Well, this is interesting, that I come back after 2 years completely different. Not really essential to the question at hand though.I'm in college now.My girlfriend and I have been together for a pretty good while now. We've settled into our routine, we're happy, care for one another, help one another, etc.... We spend a lot of time together (especially in groups of friends) and just generally have a good time together. We're active (socially, academically, and sexually) and, all in all, I can't get much more in tune with someone. Even in our 'ruts' I'm happy. We have an apartment off campus together, share our finances, study together, etc, and it's been like this for six months now. That really doesn't have much to do with what my question is, but I think it might? I dunno. Anyway, moving on.I have found that over time, it seems like my attraction to her physically varies (never negatively, if that's what you're thinking) Sometimes I can look at her, smile and move on with whatever I'm doing. Sometimes I feel the urge to spontaneously kiss her. Sometimes I tackle her. (And boy does she love it) The question I have is, why do I just seem to be more attracted to her some days more than others. For example, a week ago, I was perfectly content with kissing her when I saw her (mainly a minimum for me) and going about my business. Today, I made it a very specific point to pick her up out of the chair (she hates being picked up [afraid of falling], but loves it the same), lay her on the bed, kiss her very nicely, hug her tight, and kiss her some more. (sadly, no things didn't proceed this time, she had studying to do for a Chem test) Even when she went back to the chair I felt compelled to come up behind her, hug her softly, and kiss her cheek.Why do I do that?I've tried to see if there's a pattern, and I'm not totally sure, but it seems like I'm least attracted to her during her period (probably because that's sorta nasty), and most attracted to her the day she's done (I would assume because of the prospects it brings).Any ideas? I'm not really concerned about anything, it just seemed strange to me. She sure doesn't seem to mind.
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Not Necessarily Bad
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Hey, welcome back!Perhaps it's fluctuations in hormone levels, perhaps it's just different feelings. It's good not to be exactly the same all the time.
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Quote:It's good not to be exactly the same all the time.I agree. Quote:Perhaps it's fluctuations in hormone levels, perhaps it's just different feelings. I have no idea. It's been like this for a while and I notice it a lot(I have no idea if she notices.) IT doesn't really bother me, just seemed..strange to me I guess. So much variation.
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It sounds normal to me. Attraction and arousal are dynamic and have a lot of mitigating factors.Unlike you, I'm most attracted to my wife when the week of her period starts, like the Sunday and Monday of the week of no fun. So, Scotty don't get nun when he wants it most. Luckily though, soap is a whore and always there.
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Originally Posted By: OldFolks Luckily though, soap is a whore and always there. hahaha, that's the best
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maybe its a confort level..Ive known my fiancee for along while and her and I are busy..wether it's school or work..and sometimes we just briefly talk..and sometimes..i can't keepmy hands off her..I think it has to do with the fact that you two are comfortable with each other..that you know you can be "spontenous" or just really laid back and she loves you either way..when shes in the kitchen..she hates that i bother her..but i still grab her form behind and kiss her and hug her..till she says "hoeny, let me cook"..and we laugh and kiss and goof around...I found from my friends that are married or have girlfriends that we go through the same thing...so buddy..I think you're good..no worries.as far as the soap...lol...the mornig sessions in the shower help me through the day in the week of "no touchie..no feely"..lol.