OK, so I know i have a problem with writing too much so I'll put the question up front for those who do not want to read the whole story =D what would you do in this situation:u know you're officially over ur ex now, and u really want to be friends with them again because you miss having them in your life just for someone to talk to when bored on walks or whatnot, etc. plus, it was fun hanging out as friends from before, and u know, this time you can actually hang out as friends, no fwb charades or whatever...if they call you to hang out over christmas break, would you? but you have doubts in ur mind that he's calling you to hang out because his other friends from school aren't in town anymore so that's why he might be calling you to hang out, but maybe you could be thinking too much...what would you say or do?----------------------------------------the whole story:alright, so most of you who frequent the board, i think, remember the story about my ex right? we went out for a month, started at the end of the summer, ended around the beginning of sept. tried to hang out after we broke up, didn't work...didn't talk for like almost a month...then we started hanging out again, with me thinking i was over him...well...that turned into a bust...we were kinda using each other b/c we couldn't find anyone else for u know, with me, apparently still liking him, so i guess i wasn't over him as i thought for another two months or so this went on.and just last sunday (about a week ago), i finally ended all contacts with him and everything -- deleted him from my life, i couldn't take it anymore doing that with him. i know i know, u should never mess around with an ex and spend time with him like you're still going out, but i guess i did that maybe in hopes to try and convince him to like me again, but it didn't work...heard the words, "I don't think we're ever going to get back together again." erased him from my life. took me this long, but i finally did it!hella embarrassing story: so apparently, a few days ago on friday, i couldn't sleep and it was about 3:30am, and well, there was no one to talk to at the time. u know how people write their feelings on blogs or journals or whatever? (wrote this with the intentions that the ex would not read my blogs because he hardly ever gets on myspace...and well...the one time i write a blog about him, he actually reads it! lmao. i forgot he could still read my blogs even though we're not friends anymore online or anything, i guess something e-mailed him saying i wrote something)i wrote how i was so miserable with not talking to my ex anymore but it looks like i might have to give up on him, etc. friday evening, my cell rings and his number is on the caller ID since i don't have his name in my phone anymore...and i was thinking, wtf...why the fuck is he calling me after the last time we talked i said we weren't going to talk anymore? so i picked up wondering what the hell it was that he wanted...i said, "hello?" and he said, "how are you feeling?" i was thinking why does it matter to him. and asked him why was he calling me. told me he read my blog...and I COMPLETELY forgot I had written a blog in the first place. and the whole time he was telling me about it, i really didn't know what he was talking about. as a matter of fact, i really forgot what i wrote in the blog until i went back online and checked after he brought it up. yeah, that was kinda embarrassing...how did i get over him,? wow, i've been in this dark stage for months and all it took was for me to have a nice dinner with ALL guy friends i randomly met at the dining hall whom i used to hang out with way back in the day. yep, i was the only girl at their dinner table and it was a bunch of guys from the same dorm, i forgot i used to like to hang out like that =). the funny thing is, i haven't seen these guys in a long time, and i didn't ONCE bring up my current problems, yet, surprisingly, i'm definitely over my ex now. now i am for sureguess i just wanted to say i finally did something good for myself, i suppose. =p but it took me a long time. ok, i hope you enjoyed my masterpiece, lol.
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I finally did it!
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congrats!!! im proud of you!
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thanks :grin: i didn't think it was possible, but now i feel much better.
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ty i just wish i was happy with myself when i was single and not always want to be with someone even though before i had him as a bf, i hadn't had one since like maybe 6 years ago, heh. hopefully some more good will come my way.
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Yeah, hopefully it'll go a lot better. I don't even know when the next time will be to tell you the truth, lol. OK, is there such a thing as, you know your complete emotional attachment to someone is definitely over, but you are still very strongly, physically attracted to that same person? Well, if he and I were to hang out now, I would most likely be able to control that attraction, but just asking is there such a thing? I don't know why I am so physically attracted to my ex. I still question this because he wasn't buff or anything...he's just this tall scrawny dorky white dude and I'm this short asian girl, lol. I had this first bf who was a lot better looking than my most recent ex, but the thought of hugging my first bf didn't fly with me...we hadn't seen each other since 2002, and we randomly met in 2007, and I still found myself not physically attracted to my first bf, but my latest ex, I just for some odd reason am. He thought it was because I was horny all the time around him, but technically wasn't it, I was just really attracted to him, I dunno if anyone gets what I'm saying.
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You're definitely right. I guess the only thing I can do now IS chill to get rid of the physical attraction. In all honesty, my ex is the first guy ever to just make me turned on...and all he has to do is be in my presence. I have these dreams and day dreams that won't go away about f'in the shit out of him, lmao...yeah, it's that bad. The funny thing is, I haven't seen him since like a week and a half ago, but it's best if we don't hang out, too.Seriously, he doesn't have to do anything to make me turned on, just hanging out with me, I already am, haha. No one else has done that to me besides him. I don't get this at all. Do you?