you gave me fights. Somehow I feel like I'm not attracted to him, nor sexually enticed by him anymore. It makes me feel guilty to drop him just like this. but we broke up and got back together, in one day. I'm not quite sure how to make it short but it was love, now its just letting go of the past.Currently we're kind of still dating but it won't last long. We're in the midst of another break up. Sadly.Another topic, there is an asian MAN lol, at my work place. He's everything my boyfriend isn't. he actually pays for his stuff, he has a car, has a job, seems sweet and motivated. Plus bonus is he speaks cantonese. Lol a language I speak. He's very attractive and I feel butterflies in my stomach everytime he's around. I like him, bottom line. Another girl does at work too but I'm better haha. But I have only known him for 3 weeks, and talked to him a handful at times. One time I was trying to call my bf to talk things out. But he didn't pick up so then blankity blank(the guy I like) asked Are you trying to call your boyfriend? Then my friend came in and asked ARE YOU JEALOUS. I got really embarassed so i told her to shut up. Then she told me after I left he responded by a shrug, and said i don't know with a wink. That made me feel good he was a little "caring" about me But then today I asked what he was going to do this friday. and he told me he had a homecoming skit so i was bummed. I told him I had a question but never mind. So he asked what was it? I told him I was going to ask him to watch a movie. So he responded by saying," Oh! well I have homecoming skits to go to, maybe, i can't. I felt kind of rejected that he couldn't go but i know it doesn't mean he's not interested....You think I have a chance?So my question is after this back story...how should I approach this guy? Am i rushing myself to get into another torrent of passion and lust? I don't want to ruin a good thing. but I wanna get to know him. He knows i just broken up and i got a tiny teary eyed from it....what you guys think of this situation? You think he likes me too?
Whats going on?
So...are you still with your boyfriend or not?If you want to go out with this guy at work, you need to deal with your current relationship first. Either fix it or end it. Don't run into a new relationship without making a clean cut break from your boyfriend. You don't want to bring baggage with you.To me, it sounds like you're desperate for a new relationship and are just rushing into this a bit fast. But if you feel ready to play the dating game again, then go for it. Just be sure you're single when you approach him. He knows you have a boyfriend, so you don't want him thinking the wrong thing about you. If you've only known him for three weeks, how are WE supposed to know if he likes you, lol. You just have to summon all your courage and ask him out and see how it goes.Good luck!
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Hmmm maybe I should be more open about my situation. my current boyfriend, who I'm iffish about. He's gotten me pregnant, twice. But it takes two to make a baby, right.
Well, I had to pay my parents all the money that I owed them for the first abortion. My bf paid only $200/$2000 of it and I had to pay the rest through my job. I wanted him to get a job so I wouldn't have to pay for all of it... The baby was 6 months and well it wasn't pretty...ehh. It hurt a lot for my family and myself. one time he told me didn't care what my parents thought...ehhh thats not good. He hasn't been the best boy for me. We had an embarrassing moment as school that everyone found out about and well I had a bad year on that. He got expelled I got suspended..ehhh yeah. Top of that I wanna grow up, be responsible and be on my own. my bf is at a different stage of his life. He wants to stay a kid, not get a job and wants to always have "fun." We're at different levels right now...and its just a lot more different. After all these experiences I don't know if I still wanna be with him. He didn't learn a single thing from this...I did...since eh...it was a lot for me to handle alone.
I also buy him clothes, toys, and waste a lot of money hoping to make him happy...but it doesn't make me feel good that I feel like his mother. Sometimes when we argue he calls me a golddigger. Cause I want a man with money and he doesn't have it. He always says he'll change...but I see no changes...
They're all empty promises which crushes my hopes for him everytime.
Even if I do love him, I feel like he pulls me back...a lot. Its not good for me to stay even if I have a tiny twinge that holds me back.
he says he'll do better at school so we can go to college together but so far...I don't think he'll graduate...ehhhh
1 - Yes, your current boyfriend sounds like a complete dickhead, get rid of him now.
2 - The only way you can know if he likes you is if you ask him out.
3 - Why the hell did you wait until 6 months for an abortion? There is currently a debate about abortions in the Community forum and some people would eat you alive!
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The facts are in front of you. Like I said, either fix it or end it now. It's all up to you.
No matter how gifted, you alone can not chang...
Aren't we a happy little clam, eh Helms?
I guess if you want to talk in a literal sense; yes, ALL relationships do end (even in death, if you want to be technical) however; this society is very throw-away, we have a 50% divorce rate after 5 years, when things go wrong; we just break up...no counseling, no compromise, just "fuck-it" and walk away.
To our OP, if you really REALLY believe you've run out of options to repair the relationship, then do try to move on; but make sure you've exhausted them.
lol sorry for not replying for a whole day. I had work. My ex and I openly talked about our problems on the phone and tried to work it out. I realize I'm just rushing things and being way too desperate for this guy at work. I have so much history with my ex that I just gotta give it one more try before I am really sure whats going on.
The guy at work, so people at my work are really nosy and they asked him what he thought of me. His response was," she's cool." That just drew a blank for me. To me, it means he just wants to be friends. Correct me if I'm wrong but if he did like me I think his response would not be so...casual. He called me this morning which caught me off guard, but only to ask if he could switch schedules with me...at that moment I realized...he doesn't feel that way about me. Because this was the only time he tried to call me and it was to switch schedules. Makes me feel a lil used...
I kinda still feel bummed that I don't think he likes me but I'm happy also that me and my ex are trying to repair our crumbled foundation. Lol.
Oh! lol, just rambling here. My ex came to visit me at work =D he got me some sushi..which was nice. I ended up just hugging me at the end of the night and feeling really good about it.