What are ways of getting "closer" to a girl once you've both established the fact that both of you like each other? Note: We haven't declared ourselves as a couple, but we love each other to death.For example, what kind of things can I talk about when she's sitting on my lap, or we're cuddling up on a couch (no sex)? After getting her full attention, what kind of things can I whisper in her ears when we're alone? She's my first gf-to-be, I don't have too much experience and that's why I'm asking.
Getting Intimate with a girl (PLEASE help)
I'm 14 and just going through a lot of this myself with my very first gf, and it's soooooo exciting!!!Have you lightly kissed her ears??? The first time I did that to my gf she went crazy!!! Then she did it to me! Wow!!!So that's ONE thing I'd try..........
Yeah, ears seem to be a pretty good way to turn most girls on. In order to get anywhere though you just have to test the waters. Maybe you could start by kissing her lightly on the neck, if she allows it then move in for a kiss on the lips. A less direct method is to hug her from behind whenever you can, although your not face to face, this type of hug is much more intimate. Another method that seems to work is just to ask her out. Tell her that you are interested in her and that you would love to become more intimate.
Sorry just wanted to clear a few things up. She's ISN'T my girl.. yet. I met her a few days back and we like each other a lot. I lip-kissed her once, and that was it. By the way of intimacy, we're really not too intimate at all.
What I HAVE done with her:
Gotten to know her
Established the fact that we both like each other
What I HAVEN'T done:
Haven't hung out with her/dated her (but we have spent time together)
To sum it up, we're not dating yet, but we do like each other a lot.
After how many dates should I tounge kiss her? We're both in our late teens btw.
This is gonna sound kinda dorky, but when I was in 7th grade one of my techers recommended we all read "How to Win Friends and Influence People". It's a real old book but it has been updated. I read it because, basically, I felt I was pretty much a dork aldready and I wanted people to like me better. The book taught me that (1) people like genuine compliments, (2) people LOVE to talk about themselves, and (3) people love it when you take the time to learn stuff about them. So when me and this girl were starting to like each other, I asked her to tell me about her famly, tell me about the things she liked to do as a little girl growing up, I told her how pretty I thought she was and that her blue eyes "really turned me on" (I said it just like that). I don't criticize her or tell her things I don't like about her, or stuff like that. I'm only 14 and I don't have a lot of experience with relationships, but I think that book was right. People love to talk about THEMSELVES.
Hey Spot,Scott is right. All that smooth BS you hear about the sweet whispers, and all the fancy tricks...They are actually about connecting. Listen to what she likes, and be honest with her.If she's sitting in your lap - she likes you. It's not a scam. You are doing the right thing, and she likes it. Just relax, and keep up what you are doing. Something is right, right? There is NO big secret. Except that you like each other. Enjoy it!
Next time she is sitting on your lap wrap your arms around her mid section and pull her closer to you, girls love this.