Oy ><
I don't like to see you mad :frowning:
Need to say..then i'll go..
Oy ><
I don't like to see you mad :frowning:
neither do I. and it takes alot to make me mad. obviously, someone enjoys seeing me angry.
thats fucked for u to say ive been PMing you. Because i havent and Im never on here? And that person I talked to.. who was also the ONLY person I talked to about this agreed with everything i said.. and thinks that you should stop being babied! that u shouldnt be able to get away with everything.. or blame everything on something that happened to u in the past
ohhh kay then, we've already possibly lost CR, why the deuce do you people keep arguing with each other, its supid and pointless. you think your gonna solve anything by blaming and pointing fingers? nope, your just gonna hurt the board. If you really have a bone to pick with someone, thats why the PM button is so conveniently located. I honest to god dont know why you are all still having this conversation, its pointless bickering and underhanded slights, nothing more, so for the love of god, forgive and forget. I don't know why I of all people am having to say this, i have trouble controling my temper some times, I have even flipped out at people on the boards before, but it rarely caused a smackdown. Grow up everybody, your worse than a group of grade nines...
Your a host of contradictions damien.>>>"My post wasn't an attempt to belittle Caleb or be insensitive toward him.">>>" It's time for Caleb to put on his big boy panties and be a man about it.">>>"Once again, I am not here as a professional...">>>"...but he is a Therapist...maybe he knows what he's doing.">>>"...why not in private. Maybe I want people to see I'm not a heartless bastard who hates you.">>>"I could give a rip what others think about me. Honestly.">>>"My post...was directed at a specific behavior, not at you in general.">>>"Caleb's always hurting. Caleb's always down. Caleb's always taking... It's time for Caleb... It's time for people to stop mollycoddling Caleb..."
Quote:I find it absolutely HILARIOUS that you are calling me a friggin RACIST? because I called you MASSA? get the heck over it! I was PISSED! So you got pissed off and said something out of line and its ok. But when I get pissed off and start cursing, its not ok? You're the queen of double standards. 'We don't have the right to kill anyone... except him, him and him!'
oh, I'm sorry.
Oh shut up! I'll never ask you for an apology, ever!
Its liek I'm not even here...for gods sake people, i dont know why i am bothering,i shouldn't have to tell you this, all of you being here proves my point, nobodies perfect, we're all fucked up, some more than others, but theres no one here who isnt damaged in their own way. The welcome mesage to the community says "...keep in mind that tolerance of other opinions, viewpoints, and lifestyles is what A2A is all about." this whole thread is about a thousand strikes agaisnt us and that message of acceptance, grow up, forgive people, and I'm not gonna bother telling you all again, your all acting very immature, and that is from a 17 year old. You make me sad, all of you.
Good point. Also, I would point out it's weird that anyone would throw out his or her professionalism in a post/thread that would require a person to use what he or she has learned. Either you are a therapist or you're not. With me, I can't decide when I'm a reporter and when I'm not. I'm always on; I'm always a reporter. I would think if anyone who has a counseling background would go into counseling mode when giving advice.
THANK YOU! I am trying to stop this stupid ass argument and people just whiz right over my posts, INFURIATING! No good deed ever goes unpunished though
So, why are you wasting your time?
I'm a people person, thats like asking why Al Gore bothers trying to save the enviroment. If you would rather board members verbaly assault other members and slander them, well then hell, who am I to argue with the establishment? sorry for trying to help, aparently thats all I'm doing here anyway, wasting my time, not like you are all gonna listen to me.
Quote:If you would rather board members verbaly assault other members and slander them, well then hell, who am I to argue with the establishment? If people want to stop arguing on here, they aren't going to get that inspiration from you; they will make that decision for themselves.But, who am I to argue with you? You have a right to try, in vain of course, to stop the arguing.
I'm sorry that my cursing offends and hurts you. I shall try to limit my use of vulgar language, and for starters, I have removed all curse words from my following response to you:I you lollipop.Just doesn't have the same zing, does it?
wow, arent you a "Glass half full"kinda girl...
Do I contradict myself?Very well then, I contradict myself.I am large.I contain multitutes! --Walt Whitman
The problem is damien what was said was, apparently, hurtful, to whom it was said, and beyond that offended a good number of people here regardless the intent behind it. Personally, I really don't believe you had any ill intent. However, I have to step back and think about all your other posts because when I read that it sounds so incredibly shallow and cold. As I said, I don't believe it was meant that way, with the exception of what pink added, but that's the way it came off.Something we all need to keep in mind, myself included, is that when people here post their negative feelings or lash out here because of those feeling (something I really didn't see all that much in CR with regard to the lashing out part) it's a method of dealing with those feelings. It's far better to lash out here than in real life. Here others simply don't have to read it if they don't want to. That doesn't mean we have to roll over at every attack, it simply means we respond with a little empathy. Such expressions of pain in real life, while still occasionally necessary for one's own mental health, are generally far more destructive.Putting all that aside, the end result may be that a young man, with a lot of pain, feels he has lost a place to express that pain and deal with it, only time will tell. That really angers me and I'm having a hard time trying to stay objective about it. So if I seem to be being overly critical, I apologize.Something you said in one of your posts reminded me of something granny told me one time. You said something to the effect of "I care what your feeling, right now." Well, as granny would have said, "It's to late now. You needed to care back there." Perhaps this is a lesson to us all in how we choose our words.As I said before, I don't believe you had any ill intent, perhaps a laps in judgement with regard to the words you selected, but not ill intent. I'm sorry if it seems I'm attacking you, but I'm incredibly angry about this. Yes, angry with you to a good degree, but far more so at a situation that can't be undone. A bell that can't be unrung.
I agree about hind sight being 20/20...I also agree, that those who defend hardest are the ones who know the bulk of the story. Damien was only reacting to what he saw. Caleb is reacting from his experiences, which very few of us TRULY know. And even those of us who know, can only barely understand.IN therapy sessions, Damien has the opportunity to read body language, to hear the "dirty laundry being aired"...Here he didn't.I REALLY don't want to say that I am defending ANYONE! Yet, Damien reacted to what he could know...Caleb, reacted from a place of healing, talking to him (not so much recently) I know Caleb has come a LONG WAY!!! Yeah it hurt. I feel for him. Just, I guess I can't get mad at either of them...I wish everyone else could understand...Both these guys are from different backgrounds, with different things to offer, and those differences are what makes the world go round...It would be like me hearing that a tornado is coming, when my experience is with a dust devil sucking up just my garbage can...I wouldn't know what to do, but would you call me an idiot for not knowing what a tornado was?
Don't you mean "glass half-empty?"
P.S.--I'm a woman, not a girl. :grin: