you could say she enjoys pleasuring me she just doesn't really enjoy the action of how she does it. you have to remember she's only 16 and probably not mature enough for a full-blown sexual relationship anyways. She probably doesn't understand that she's not giving a blowjob to me, She's giving it for me. I believe that she's thinking that if she does something to me then i'm being selfish not doing anything to her. I'm taking a guess saying that. I guess i'll try to talk to her on the phone tonight. In person i wouldn't get the privacy to do it since we only see each other in school. i don't have a car yet to go out someplace with her on weekdays. anyways, my question is, would a girl feel satisfied if all she did was give a guy a blowjob? I guess i have to feel for her too. If i was giving her a blowjob all the time and didn't get anything myself i'd be angry. But then again the position might be different for a girl. Their mindset is very different on the situation. Also, the way they orgasm is completely different. yea girls climax too but blowing your load and having to stop and wait 30 minutes or being able to go 5 hours orgasming multiple times is very different in my opinion. I do not want to give oral sex by the way. not at all. I'm thinking that maybe because of that she won't want to give me oral. I'd much rather receive than give. eww.
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thanks for the helpcan you accept other peoples sexual opinions? that's what these forums are about, right?"Dude, I don't get you at all. I feel sorry for the poor girl that's having to suck your cock! Think about it, she smokes your pole, you shoot goo. Eeewww for her. If all you do is lick her clitoris and GIVE HER PLEASURE, how is that "eww"?"have you read a single post in this thread besides that last one? if not i suggest you do...
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Originally Posted By: Decius08
you have to remember she's only 16 and probably not mature enough for a full-blown sexual relationship anyways.
Then why do you encourage it? Stop letting her in your pants.Originally Posted By: Decius08
anyways, my question is, would a girl feel satisfied if all she did was give a guy a blowjob?
Lol! Didn't you read my last post? Hell yeah I'm satisfied. I love my man and all I really want is for him to be happy. And if he's happy then I'm happy. :smile:Originally Posted By: Decius08
I guess i have to feel for her too. If i was giving her a blowjob all the time and didn't get anything myself i'd be angry. But then again the position might be different for a girl. Their mindset is very different on the situation.
Again, it really depends on the status of your relationship. If there's no love or an understanding, then of course there's going to be conflicting feelings. It doesn't matter if you're a guy or girl.Originally Posted By: Decius08
I do not want to give oral sex by the way. not at all. I'm thinking that maybe because of that she won't want to give me oral. I'd much rather receive than give. eww.
Uh oh. She wants you to give you an orgasm while she disregards your feelings and you don't want to return the favor?That's a serious recipe for a breakup.
The both of you need to sit down and have a serious talk about your relationship. Best of luck when you do. In my honest opinion, you guys need to work on being a couple first. Forget about sex, it's not going to work. Right now, I'm seeing a train wreck getting worse.
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Originally Posted By: Decius08
have you read a single post in this thread besides that last one? if not i suggest you do...
I've been reading your posts and not once did you mentioned that you didn't want to give. -
I really like her. I'm just so afraid to confront her on the issues because of the way she'll most likely approach my response. I don't know if either of you have realized but helms and virtual star are giving me two exact opposites in advice.
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Originally Posted By: Decius08I really like her. I'm just so afraid to confront her on the issues because of the way she'll most likely approach my response.That's a clear cut sign telling us that there's not much foundation on your relationship. You shouldn't be afraid to talk to her on how you're feeling. Originally Posted By: Decius08I don't know if either of you have realized but helms and virtual star are giving me two exact opposites in advice. It would be nice if you elaborate.
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Well, I finally got the balls to talk to her. I actually didn't really address the issue, i sent her a link to this thread and had her read it. We talked after about what she had read and she was telling me about how surprised she was at all of this. She told me she didn't care if i didn't do stuff with her vagina. She wouldn't mind it but it's not really that important. Also, Virtual, We were kinda both right about the blow job thing basically. She said she doesn't like doing it because its strenuous activity for her to do so but, she likes to make me feel pleasured and happy. She's said that she wasn't sure if i actually liked her but last night she told me "you must really like me if you're discussing me on a forum". That made me feel good. I was talking to her on the phone last night (when we discussed it) and i was feeling really depressed about everything. When she came into school this morning she gave me a list of things she liked about me. It was really cute in my opinion and i liked it. I woulda felt like a jackass if i didn't write one back so i did. I had about 6 less examples though but i was writing that instead of paying attention in my physics class.I'm feeling a lot better about us now. you guys were right about talking to her. Thanks for everyones help. I probably won't be on these forums as much maybe not at all until i need advice with a problem again. I'm just not good at giving advice. especially sexual and relationship advice. again, thanks...Helms sorry for the attitude there.
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Originally Posted By: Decius08When she came into school this morning she gave me a list of things she liked about me. It was really cute in my opinion and i liked it. I woulda felt like a jackass if i didn't write one back so i did. I had about 6 less examples though but i was writing that instead of paying attention in my physics class.NICE! '-')bThat's a great idea. I should keep that one in mind. But I'm really glad that you guys are now on good track. Best of luck to the both of you!Peace, love, and donuts!