I'm seventeen years old and I'm a virgin. My bf and I have been going out for a while and we really love each other. We both really want to take our relationship to a physical level, but I'm don't want to do it until I know for sure all the consequences... Please let me know you're opinions. (He's a virgin as well so there's no chance of STD's). I have no moral qualms about the subject I'm jsut worried physically. Please help.
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Should We?
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I think some of the consequences' intensity would be based on your emotions and certain insights on things and the actual relationship between you and him, as well as his emotions. Others will remain the same for all people, but there are just some things in every situation that will be affected by your point of view on things.
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If you're not ready, you're not ready.
Learn everything that there is to know about safe sex, like birth control for both you AND him.
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Personally I would wait a bit longer. I lost my virginity when I was 13 and I know that's not the case here with you. But it may seem like you really love him but ask your self deeply and seriously do you really love him? You being seventeen and all, (no offense whatsoever) well, teens tend to rush into things and I am a prime example for reasons I stated earlier. Just play it safe is what I'm trying to say. Your virginity, once lost, is something you can never get back. And believe me I wish I would have waited. Not a day goes by that I wish I hadn't lost it because now that I think about it, it's something that is truly truly valuable and I wish I would have lost it to the person I truly love the most more than life itself, my fiancee. So just relax if your love is really strong like you say, you wont rush into this because that's what it kinda sounds like to me. But again I mean no offense. Besides there is other stuff that's physical besides sex. And like Virtual_Star said, look into all the dangers and risks because even though he's still a virgin as are you, there are still dangers!
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hey, if you do end up having sex, at least you can have pride in your first time. Mine was fun but not with someone i cared about at all. im not going to get into that. i have a question though. who brought up the topic? you or him or was it like mutual?also, have you tryed any other forms of sex? aka oral, handjobs, and so forth...