Right. So I'm a virgin in every sense of the word, and I don't plan on having sex any time in the near future...it's just not on the agenda. The thing is, I'd like to branch out and explore a little more when it comes to masturbation (everything is clitoral at the moment) but my hymen is being a big, fat, meany about it.I honestly don't understand how people can make such a little deal about breaking their hymens. I mean, when I try anything wider then the breadth of two fingers it is horribly painful.I'm getting a little worried, as I've heard stories about women who've had to have their hymens surgically broken. I'm just not sure I'd have the stones to do something like that. Not to mention when the sex thing does come into play, how embarrassing would it be to have to stop right at the good part because...'oh, my vagina doesn’t seem to agree with your cock'.Anyway...-Is this at all normal?-Did you have problems when it came to popping the cherry?-Any suggestions I might find helpful?Thanks a bunch!
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My Hymen Hates Me :(
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I would say don't worry about it until you want to have sex, then use plenty of lube (your own or ky) and tell him to go slow. I have popped 3 girls cherries and only one of them had a hymen that was thick but still it worked out fine tho she couldnt have sex for a few days after. I think if I was a girl Id rather have a penis break the hymen than a doctor but Im not.
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I doubt the stories you heard about the doctors are true. The hymen is a mucous membrane. It's not THAT hard to stretch it out.It's becoming more common that girls stretch or break their hymen from doing simple activites, like sport, exercise, using a tampon, or even masturbation. I personally used tampons before I was having sex and when I did, I didn't bleed nor did it hurt.So, I wonder if it's really your hymen that's the problem or it could be how you're masturbating. Have you checked to see if your hymen is fully intact or covering your vagina?I suggest you start slow. Continue to use your fingers first and use plenty of lube. Once your body starts becoming comfortable, try to use two. I wouldn't recommend using anything bigger than your fingers if it hurts.To willy7187: Originally Posted By: willy7187I think if I was a girl Id rather have a penis break the hymen than a doctor but Im not. Uh, yeah, if you were a girl you would NOT be saying that. Unless you're a glutton for pain.I would never suggest to wait until sex. With lack of experience, there's a chance something can go wrong. Maybe he'll use too much force, break the hymen, causing her to bleed and be in pain.Perhaps someone could enlighten me on why do some guys hold such high regard to "popping the cherry"? I mean, don't they know the hymen doesn't have anything to do with virginity or that any kind of "breaking" down there hurts like a mother fucker?
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I took one girls virginity, I felt like shit about it.I've found that guys who do, tend to lack confidence with more experienced women. A girl who has ONLY that one sex partner is likely to be VERY pleased no matter what he does; that's a great ego booster; but over-all it makes a guy pretty weak as a lover.
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my last gf was a virgin and i was her first and after ran to the oldest girl i could find (am now dating a girl 3 yrs older then me. i did not want to deal with the whole thing again just flat out too much hassle. when i tried to break hers the first time we had to stop cause the idea kept making me lose the boner. in response to hawker it is a great ego booster up to the sex then you see the girl in pain and its just like.......fuck........
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Well my ex was hardly in pain; I'm a pretty passionate (and caring) lover, I made sure she was WELL turned on (About an hour of foreplay, if I recall, so she was ready to go; she was pretty tight, 2 fingers was pretty much what she liked, 3 was hard to do) and I slowly entered her making sure was okay. Other than a look of surprise at the moment of entry, it was all good.