Plz read..i need some help

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mkay....i have been on lutera bc pills for the past year almost...they made my pms and cramping way worse, but i only just switched to a different type last month right after my last period...i switched to desogen....my boyfriend and i have been together in a monogamus relationship for 2 years as of yeasterday...we generally always use a condom when we have sex, but halloween was the first day of my inactive week and since our anniversary was a couple days away we desided not to use one, one reason being that i have been takeing my pills at the exact same time daily for quite some time, and figured that i was almost on my period anyways so the likelyhood of ovulation was low. so we had sex twice that day without a condom...the next day i desided to take plan b (the morning after pill) just to be on the safe side because i hadent started my period yet. i took the second dose as instructed 12 hours later. then we didnt have sex again untill last night (our 2 year anniversary), again without a condom...tonight will be day 4 of my inactive week and still no period...im starting to feel a little crampy...so i think im probably going to be starting my period soon...but i have to admit im a wee bit nervious at the fact that im 4days late....considering that i usually start on day 1 or 2 of the inactive section or durring the last couple days of week 3 of my active section of my pack...(im trying really hard not to freak myself out...cuz i know that stress can delay your period)takeing into consideration that i took plan b a couple days ago, i just started a new type of bc pills, and iv been under stress lately...im sure that these things could certainly delay my period...but i would like to know what my likelyhood of pregnancy is...if i was pregnant, it wouldent be like the end of the world but it would really really really be best if that didnt happen right now...considering in not done with school yet.i would really apreseate your honest oppinons...but please i dont want lectures about useing condoms....or postes trying to scare me...thanks :),Curious

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the next day i desided to take plan b (the morning after pill) just to be on the safe side because i hadent started my period yet
You're REALLY fucking up your system with taking so much hormones. You're taking birth control pills in order to not get pregnant. That's how they work, so I still don't why understand you're taking more pills.

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tonight will be day 4 of my inactive week and still no period...im starting to feel a little crampy...so i think im probably going to be starting my period soon...but i have to admit im a wee bit nervious at the fact that im 4days late....considering that i usually start on day 1 or 2 of the inactive section or durring the last couple days of week 3 of my active section of my pack...(im trying really hard not to freak myself out...cuz i know that stress can delay your period)
It's because you're switching pills AND taking EC pills. Like I said, you're screwing up your cycles.

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but i would like to know what my likelyhood of pregnancy is...
My guess you're not, but know one can know for sure because you're messing up your cycles.

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i would really apreseate your honest oppinons...but please i dont want lectures about useing condoms....or postes trying to scare me...

Sorry, no. I'm going to tell you my honest opinion because I'm crazy that way.

I've noticed this isn't the first post you made about having sex without a condom and you're always asking if you're pregnant. You're a smart girl but I'm very suprised you made ANOTHER one.

Honey, if you're always freaking out about being pregnant, even with taking so much pills, I'm going to give you two options:

1. START USING CONDOMS!!!

or

2. STOP HAVING SEX UNTIL YOU'RE READY!

Understand that taking so much pills into your system is NOT a game and it could cause you to have serious problems. Please, you need to get your act together.

