I have no "best friends"

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I have NO decent friends.

I realized this tonight seeing as I wasn't invited anywhere and all my friends are over some kid's house with girls and never thought to invite or at least even call me. I'm so pissed off right now.

Here's my story. I moved in May of this year into a new town. I had trouble making friends with kids in my own grade, so since one of my classes was a grade below I tried my luck there. Turns out, I made friends with 3 pretty cool kids. I hung with them basically everyday this summer and we had some awesome times. They aren't as mature as me and they tend to be very stupid. Like not getting in trouble stupid but just not thinking to invite you along stupid. So this brings me to today. I had two hockey tournament games one at 10 and one at 4. I figured tonight would be awesome I'd take a shower and call some people and hang. Well, I took a shower. I called my so called "best friend" Matt. His dad picked up and told him he was sleeping over Eddie (my other "best friends" house). Mind you neither had called today. So I call up Eddie (at this point I was somewhat pissed). No answer on his cell or his home phone. So I wait awhile and then call back. Finally after 3 or so tries he picks up. I'm like "hey where are you?" he's like "Oh, I'm over Ben's house with Brooke, Matt, Lorrin, Ben, Nick, and Ryan." I hear Matt in the background like "Is that Derek? Tell him we're busy." Keeping my cool, I say "Oh, so is Matt sleeping over your house?". He responds, "Yeah, well I gotta go see ya." I'm like "ok bye". The second he hung up I fucking slammed the phone off the wall. I was so fucking pissed. It's like what the fuck, it doesn't even come to him to think hey maybe derek would like to come along and hang with you. Why else would I call him? So here I am, it's friday night and I have nothing to do. Every other teen is at the movies or out somewhere and I'm stuck home alone bored.

I hate these kids so fucking much. I wonder why I even hang with them. It's mainly that I have no one else. But they just aggravate me everyday.

I don't really know what exactly I want from you guys. But have any of you experienced the same thing. I mean I'm 14 and I have NO best friend. I'm not a geek either. I play a lot of sports and are very good at most of them. I just plain don't get it.

But have any of you experienced the same thingI've experienced something like that my whole life, so yes, I know what you're feeling. I never got pissed like you say you are because everytime it happened to me I just thought "Another failed attempt at trying to make friends".That's all I'm going to say about me since you don't want to end up like me right now. All I can tell is you keep trying, try to find some other friends. Those kids obviously aren't your eral friends if you heard your "best friend" say "Is that Derek? Tell him we're busy". That's fucked up, and you obviously know it.Fuck them. They don't need you, and you don't need them. There are tons of other people out in the world, jsut waiting to meet someone like you.

I used to be a bit like this, too, not getting invited to things and no "real best friend." But I think my situation is different than yours, and I don't know what I can think to say that could help you, but here goes.I didn't have a real best friend because, I just don't know, no one was ever so close or compatible to be that I would consider someone an important title as "best friend." But people my age (I'm about the same age as you are, give or take) tend to throw that title around to everyone of their friends, which I find really stupid. Everyday I hear, "I LOVE him!" No you don't. The relationship is going to end in like two months. Shut up Anyway, getting to the point. I found the reason I wasn't getting invited to much was because I originally wasn't a very outgoing person and people didn't think of me as a close enough friend to invite things to. So I invited them to certain things, and I got invites back. I'm still working on it, but I did get invited to a Halloween Party from a friend who is extra-nice, I just invited my friends to a Thanksgiving thing, my friend invited me to her ice-skating birthday celebration, and my other best friend invited me to a dinner or party or something for her birthday. Just try inviting friends you find good enough to invite, and those friends will invite you back, sooner or later. If they don't, when then, I take back everything I said and agree with StillSearching.

Like Helms said, what about trying to hang out with people from your team?I know just how you feel. My friends almost never invite me to hang out with them. One time they were hanging out and my friend got in a wreck and they went to see her when she got home from the hospital. They never bothered to call me, even though they know she and I spend more time together than they do and that I would definately want to know about something like that. I've tried getting everyone together before, but they always refuse my offers. They hang out all the time and they never call me. It really aggravates me and it has put me in some deep depressions in the past. There is something that I've noticed, though- they tend to make plans to do things when they're all together. As in, your friends might have been hanging out while you were at hockey and they didn't know when you were going to be done so they didn't want to bother with calling you if you might not even pick up. It's typical teenage laziness. If you don't want to be around them, then try to make friends with other classmates or teammates and try to get in on their get-togethers.

yo dis happened to me and ma best friend at once deres these guys and 1 girl, da girl said she call us at 2:30 we waited until 4 no call so we went out to see if one of the guys were home his dad said there at the skate park so me and ma best friend we walk to the skate park to see everyone there and the girl comes up to us and says i lost your numbers. me and him r like fuck you the only reason were staying is because we found someone there that we chill with (o ya when we walked up there faceing chaged like o fuck). and they all had a gay reason y they couldn't get us

also yester day me and ma best friend again r hanging out this girl said she call us to come chill with me and him so we waited til about 7 she said she would call at 5 or 6
at 7 we went to some kids house ands chill there ( the kid knows the girl too) we asked have you talked to her he said ya like 30min ago she wanted to no if i wanted to come chill with her and her friend were like what the fuck she said she would call ma best friend and come chill with us were like 3 times by the same girl.
once she dicth ma best friend
then me and him
then me and him again
and then me

3 by the same girl

my advice is try and find ppl like a random hi or whats up is a good way or on your sports team alot of my friend s no me from rugby. sports and clubs r good for making friends. just dont be scared to say hi or whats up, or my name is whats yours. chances are if you no one person they will introdcue you to more people and then you will have friends. i am 14 also this all worked for me. just dont be scared make a name for your self and you will have friends dont worry.