i apreseate the fact that people are trying to help, but seriosly virtual_star...i think its really screwed up of you to give lectures...especially when asked not to...the only thing that can accomplish is makeing people stop asking...and where would that lead us, people being afraid to ask on afraidtoask.com???...because they are worried that someone like you or you....will lecture them....people come here to ask questions that they need/ just want advise on...i ask thinks here that i dont want to ask anywhere else because people will try to shove their opinions down my throught...if my posts bother you so much dont read them.....and  Quote: 2) STOP HAVING SEX UNTIL YOU'RE READY!For the record....i am ready for sex...just not for a baby...a hole hell of a lot of poeple are in the same situation, sex isnt just for the purpose of procreation....it is also a form of intimacy....and its not for you to deside when you think someone is ready....  Quote: even with taking so much pills, I'm going to give you two options:1) START USING CONDOMS!!!or 2) STOP HAVING SEX UNTIL YOU'RE READY!Understand that taking so much pills into your system is NOT a game and it could cause you to have serious problems. Please, you need to get your act together. first who are you to dictate what my options are?secondly....i called my dr and asked if it would be alright to take plan b in conjunction with the desogen.....and she told me that it wouldent hurt me or my uterus....so i dont like the insinuation that i am running around poping pills and completly screwing myself over...i havent taken plan b for a LONG TIME before this week...i have only ever taken it three times...ever...it seems to me that you think im running around with a pocket full and takeing a few every couple hours...which i trully not the case.... i know that its harsh on ones system...but i was told that it was ok...everything iv taken has been under a doctors supervision.....and until i see your doctoral degree in obstetrics...her advise on plan b trumps yoursalot of people get worried that they are pregnant...thats where the term "pregnancy scare" comes from...honestly what my fear comes from is not the being pregnant, haveing a baby, telling my family or nething like...what im thinking about is how are we (my boyfriend and i) going be able to support this child the way it deserves when we are freshmen in college....trust me...there is nothing id rather do than be a mother...but with that i realize the finantial responsibility....i just dont want to have kids untill i can provide a life for them that i know they deserve....i realize that you are probably just trying to help me...but seriously i think you need to rethink your methods....what will makeing people afraid to ask accomplish?

I realize I might be replying to a ghost post since you're rarely on. But I'll reply for my own peace of mind. Quote:i think its really screwed up of you to give lectures...especially when asked not to.Sorry, but I don't believe in that. To me, that's a typical response a teenager would say. A teen does something wrong and they ask "Please don't tell me how I was wrong". They only want to hear what they want to hear. How are they supposed to learn how to not repeat their mistakes if they refuse to listen? That's basically what you're telling me when you said that.Sometimes, people need to hear the truth without the sugarcoating. They need to know the facts for THEIR OWN sake, even if they don't like it.To me, I find it illogical that if a person (not you in particular) comes here, and asks "I think I might be pregnant and no we didn't use a condom. Please help!", what am I supposed to say? There are no magic words to say that will help her situation. I will flat-out say she was foolish in not using protection and hopefully they'll learn better.Trust me, you're not the first person I gave "lectures" to, so it's nothing personal. I'm sure you and others will still disagree and perhaps I'll get a lecture for giving lectures. But I still don't see how people, who ask not to get on their case when it's obvious what they've done is wrong, and ask for words to make them feel better and not learn anything. Quote:i ask thinks here that i dont want to ask anywhere else because people will try to shove their opinions down my throughtSo, what's the point in asking anyone? How do you expect to get help if you don't want to hear it? That in itself makes no sense. Quote:For the record....i am ready for sex...just not for a baby...a hole hell of a lot of poeple are in the same situation, sex isnt just for the purpose of procreation....it is also a form of intimacy....and its not for you to deside when you think someone is ready....You misunderstood me. I meant MENTALLY ready. Sex is more than physical. Half of it is mental as well.If every time you have sex and are going to freak yourself out on how you think you might be pregnant, then you're simply not ready, period. You're adding unnecessary stress in your life and the same goes for your partner. Doesn't sound intimate, does it?Honey, I'm glad you're in love. But you have to be smart AND responsible. If you feel like the pill isn't enough, then use a condom. They're cheap, easy to use, and effective. If you refuse for whatever "reason", then stop having sex. It's THAT simple. Quote:first who are you to dictate what my options are?Because that's how I see it. If you have a better option, please share. Quote:and until i see your doctoral degree in obstetrics...her advise on plan b trumps yoursI hope for your sake she's right. Quote:i realize that you are probably just trying to help me...but seriously i think you need to rethink your methods....what will makeing people afraid to ask accomplish? I'm SO glad you asked this in the end.You wanna know the beauty of A2A? You can either take the advice that's given or you can leave it.If you don't like what I told you because I told you straight up how it is, then fine. Don't listen to me. I really don't give a shit, and it's not like your life effects mine.I was trying to make you realize the mistake you made so you DON'T repeat them. So YOU don't have to scare yourself. But if I see you again, making another post about how you think you're pregnant and didn't use a condom AGAIN, then I don't know what else to tell you. It'll just prove you're not learning anything.

I also had unprotected sex... spank me!

I promise you, it will hurt.

I'd hope so!

Then bend over and call me daddy!

How did you know that I have a thing for my dad?